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08-11-2009 07:02 PM

Topic tags/keywords: question lathe turning finishing arts and crafts modern

I feel really strange writing this I really don’t like to publicize my personal problems but this one goes way beyond just myself.
Recently about a month ago my dad passed away . My wife and I have been busy getting his things in order,
(he liked collecting cars , boats Etc). We also have to help my mother get her life in order .
On top of that This last Sunday morning I got word that my brother lost his life on Saturday (he left behind his wife and daughter she’s 20). I’m going to make an Urn and picture frame for them , Any ideas and advice are greatly appreciated .

I feel that LJs is my woodworking family and would like to ask for your Prayers for everyone involved in this time of need .

I’m going to forward all responses and prayers to my sister and daughter in-law so they know their not alone and to show them that we care.

Thank you for all your support
RJ / Ron Gall

-- Rj's Woodworks,San Jose & Weed Ca,

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#1 posted 08-11-2009 07:32 PM

Ron, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father and brother in such a short time spam. I will be praying that you and your family will feel God’s presence in a special way and will provide the strength and wisdom needed to get through this.

Feel free to PM me if you have any special requests or needs that I might help you with.

-- Joe

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#2 posted 08-11-2009 07:38 PM

My deepest condolences on your loss. I can’t imagine how difficult it is to lose two people in your life so close together. Please let your family know that I’m thinking of them.

As far as the picture frame goes, it’s going to come down to the stile you’re looking for. If it’s a more traditional frame, those are pretty simple, mitered corners and so forth. You could do a simple mitered frame with a wood “mat” inside. I’ve done this a few times and the come out real nice. You make the outer frame like you would any typical picture frame, to go inside that I cut a piece of half inch birch ply that I’d put a nice veneer on (if you want to cut 4 pieces with 45 degree ends to look like they are mitered, that’s an option). In the plywood I cut the rabbet for the glass and picture. I hope that gives you an idea to start with.

I can’t give much advice on turning an urn, I’ve not tried to do a hollow vessel before. However, if you don’t know about it already, has some great projects, including hollow vessels and urns (one in particular about how to use a PVC threaded cap fitting to close your urn.

Good luck.

-- "At its best, life is completely unpredictable." - Christopher Walken

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#3 posted 08-11-2009 08:00 PM

You all have my prayers and best wishes….........Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans… sad…......................

-- mtnwild (Jack), It's not what you see, it's how you see it.

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#4 posted 08-11-2009 08:50 PM

i am so sorry to hear about you loss. I wish I had some magic words to make the hurt go away. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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#5 posted 08-11-2009 09:08 PM

Ron ,,, We just spoke the other day on the phone about you losing your dad and i know how you felt about that,and we even was talking about your brother and how far he lived from you and your mom.I can only image how you are feeling..You all have my prayers and thoughts.Hope you know you can call me anytime if you need someone to talk to.
Best regards
Ron Fritz

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#6 posted 08-11-2009 09:28 PM

so sorry for your ( and your family’s ) loss .
i’m still dealing with my brothers loss .

my prayers to you all .

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#7 posted 08-11-2009 09:48 PM

Ron, my deepest condolences.. I had a simlar situation last year in my family. Losing my father in May and my brother (age 50) in November. My father was 83 so it was his time to go and having to deal with his death was easier than my brother of which I still can’t get over. I hope someday when we meet again I’ll understand why he had to go so young, but until then we will just pray that he is at peace and in the loving hands of the lord. I hope the same for your brother and father.

Best wishes and prayers to you and your family.


-- Joe Massanova, Somerdale, NJ -

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#8 posted 08-11-2009 09:51 PM

I am sorry for your loss Rj…these are clearly tough times for you and your family…


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#9 posted 08-11-2009 10:10 PM

My deepest condolences to you and your family. We’ll be putting you and your family in our prayers.

-- Karen - a little bit of stupid goes a long way

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#10 posted 08-11-2009 10:16 PM

We have a saying in Scotland
I hope you are able to overcome this tragic time in your life and my wife and I send you Love from Scotland you deserve all you can get in that direction depply felt condolences and KIndest regards Alistair

-- excuse my typing as I have a form of parkinsons disease

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#11 posted 08-11-2009 10:27 PM

Ron, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and the family. I think I sent you a prayer my only daugther sent me when she lost her first baby recently. I felt it was her way of letting me know she was going to be alright. It might be nice to send it to your brothers family.

God Bless

-- Mc Bridge Cabinets, Iowa

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#12 posted 08-11-2009 10:36 PM

We’re here for you Ron. And if I may offer one piece of advice for you on talking with your mother and brother’s wife and kids, say the same. I’m here for you. I’ve had to deal with loss in the past as well. That was really the only thing I wanted to hear if anything.

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#13 posted 08-11-2009 10:46 PM

I too feel your sence of loss. I will be praying for you and your family to get through this awful time. I have no great words of wisdom but just know that we care and that you will get through this. Our prayers to you and yours.


-- Chuck Emery, Michigan,

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#14 posted 08-12-2009 02:04 AM

I want to Thank Everyone for keeping us in there thoughts and prayers it means more than words can express .

Thank you & God Bless
Rj/Ron Gall

-- Rj's Woodworks,San Jose & Weed Ca,

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#15 posted 08-12-2009 02:10 AM

I can only guess the feelings of losing your Dad and then your brother so quickly. Our prayers are with you and your family.

God Bless

-- Jerry--A man can never have enough tools or clamps

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