|Forum topic by Cricket||posted 03-06-2014 05:34 PM||3895 views||1 time favorited||111 replies|
03-06-2014 05:34 PM
In this community members are expected to treat each other with respect at all times.
There will always be disagreements and fusses between members. It is simply human nature. We truly encourage members to discuss and openly share their thoughts on a topic. It is how we all learn and life would be pretty boring if we all felt the same way.
That being said, this is not grade school. We don’t gang up in little groups to take sides or encourage others to do the same.
If you were at a local get together and got into a disagreement with someone, I am guessing you would take it outside instead of ruining the party for everyone. I expect the same here.
If you are not able to discuss a topic respectfully then you need to remove yourself from the topic. If you are unable to discuss a topic with a specific member then you need to choose to ignore that member or take the discussion off the boards. If you are unable to do either of these things, I will help you to do so.
I wrote this for another forum a while back. Today I want to share it with LumberJocks.
The Other Side Of The Monitor
Do you ever stop to think who is on the other side of the monitor? Do you always remember that it is a breathing human being? When you post in a community, do you consider how your words might be taken by others? Do you care? Even when someone post a question that we consider completely stupid or rude, does our own response add to the problem? Or, do we go out of our way to help turn a negative into a positive?
Does being right but humiliating others make us more right? Do we imagine that people are watching and thinking how smart we are?
Do we stop for even one second to think how we made that person on the other side of the monitor feel?
I have heard people say that if someone post something stupid or rude, they deserve whatever they get as a response. Seriously? Have we considered that we have no clue what is going on in their lives? Perhaps they are completely alone in life and they’re just looking for some attention. Maybe our response can show them a better way through our own example.
Have we considered that they may be extremely depressed and are acting out? Could our response make a difference, not just for the individual, but for the community as a whole? We don’t know what is going on in their lives, but as in any community, we know that right now, in this moment, we are all dealing with our own issues.
Right now, someone is trying to deal with a loss of a loved one. Someone else may be dealing with extensive financial difficulties or has been burned so many times that they choose to hurt others before someone can hurt them. They may even be considering taking their own life. We simply don’t know.
One thing we know for sure though, on the other side of that monitor is a human being.
Am I asking that we be “nice” to those who we honestly feel don’t deserve it?
I am simply suggesting that maybe we consider if our own response helps or hurts the community as a whole. Perhaps we can make a difference in someone’s life today, just by giving a dang.
Just my 2 cents . . .
-- "Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it, not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours."