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02-07-2014 12:53 AM

As some of you know my dear friend and neighbor Walter Craver passed away last year. His death had a tremendous impact on me. Walter loved to rebuild old sports cars. His last car was a ‘63 MGB. He had a stroke before he was able to get the engine finished. The stroke affected his vision and his doctor took away his driver’s license. To Walter that was a death sentence. In spite of his handicap, he tried to finish the car. That didn’t happen. The car was never finished….... In my forum at the time, I remarked that it would almost kill me to not be able to finish a project. I am absolutely serious about that. Some time has passed, but my sentiment has not.

On the anniversary of his passing, I ordered a study guide and signed up for a class to pass the Hawaii real estate exam. Yesterday I signed on with Coldwell Banker. My plan is to phase out my woodworking over the next four years. For all those precious pieces of koa that I have been hoarding, now is the time to get those final show stoppers created and out there. I want to end this amazing experience at the peak of my journey.

It has been thrilling to learn about wood and all the tools. Along the way, I’ve taken some knocks and I am proud of myself for getting back up and proving all the nay sayers wrong about my ability. It was almost by accident that I stumbled upon I can’t even begin to express how much I cherished your humor, advice, support and inspiration. Your work and talent lifts my spirits every day. Each morning in the shop I was never really alone. There were plenty of other LJs toiling away in a cloud of dust creating incredible pieces. Thank you all for that. You guys have been my rock and God will surely reward you for your kindness over the years.

I’ll post pieces as I can, but I have to focus on that new star now. I intend to get my broker’s license within the next three years to give me some flexibility. I love a challenge and this one should be a doozie!


-- cathyb, Hawaii,

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#1 posted 02-07-2014 01:02 AM

Wow??? Wondering where you were. You give as much as you get! Real estate can be a good thing. Glad you have gotten to where you want to go.

I’m betting you can take you out of woodworking but the woodworking will never be out of you!

You will be missed. And this may be an interesting turn in the road you’re traveling.

-- Cau Haus Designs, Thomas J. Tieffenbacher

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#2 posted 02-07-2014 01:17 AM

To one of the classiest and most talented ladies on this site, I wish you all the best in following your “Star”, but I sure do hope you stay on LJ’s and drop in once in awhile….... as you finish up those beautiful koa pieces of art!!!!
Keep us posted once in awhile on how you are doing!
Thanks for all you have shared and you have been an inspiration to me with your talent!

Take care,

-- Gene, Majestic Eagle Woodworks,,

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#3 posted 02-07-2014 01:26 AM

Good luck. You certainly posted some very nice work!

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#4 posted 02-07-2014 01:49 AM

Wow! Surely you will find the time to piddle in the wood again. I hope so anyway. Love seeing your work!

-- Janice

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#5 posted 02-07-2014 02:05 AM

Best of luck on the new path. If you are as good at it as you are with wood you will go far. I’m sure that many of us will miss seeing your work posted on LJ, but life is change.

I’ve done other things to make a living, but maybe like me, you have had saw dust in your blood so long that if you don’t get a fix now and then your blood will become too thin.

-- Fredj

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#6 posted 02-07-2014 02:12 AM

Cathy, you will excel at what ever you do. The real estate world’s gain is our loss but I’m happy to see you following your path and making the right decisions for you. You’ve been a great asset to LJ’s and a good buddy so please keep an eye on the old forum from time to time and check in with us. ...... and try to spin that Koa out over a few years so you can post an occasional wonderful cathyb project.

Good luck in your endeavours.

-- Paul M ..............the early bird may get the worm but it’s the second mouse that gets the cheese!

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#7 posted 02-07-2014 02:19 AM

I am glad you found your “Star” Cathy. I’m sure you’ll make a good living out of it but I believe what Tom said “You can never take out the wood working in you”. I hope you drop us a note once in a while. I will miss seeing your works. Your comments gives me inspiration to do better designs. Good luck and God bless Cathy!

-- Benji Reyes, Antipolo, Philippines, Instagram benji reyes

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#8 posted 02-07-2014 02:22 AM

Paul you absolutely slay me with your incredible talent! Beautiful box!!! Of course, I will be watching all of your work with some longing tugging at my heart, but you can’t serve two masters.

They claim my work week with be 40 hours. That’s about half of what I put in now, so I should have plenty of time to put together a piece or two. I’m making three rockers at the moment. They require so much time and dedication that I wanted to get them finished before things got really crazy. Yes, Janice and Fred, I will definitely be in the shop from time to time. Right now my biggest challenge going forward is to sell my first house. Hahahaha.
Bring it on…........

-- cathyb, Hawaii,

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#9 posted 02-07-2014 02:25 AM

It is sad to hear your farewell to woodworking, but I can only imagine that it is because you have been able to excel in your craft enough to feel you have reached a zenith, or at least a high plateau that can allow you to move to another challenge.

Making a living with one’s love such as woodworking is tough, so if the reason is financial, then I hope that your new venture will bring you good fortune to the point of being able to reinstate your woodworking interests in the near future.

I do not think that you will be happy to never do woodworking again, so if I may suggest that you keep a corner of your woodshop available for the occasional project, as when one gets stressed or frustrated, it is good to have a creative outlet and we have been shown of your ability to do just that with wood. Perhaps your lathe should be set up for weekend turnings that could give you some extra money on top of the creative outlet.

Please do not give your final Aloha to your creativity and above all, to us fellow LJ’s as you never have to say “Goodbye” to friends. “A hui hou .” “See you soon.” is more appropriate.

And when you are ready to list a property, I know of a prime lot on the Big Island that is for sale.

-- "They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night." ~ Edgar Allan Poe

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#10 posted 02-07-2014 02:33 AM

Thanks Benji. You are super nova!!!!!!! I will definitely check in to LJs while I go down this road. Fred said it correctly, “Life is change.” I think a new start is exhilarating, maybe a little scary too. Isn’t that the hook? because without a hurtle there will be no triumph. Honestly, my struggles in woodworking have made me stronger. I don’t think I would have done this 10 years ago and felt as confident as I do now. That’s a gift worth more than money.

-- cathyb, Hawaii,

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#11 posted 02-07-2014 02:47 AM

‘Tis a sad day in lumberjock land.
But having taken the Realtor course I must admit that any avocation or hobby has to take a back seat if you want to do well in real estate.
Make that fortune quick so you can come back to us!

-- Pete, "It isn't broken, you just aren't using it right."

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#12 posted 02-07-2014 03:10 AM

I’m not moving to real estate for money. That has never been a goal for me in anything I’ve ever done, my husband would nod to that! I want people to tell me that I have little chance of any success. The fact that there are 9,000 realtors in Hawaii should be enough to dash anyone’s dreams of ever making a name for themselves in this State. Those are exactly the scary odds that light a fire in me. I just want to prove that I can do that. Maybe it won’t happen, but it should be an interesting ride.

-- cathyb, Hawaii,

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#13 posted 02-07-2014 12:55 PM

Cathy, You can take the wood from a lady, but ya can’t take the desire to produce the quality you hold from her. Druing your four year draw down, I’ll wager that you will still have woodworking as a chief hobby and relief venture. Please don’t sell all your equipment and tooling to quickly. WW is in your blood, Dear. You are among the finest craftspersons within the LJ’s community.

-- Russell Pitner Hixson, TN 37343

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#14 posted 02-07-2014 02:04 PM

I wish you wouldn’t give up your very fine woodworking skills. You can still do projects, even if you become a gr8 realtor. Your talent will be missed. I will wish the best of luck to you. I can relate to your dilemma, because, my hobbies have also changed over the past few years. I sold my motorcycle last year, which, I never thought I’d be without. So, Good luck to you and your new endeavors.

-- Roger from KY. Work/Play/Travel Safe. Keep your dust collector fed.

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#15 posted 02-08-2014 06:36 AM

I have a cousin who has made a good living as a realtor, what made him stand out from the other realtors
I know was a sincere friendliness, it came natural to him and you definitely have it to some extent. He
just liked people and it showed. The rest can be learned, but with your personality you should be able to
make some sales. The hardest part for most people is the 3 to 9 month gap between their last paycheck
and their first sale.

-- As ever, Gus-the 80 yr young apprentice carpenter

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