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Forum topic by sawdust703 posted 02-06-2015 04:33 AM 842 views 0 times favorited 12 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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sawdust703

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02-06-2015 04:33 AM

My beautiful bride has been having some serious health issues lately, and at this point, all we are getting is guesses, & bad news. Today we received a phone call from our Doctors office with even more bad news. My wife had a sonogram done earlier in the week of her carotid arteries. The results came back with blockages of over 50% in both sides. My heart sank. Being a woodworker, after spending time with Mary Ann, & absorbing all this, I went to the shop, sit down at the scroll saw, & began workin’ at the project on my saw. Now, being an old truck driver, I used to handle this kind of news runnin’ down the road, & thinkin’ it over. Now I go to the shop, sit down at the scroll saw, or get patterns ready for the saw, sand, anything to keep my mind busy. As a rule, this type of news doesn’t slow me down much, simply because I try to stay strong for the family. But this one has me worried. My Bride & I have weathered some pretty ugly storms in our nearly 30 years of marriage, a lot of those storms I was on the road when the worst started. But we always managed to get through them. I guess, folks, my question to all of you is what do you do when you’re hit with news like this? Neither of us have much close family, its just her & I. I, like I said, have my shop, she has a jewelry Making hobby. Maybe this isn’t something that is an appropriate topic for this site, but, this is my main “hang out”, if you will, so, I thought I would come here first!! Thank you in advance for your answers & time, boys!! I certainly do appreciate all the friends & learning I’ve gotten from this site. I hope to continue with that. Enjoy the evening.

-- Sawdust703


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FUBARed11

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#1 posted 02-06-2015 11:34 PM

Fight, through Pro-Activity.

Let me explain,
I’m young and by no means have had a personal medical issue of this magnitude, but almost all my relatives who have been second fathers to me, or an actual father, have. While not the same I myself have been crippled by a deep denial & deeper depression, which turned into anger issues and eventually an ugly breakdown. After literally wasting years of my 20’s and hitting rock bottom, I’m still pulling myself out and have learned so much sh!t the hard way that it changed my mind forever. Since “WAKING UP” I spent a year learning (6 months in person) from millionaires about mindset. What’s that got to do with medical issues, nothing, what-so-ever. But it’s not about A Particular issue, it’s how you face & deal with Every issue.

I’ve learned to disconnect emotions from any equation and look at the only things that are going to make a difference, cause and effect facts. And the only way to beat anything is to take action. if you stick your head in the sand and just hope things work out, you wind up in a much worse place with tons of “shoulda, coulda, woulda”regret.

Not everyone can be as cold and heartless or disconnected as I am, and why would you want to be, but the point is: you gotta break it down and look at it strategically like pawns on a battlefield.

“This is the situation in front of me- there is no going back, so don’t look back. There is Only taking what I’ve learned so far, and going forwards from Right Here, regardless of what I’ve got to deal with.”
“If I do nothing: X happens”
“If I don’t at least TRY something: I’ve given up, and X definitely happens!
“If I TRY this: Y might happen, if it doesn’t X happens anyway”
“If I TRY Everything I possibly can: Alone some might not work but combined they could increase my chances of a favorable outcome, by _%”

A huge part of the mindset is Health. Plus, it’s one of those things I do without being told by anyone to stack the deck in my favor every way I can for myself and the people I love.

Now, if I could NOT be a robot for a second, Let me say I’m very sorry to hear that you’re going through this, it is the hardest thing in the world without a doubt. And in NO WAY can I possibly imagine what it’s like for you or suggest you’re not doing everything already. I would never insinuate such things. I’m just trying to offer w/e help and perspective I can.

Here are some things I recommend trying, to stack the deck IN YOUR FAVOR. They’re things I’m using with my family and vouch for the results.

1. http://www.shakeology.com/en_US/?code=SEMB_SHK_GOOGLE Good lead up into #2, and you’ll feel/notice a change in 3-4 days.

2. http://www.hulu.com/watch/289122 Miracle cure or “foundation repair”

I’m no naturalist sandle wearing hippy, but I use these things and feel a huge difference. And so does my 60 year old Mother. They heal and right your body, which is literally an overhaul for YOU that can fix something, that helps fix something else, that leads to a greater margin of success and effectiveness of actual medical treatments. Or in the least a better quality of life.

Sure hope this helps and you didn’t take any of it the wrong way.

F.U.B.A.R’ ed

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Rick Bailey

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#2 posted 02-06-2015 11:53 PM

Brad,
I’m sorry to here about your wife and I’m sending prayers and good thoughts your way.
On how to deal with? I do just what you are doing, I keep myself busy.
But please be careful.
All the best,
Rick

-- I'll bulid your dream,you tear it down.

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sawdust703

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#3 posted 02-07-2015 03:52 AM

Thank you Rick. And I certainly will. I appreciate your thoughts, Sir. And you fubard, from a reality stand point, my young fried, I’ve learned a lot of lessons the hard way, too. But, I’m not sticking my head sand here, I’m tryin’ to deal with several issues at once. I’m not afraid of much, and was taught from a young age to face my fears head on. I’ve been doin’ that all my life. One never knows how they’ll handle a situation such as the one I’m in. But I do appreciate your response. Enjoy the evening.

-- Sawdust703

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Rick Bailey

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#4 posted 02-07-2015 04:19 AM

Brad,
My wife is seven years older than me, I’m 54.
we have been together for almost 30 years.
We fight and bitch at each other for almost 30 years. ;-)
And we both agree that we can never be separated no madder what.
I hope you find some kind of calm in the words I’m trying to express.
Because when the time comes when we have to talk about THINGS!
Maybe it will help just a little when they count on us to have to take care of things when they are not around
to kick us in the ass and say GET IT DONE!
I hope this little rant of mine make some scene some how.

I think about what you are going through a lot lately.
Rick

-- I'll bulid your dream,you tear it down.

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sawdust703

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#5 posted 02-07-2015 05:33 AM

Rick, my wife is 18 years older than I am. Yes Sir, that’s a fact. 20 years ago next month, she had the artery behind her heart worked on. It was 95% blocked. In turn, caused her to have 9 heart attacks before they opened her up. The lower part of her heart has all but quit working due the heart attacks. Since that time, she has had 3 stents put in various arteries, & had the rotor rooter, as the heart Dr calls it, thru her body twice to clean arteries. As you can see Mr. Rick, its a constant worry, but like I said, this time has me extremely worried. I appreciate your thoughts & concerns. Your support means a lot to me. Feel free to call anytime. (785)772-7321. Thanks again, Rick.

-- Sawdust703

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#6 posted 02-07-2015 02:50 PM

Brad, I don’t know how I’d handle it. My wife is the glue that holds the union together. I’m stoic. She’s iron.
The way you are coping seems the best. Keep busy and there’s little time to dwell.
Opening up, the way you have, and talking it through, I’m sure is very helpful, too.
Personally, I hope for the very best for you both.
We are all here for you.

-- Gene 'The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.' G. K. Chesterton

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sawdust703

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#7 posted 02-07-2015 06:48 PM

Thank you Mr. Gene, I sincerely appreciate it Sir. My wife wears the pants at our house, & keeps us going. I’ll keep you all updated on the goings on, & what have ya. I appreciate your support. Enjoy the day.

-- Sawdust703

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#8 posted 02-08-2015 04:37 AM

Brad.
Sent you a PM.

-- I'll bulid your dream,you tear it down.

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Ghidrah

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#9 posted 02-08-2015 08:38 PM

Sawdust stay strong, there’re strategies to follow that provide results, from what I’ve read the procedure for clearing carotid arteries is very successful. I have no idea how stressful the operation is or what the convalescent time is but I do know that both of you will need the reassurance only the two of you can provide to each other.

Wifey and I have been down a similar truly scary road more than once for both of us and we still had and have family nearby that seemed to vanish when we could have used some real time moral let alone physical support. If at all possible get it done ASAP, before the initial shock sinks in and causes the mind to paralyze with indecision.

-- I meant to do that!

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sawdust703

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#10 posted 02-09-2015 01:42 AM

Thank you Ghidrah. I appreciate your response. Like you, What I have read about the subject is encouraging, and timely. And also like you, we have come to learn the hard way, that family are the last folks we can look to for moral & strength. We have each other, & a few friends here at home, but that’s it. My reason behind posting here about this was because this site is my “hang out” if you will, & knew I could talk about it with friends here. Thank you again for your support, Sir. Enjoy your evening.

-- Sawdust703

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#11 posted 02-11-2015 03:09 AM

Hey sawdust703,
How about a update?
Maybe let the guys know how your wife is doing? ;-)
We would like to know how you are doing.
Best,
Rick

-- I'll bulid your dream,you tear it down.

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#12 posted 02-11-2015 03:46 AM

ok Mr. Rick, if you insist. We made our appointment to the heart Dr this afternoon. And damn did we get some relieving news!!!! Our heart Dr says that the blockages in Mary Anns’ coratid arteries are not bad enough to do anything with at this time!!! Man what a relief!! He says that he seems to think her problems are bein’ caused from her inner ear. The vertigo? He done a couple tests on her there in the office today, and with her reactions to the tests, he is sure that’s what’s going on. He gave her a light dose of Meclizine to take twice/a day, & next week he wants her to wear a telemetry machine to check the rhythm of her heart. I tell ya, I could of jumped up & hugged that Sawbones, fellas! It is awesome to get some good news for a change!! I really appreciate all the support form everybody here, you guys are the best!! that goes double for you Mr. Rick!! Enjoy the evening, & thanks again!

-- Sawdust703

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