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Forum topic by Don Broussard posted 11-02-2013 02:59 AM 671 views 0 times favorited 17 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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Don Broussard

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11-02-2013 02:59 AM

My wife and I have 2 kids, both of whom are married and physically moved out of our house. Most of their “stuff” left with them, but we still have lots of knick-knacks, books, seasonal clothes, school memorabilia and other pictures stored in our house. Does this stuff ever really move out of the parents’ house? We’d like to reclaim some of the space that this stuff occupies and use it to store some of our junk in its place.

When I moved out of my own parents’ home, I either took the stuff with me, threw it out or gave it away (I’m certain my parents would tell me differently, though). Hopefully, some of you can give me hope.

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!


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Greg..the Cajun Box Sculptor

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#1 posted 11-02-2013 03:06 AM

I would ask them if they want the stuff they left at your house or if you should just donate it to goodwill for someone who could really use it…

-- We all must start somewhere in our journey of doing what we love to do.

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CharlieM1958

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#2 posted 11-02-2013 03:07 AM

You want hope? I don’t know, but maybe I can make you feel better…. My 27-year-old schoolteacher son still lives at home with all his stuff. And my 24-year-old daughter’s room is just like she left it, even though she lives halfway across the country, because my wife is convinced she’ll come home one day. Count your blessings. :-)

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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Don Broussard

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#3 posted 11-02-2013 03:15 AM

@Greg—I’ve tried part of that idea. I didn’t go as far as the Goodwill donation . . . but I might!

@Charlie—Thanks. I do feel better now. Just so you know, I only laughed for about 3 minutes—I didn’t want to enjoy your situation TOO much!

I’ve even considered telling them ahead of time that I will be renting a storage unit for 3 months and putting all their stuff away. After the rental unit’s rental is no longer paid, their stuff would end up on Storage Wars and I would be relatively guilt-free!

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!

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ihmserv

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#4 posted 11-02-2013 03:28 AM

My wife and I found a really easy solution.
we decided to remodel a few rooms of the house.
so I got a dumpster delivered on a Friday.
on the Thursday called all 4 of the boys. said we needed to see them on Saturday morning.
no other info was given just told them to be there.
seems they had all talked to each other in the two days between Thursday and Saturday morning.
so they were a little nervous when they showed up.
served them all coffee and fresh made Danish.
then told them they had two choices take there stuff with them or put in the dumpster.
anything left would be in the dumpster by Monday when they picked up the dumpster.
oh yea it was a twenty yard dumpster and filled by Saturday afternoon.
boy that cleared out the house real quick.

only thing the wife said I forgot to put in the dumpster was myself. so I better not sit around to long.
lol

IAN

-- woodturners keep things spinning.

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TopamaxSurvivor

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#5 posted 11-02-2013 04:04 AM

I think they do eventually get it all or it is buried under our stuff. ;-))

-- "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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oldnovice

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#6 posted 11-02-2013 04:35 AM

Kids are married, obviously got their own space and still have some of ours!
Haven’t laid down the law as I doubt that would help!

-- "I never met a board I didn't like!"

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Handtooler

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#7 posted 11-02-2013 10:27 AM

Quick answer NO! It won’t ever all be gone.

-- Russell Pitner Hixson, TN 37343 bassboy40@msn.com

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sgv

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#8 posted 11-02-2013 10:52 AM

Handtooler is right, we just moved, kids aove bin out of house for years, YES WE MOVED KIDS STUFF 400 miles, now my wife has thing displayed that they made when they where little.( they are 32,27,21) gggoooooodddd luck Its not all bad does bring back memories and keeps them and your mind

-- Tite Lines, May the wind be at your back

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GrandpaLen

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#9 posted 11-02-2013 02:10 PM

Box up a little bit at a time and send it to them on their birthdays and Christmas.

Sorry, I don’t have a better answer, didn’t have one back then either. My kids are 48, 44, 42, 40.

Work Safely and have Fun. – Grandpa Len.

-- Mother Nature should be proud of what you've done with her tree. - Len ...just north of a stone's throw from the oHIo, river that is, in So. Indiana.

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distrbd

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#10 posted 11-02-2013 02:27 PM

I have one kid ,a son actually ,he’s 29 years old ,moved out 4 years ago but took most of his stuff with him ,whatever is left, I have kept with pleasure because it reminds me of him ,most his toys,drawings ,games, some clothes,smells like him and bring back fond memories.
I simply can not bring myself to throw anything out that belongs or used to belong to him.

Don,the answer is no they never move out.

-- Ken from Ontario

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Don Broussard

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#11 posted 11-02-2013 02:52 PM

Thanks for the comments. Like several of you commented, we are NOT throwing out the sentimental items like their childhood toys and school awards—the memories they trigger are more precious than the space we could reclaim.

@Ian—Very clever strategy!

@Grandpa— Sneaky, sneaky . . .

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!

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HorizontalMike

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#12 posted 11-02-2013 03:35 PM

Just wait Don. As your parents and inlaws get older, THEIR stuff will find a way into YOUR house, like it or not. It will be “gifted” upon you and you don’t dare refuse such a gift don’t ‘cha know… ;-)

-- HorizontalMike -- "Woodpeckers understand..."

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distrbd

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#13 posted 11-02-2013 03:43 PM

Lol @ Mikes comment,it is true,I was gonna say there will be a payback time when we get too old and all out dated stuff will eventually end up in their homes.

-- Ken from Ontario

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Don Broussard

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#14 posted 11-03-2013 08:13 PM

@HMike; @Ken—I didn’t think about stuff moving in the other direction. Maybe I’ll just keep storing their stuff, and they’ll be obligated (yeah, right) to keep our stuff in the future.

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!

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JoeinGa

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#15 posted 11-03-2013 08:14 PM

Look on the bright side. For now all you have to store is their “stuff”... if any of then get divorced, they’ll move back in and bring MORE of their “stuff” with them! LOL

-- Perform A Random Act Of Kindness Today ... Pay It Forward

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