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Forum topic by kolwdwrkr posted 03-31-2009 12:32 AM 1329 views 0 times favorited 12 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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03-31-2009 12:32 AM

Topic tags/keywords: question hardship

I’m not the type to ask for help but I don’t see any other options at this point. I have been looking for a job for quite some time, only finding that most companies are laying off people not hiring. My situation has become despirite. I am losing my home, can’t pay child support, can’t afford to make my truck payment, and have been living off of the money from selling tools. It isn’t getting any easier. I can’t even afford to file bank ruptcy to get the creditors to stop hounding me. I am being sued by AMEX. The IRS will be coming for me next. I don’t know what to do other then ask for a handout. Beg rather. If I was to ask for some sort of charity, outside the church, where would I go? Who would I ask? Is there a site I can post my story on and ask for help? I’m not asking for a million dollars. I’m just asking for people with a good heart to lend me a hand. Any suggestions?

-- ~ Inspiring those who inspire me ~

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Francisco Luna

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#1 posted 03-31-2009 01:01 AM

I think the very first thing that is going to help you stopping the situation to get worse, is getting a Job. $10 hour job , yes, I now it’s hard to work here in CA for that money, but staying at home, the price to pay is much highter…..I am in a similar situation, I was waiting for the chance of getting a job in construction but this country is in really bad shape…...I cant wait, bills don’t wait!

-- Nature is my manifestation of God. I go to nature every day for inspiration in the day's work. I follow in building the principles which nature has used in its domain" Frank Lloyd Wright

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#2 posted 03-31-2009 01:36 AM

last dec 2008 after working for the same company 7years as a security suppervisor, never late for work, perfect attendace, trained officers, and staff, nominated employee of the year, i was laid off from work. for approximatly 2 months, 6am to 8am i sent out resumes over the internet, 8am to 5pm i hit the streets going from one place of bussiness to another leaving resumes, only one place of bussiness responded….imforming me that the job was filled. I have a truck to pay off, child support, 3 credit cards, and my bank account went into the negative. So what did i do?? Frist I contacted the bank Manager, ask not to have any type of charges on my account, remove those existing charges, and trust me to get back in the black. also I advised the manager that I had not made any purchassed for two months, and if he will trust me I will find a way. how did i find a way?? well i took everyones advise, advise i had been ignoring for a few years. I stopped doing woodworking as a hobby!!!! and went full time as a source of income. now I build cabinets, and furnitures full time, also I am a handyman. Nobody was hiring, so i started putting out the word that i was full time into woodworking / handyman. also a friend of mine was trying to build up his consturction bussiness in this troubleson economy, and asked me to go in with him as apartner, with him having no ties to my woodworking handyman bussiness. toggeter we have been staying busy, as we hussle our resources. my bank account is no longer in the black, its not a lot of funds yet… but I’m now caught up with my bills, i don’t concider myself sussefull at this time, but I will say this, utilize your resources, pound the streets with what skills, determination you have, team up with others in your area and fight to beat this troblesom economy. belive it or not but there are a lot of people out there still working, and wanting to have work done on their homes, who need us. we’ve got the skills, expericence, some tools, if not the tool you need, for the job, do like I do ask a friend or family member to loan the tool to you, to get the job done, bring home the grocerys. Its hard I’m up from 5am doing my paper work, planning out the day and hitting the tools until late at niight 7 days a week. I’m tired and sore but I’ve decided that my family will not starve, my bills will get paid. I wish I could give you better advise, some way help you and others like us. but this is the best I can do at this time. ”WHEN YOU ARE AT THE END OF YOUR ROPE….. TIE A KNOT AND HANG ON”
cobra5 aka tim

-- tool time tim aka "cobra5"

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#3 posted 03-31-2009 01:54 AM

Also unemployed since October and the few responses that I have gotten back were negative ones to date. I need to find a market for my wares also. I just can’t mass produce my items and maintain the quality that my people seem to love ….I’ve tried , never works out right for some reason…I guess I’ll just have to learn to say “good enough” and pass along my “seconds” to people. I’ve never had any real training as a carpenter , so I can’t pass myself off as a skilled professional either.

I guess it’s almost time to start asking , “Would you like fries with that ,Sir ?”

-- I'm absolutely positive that I couldn't be more uncertain!

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#4 posted 03-31-2009 02:12 AM

kolwdwrkr – PM me with resume, or maybe your qualifications – I know a couple of custom furniture shops in the valley – not in your block, but not on a different continent either – might be worth a shot.

-- ㊍ When in doubt - There is no doubt - Go the safer route.

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#5 posted 03-31-2009 02:14 AM

In Canada there are several non-profit credit counseling services that help people with their financial situations. Im sure your state will have some as well. Google or beak out the phone book. Be wary of the for-profit credit counseling services though.

As Moai said . . . get a job . . . any job . . . until things get better. Cobra5 has another good approach as well.

Take care.

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#6 posted 03-31-2009 02:15 AM

I really wish I had some really great piece of advice. I know when I was the pastor of a large church, we often helped out folks in need. We couldn’t give out thousands, but I did occasionally give a hundred or so. Church would be one place to turn.

Another place would be Goodwill, Salvation Army and your local town/village social services department. They can help with rent, mortgages, etc.

-- Chip ----------- 6:8

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#7 posted 03-31-2009 04:12 AM

If you haven’t already, you could consider using a one stop career center. They are in the process of gearing up to do an employment program for 14-24 year olds. In my state that program will need supervisors and mentors that can be paid for with recovery $$. They also do job matching. They would conduct a skills/aptitude assessment and attempt matches to employer needs.
They should also have access to some programs especially designed for non custodial parents that are unemployed. Here is a link to find the One Stop closest to you.

-- Gary D. Stoughton, WI

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#8 posted 03-31-2009 04:31 AM

I am in the same boat. I also don’t have a job. I am lucky that my wife is working and able to keep our heads above water (so far). I am pounding the pavement and the internet. I just graduated from a job training program to get into a field tat I love…computers. I can now fix computers. I am going to get certified as soon as I get a job. I also am freelancing my computer repair to earn a little extra cash. And I am doing my woodworking to help supplement. I don’t have the answer for ya. But I will pray for all of us who are out of work to be able to get back to bringing home the bacon. Put it in God’s hands and He will take care of you.

--, Rick Kruse, Grand Rapids, MI

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Francisco Luna

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#9 posted 03-31-2009 11:46 AM

Have you considered volunteering?
It’s a good way to stay connected with people, with a specific community, letting them know about your needs while you are helping others in need…..This organizations have GOOD connections with business and several other organizations, so there are lots of chances for you that way…...Habitat for HUmanity is one I have been considering.
Don’t give up !

-- Nature is my manifestation of God. I go to nature every day for inspiration in the day's work. I follow in building the principles which nature has used in its domain" Frank Lloyd Wright

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#10 posted 03-31-2009 12:23 PM

Just saw something on the news that you might want to check out.

-- Jerry--A man can never have enough tools or clamps

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#11 posted 03-31-2009 07:36 PM

I was in your boat once before and it’s possible I may be again soon. I took two not so great jobs to keep my family fed and sheltered until a great job came along and felt so much better about myself for it. Praying for you.

-- If you think healthcare is expensive now, wait until it's free! PJ O'Rourke

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#12 posted 04-01-2009 06:27 AM

Sorry to hear the news Keith. I wish I could help but a long way away.

-- Grumpy - "Always look on the bright side of life"- Monty Python

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