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Forum topic by Bob42 posted 04-03-2009 04:40 PM 1226 views 0 times favorited 12 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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04-03-2009 04:40 PM

I don’t know about you, but, I have not done half the things I was supposed to do this winter. I was planning on making some projects for friends only about three or four cutting boards, one with a Nascar inlay. remodel my shop and complete renovation of our last bedroom (all others are done). Well, I started the bedroom in Feb. and still working on it, it’s only 10’x10’. I have one excuse INTERRUPTIONS!!. I have installed two new windows, two doors, rewired, sealed and insulated, straitened twisted studs, installed sheetrock (USA made), crown molding. I need to finish the trim and paint, but I am going to remove the oak hardwood floor and plane it (some is damaged) and I can get rid of the squeaks. then seal it. I know just sand it, but it does need to be planed.

Many doctor visits for my dad as well as a few for me. He is 86 years old and to look at him you would thinks he is great. but we just found out the he has a very bad aortic heart valve that is non repairable because of his other health conditions such as COPD, Asbestosis, PAD and a quad by-pass 10 years ago and bad kidneys. So, they tell us he could go at anytime. My plan is to get him to move in with us and that bedroom will be his but he is resisting. He has lived alone for ten years since my mom died. He has very bad short term memory so my wife (a nurse) takes care of his meds and I an ex EMT & firefighter take him to all the Dr. appointments. He also lives about 35 mins away so that is more time to pick him up and drop him off.

I’ll only go as far as to say my wife has started the “CHANGE” and she has had problems physically. If she knew I wrote that she would kill me.

Then my son’s college, helping set up classes, visits, attending award ceremonies, guiding him with work choices. etc..

A trip to Hollywood Fla. from NY to make some much needed repairs to my nieces house. So I loaded up my truck and drove to Fla. (sounds like the Beverly Hillbillys) She has three kids 13, 12 and 10. She lost her husband to skin cancer about 7 years ago so I do what I can for them. I spent 6 day there and need to go back to do more but don’t know when. I was able to visit with an old friend (un-official big brother) for a day and a half in Jacksonville Fla. That was great. We talked about writing a book but know one would believe it but the bunch of us that lived it.

Then I went to visit with my aunt & uncle in Virginia. My uncle just turned 80 and they had a party for him while I was in Fla. so this is how I could be with him and it gave me a resting spot closer to home. But when I got there my aunt heard that I had my tools with me and put me to work. I only had time to fix her leaky faucet but she wanted me to hang a ton of shelving and install a screen door. I was only there a day and a half and was exhausted. We did have a good time. But she was kind enough to say that I should take a vacation this summer and come down with my wife for a week and I can do the work then while her and my wife go shopping. Sounds like a great vacation to me!!!! Yea right.

Then you always have things in the house that break like the microwave that was cabinet installed when I moved here. We’ll try to find one that fits, not even a spacesaver, so I had to find something close and cut the cabinet and rewire so it would be on it’s own circuit.

I could go on but I think you got the point.

Now please understand I would do anything for my family especially my dad. He is someone that has always believed in me and helped through everything. I could talk all day and not say enough. He went through some tough times in WWII in the Marines, Guadalcanal, Peleliu, and others as some of you senior woodworkers may have been through, or have family members that have been through it, and for that I salute you all.

As far as my niece, she has been through hell and glad I could help. The same with my aunt & uncle.
About my son, As my father I can’t say enough about him. He is 20 years old, in college for computer engineering, working two part time jobs, one for a defense contractor, that job he loves. He has always been a great kid, never a problem. When people talk to him they think he’s about 25.

So sometimes life happens and plans change, some for the better and some not, but I don’t think I’m alone when I get frustrated at times when you can’t get done what you plan on. It just seems that sometimes something will always throw you off. I have been trying to rebuild my shop for 16 years. maybe someday soon.

Thanks for letting me blow off some steam. I’m sure you all have similar stories but you get frustrated sometimes and this is one of my times, but wouldn’t change what I have for all the money in the world, for I have been blessed with the family I have.

-- Bob K. East Northport, NY

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#1 posted 04-03-2009 06:07 PM

I’m glad your long story ends with the realization that, in spite of everything, you are a lucky man. I feel the same way.

I try to live by the motto “Plan your actions, but don’t plan the results.” In other words, making plans is a good thing as long as you realize that life frequently has a way of changing those plans for you.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#2 posted 04-03-2009 06:20 PM

Been there, DOING that.

Like you, wouldn’t have it any other way. I figure things will get done- sooner or later and besides, a hundred years from now what difference will it make.

-- Lew- Time traveler. Purveyor of the Universe's finest custom rolling pins.

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#3 posted 04-03-2009 07:14 PM

so I’m not the only one ?

health and family first, projects later. (or when everyone else is sleeping)

-- ㊍ When in doubt - There is no doubt - Go the safer route.

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#4 posted 04-03-2009 07:48 PM

its ok. i started on project 9 months ago and its still not done. this project would have taken many people on here a week or two tops. Life can get in the way of our projects, but its better than our projects getting in the way of living life.

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#5 posted 04-03-2009 08:02 PM

Take one day at a time, things happen for a reason, give it to God and count your blessing. Have a nice day.

God Bless

-- Mc Bridge Cabinets, Iowa

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#6 posted 04-03-2009 08:11 PM

And, believe it or not, you are living the American Dream. Thanks for posting. It actually made me feel a little more connected…

-- Gary, DeKalb Texas only 4 miles from the mill

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#7 posted 04-03-2009 09:07 PM


Sorry to hear the problems; Our prayers are with you and your family. Next time you are coming down to Jacksonville let me know, that’s were I call home.

-- "Everything that is great and inspiring is created by the individual who labors in freedom" -- Albert Einstein

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#8 posted 04-03-2009 11:25 PM

Some day when we are gone we woodworkers like to think that the projects we make will get passed down and remembered. However, in fact we woodworkers are no different than anyone else out there. Our legacies are the people and family we leave to carry on after we are gone. It looks like your father has a good legacy and you do as well!

-- Bob Clark, Tool Collector and Sawdust Maker

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#9 posted 04-04-2009 01:54 AM

Today is the best day of my life. And so will tomorrow, the day after, ....

-- Just 'cause a cat has kittens in the oven, it don't make 'em biscuits.

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#10 posted 04-04-2009 02:11 AM

You indeed are not alone. It took me awhile to realize that my wood projects are just there to past the time between helping out family and friends. I still get frustrated from interuptions but its alot more manageable

-- If at first you don't succeed...Don't try skydiving

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#11 posted 04-04-2009 06:30 AM

You have what realy matters; a good family and kids. I look at Merrill Lynch trying to destroy our retirement to show a few pennies profit on their quarterly reports and the idiot that overdosed me on Topamax costing us a small fortune, it matters little. Our daughter who is in the medical field volunteered to escort a terminal patient in his mid 20s home for his last Christmas Eve with his family. Our son said, when his first was born, said he hoped to do half as good a job as we had done. All the projects I have half done and things I will never be able to do, don’t really matter much afer all, do they?

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#12 posted 04-04-2009 01:21 PM

Thanks to all for your kind words. I know I’m not alone, and Although I don’t get to do many projects right now my biggest priority is to try to get my dad to move in with us. I will post some pictures of his room when it’s done. We are calling it Gramp’s room and keep asking him what color he would like but he’s still resisting. My dad was a carpenter so I’m trying that angle as well. Maybe he could give me more tips and work on something together if he was here. Please don’t get me wrong, my family is not an interruption, that’s the frustration talking.

-- Bob K. East Northport, NY

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