You could go with either the tung oil or the sanding sealer first. If you are using a tung oil that lists petroleum distillates on the label then it is a tung oil, varnish mix. This will produce a hard topcoat finish. If it is 100% pure tung oil this is a penetrating finish that will produce a relatively soft topcoat to which you may need to add a protective topcoat, if you want. But the sanding sealer should be added first to prevent blotching if you are using a tung oil/varnish mix.
I have only used Miniwax’s polyurethane/stain product that is sold under the label of polyshade. It is a product that I have found difficult to get a good finish with. The problem with applying a sanding sealer and/or tung oil is that if your intent is to color the wood then these will seal the wood and your staining may not be effective. These are really designed to be used on bare wood.
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