Perfectionist, ironically, means something different for everyone. I cannot claim to be one in my own understanding of the word, otherwise I would never be able to finish a project. For many, I would assume there is a special place in our own minds that exists between what we fear our project will look like and what we hope our project will look like.
When I first started, I had to come to a place, mentally, where I could accept the creation I made and its many flaws. I would have to find something I liked about it, something I could improve on, and embrace some of the imperfections rather than be repelled by them. Over time, that distance between fear and hope gets a little less and less.
What personal philosophies have you adopted that help you deal with this insecurity in abilities that help you grow into the craft rather than leave yourself in an uncomfortable place of self doubt?
I am often crushed between how my projects turn out in my head and on paper, and how the turn out in wood. I keep plugging away though. As long as the next one (there is always a next one) is better than the previous I am happy. Honestly if I ever achieve consistent perfection I would stop woodworking. I don't get paid to do it, I enjoy the challenge and the journey. If perfection becomes mundane, I will be bored.
I guess what I am trying to say is the enjoyment in woodworking for me is not the destination, but the journey. I am not kidding myself, I do not posses the natural talent or natural ability for woodworking and I will never be a master craftsman, but if I can be a competent craftsman, that will make me happy.
I tend to hold on to the flaws, at least those I'm smart enough to know about. In the end though the project is done and it's time to move on. If you can't admit to your mistakes and try to at least not make the same ones too many more times you will not really improve. That is why I sort of make a conscious effort to see my own mistakes as I pass my projects, so as to remember and learn. However, I do take great pride in the fact that they are my work, flaws, mistakes and all.
Reminds me of what an old cousin once told me about some molding I was doing years ago at the country cabin. I was sort of dwelling on my inability to get the quality I wanted. He told me that it looked pretty good and that I was the only one who would really see the joint issues. He then said that if I had friends over that they would never notice. He then went on to say that if they did notice that they would be too polite to mention it. But the qualifier was that if they did notice, and if they did say something, then I should just tell them to get out because they are not my friends. We had a good laugh over that and a beer.
We look at our own work harder than the casual observer ever will. With the hours we spend getting rather intimate with a project it is a sure bet that no matter how good we do, it could always have come off better. At least that is true for me. Perhaps one day the final project will actually reflect the concept, plan and drawing, but I doubt that. The more I learn about woodworking the more I find out how much I do not know.
The answer to that question, Don, is about one's state of mind. When we are insecure, we see perfection everywhere else but in ourselves. To see our own work or the work of others as flawless, I believe, is a mistake. I believe we all have to find a spot in ourselves to accept these imperfections in our work, as well as others.
my problem is not accepting imperfections from a point that i see my work as flawless (not just woodwork), but being able to accept the imperfections and actually complete a project and not scrap the whole thing. I hate knowing there is a flaw in something i did and wondering every time someone says it looks good if they're saying in the back of their mind "look at the screw ups in this thing".
If we saw perfection in what we did, we would never drive to do better. Its your ability to understand your weaknesses that allows you to excel. You should away strive to improve your weakest capabilities.
Every woodworker or crafts person I have ever met would immediately show me every single perceived imperfection in a project right at the start. I think it is a little self defensive mechanism that is immediately triggered as if to say "I know it isn't perfect, lets get that out of the way right now…"
My philosophy is, don't pretend to be a fine woodworker and nobody will expect fine work from you! (And by "you" I mean ME) What I mean is, understand your skills and be honest about them. Mistakes are hardly noticed when they are expected. But if you claim to be a true artist, expect every flaw to be pointed out by snooty critics as they sip wine at the gallery.
As for what mistakes are acceptable to you… well that depends. If it can be seen without bending over and looking closely, it's got to be fixed. If it can be hidden so that nobody will ever notice, I'm ok with it. If it can be written off as "character", that's ok too. But i find the best way to deal with a piece that has a big flaw on it, is to beat it up some more and call it "rustic". People love that stuff.
Yes, it is rude to destroy someone else's work. In the case I laid out though, they weren't picking mine apart but their own. Which is kind of sad sometimes because you really want that person to know that the piece they created is really quite good.
Ahhh, I misunderstood the context. I always pick my projects apart, but silently. If you can't see the flaws in my project, I'm not gonna point it out.
i'm to critical of my work which every imperfection or mistake sticks out to me like a flashing billboard and i think it would be better served as firewood.friends,family and customers have all loved what i built but i keep saying there being nice.every project i try to do a little better than the last either by patience or paying more attention to detail.i'd like to get to a point where i can except imperfections and not want to give up after each project.
Very timely post. I've just started reading The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. She talks about our expectations, shame and living 'wholeheartedly'. Exactly what you brought up Dave.
As for my woodworking, one of the best things about it for me is that there are no expectations - either by myself or others. Until recently, I was a professional outside of the home and a toenail-clippin', casserole- makin' domestic diva after work. I expected a tremendous amount from myself, but when my health took a nosedive I had to rethink everything. It hasn't been a pretty process, and it's only beginning, but it did send me skittering to the garage which I'm slowly converting into my workshop.
While I certainly see the flaws in the projects I've completed so far, I'm thrilled with each and every one of them. Squinting helps tremendously!
If it stops being fun, I think I'll go back to cleaning out the deep freeze.
I pointed out a mistake I'd made to a neighbor of mine who has done some really nice woodworking..He said now only you and I know….so just think of it as a one of a kind…Hiding or fixing flaws or mistakes makes you a better woodworker…..I've only stopped working on one project since I've started this journey…and it was a mistake of not knowing that the red wood would bleed into the curly maple making it a pink color…That wouldn't have been bad if I was making the chess board for a granddaughter….but I didn't think that the grandson would like a pink board…It turned into a bird house that sold…go figure..
Oddly enough, I find I cannot be objective on a project I have just finished. And even stranger, there seems to be no pattern to how my feelings about a project change over time.
Sometimes I'll be pretty happy with the way something turns out, but I'll look at it six months later and it strikes me as a pile of crap. Other times, I'll be fretting over perceived imperfections in a piece I'm working on, but I'll pick it up months or even years later and actually be impressed with my own work.
I suppose it is part of the creative process, because it is the same with songwriting for me. Every time I write a new song I tend to think it's my best work yet. But I usually feel differently after some time has passed.
I guess the lesson for me is that I have to get some emotional distance between my critical brain and my creative brain in order to have some objectivity.
What you experience, at times, might also be what happens when we obtain more skill or experience Charlie. Months later, we might have chosen a different technique or had more control over the process than when the piece was finished. This can affect our judgement as well.
It is a well known fact that perfection pisses off the gods (only they are perfect). I happen to be very adept at not annoying the gods.
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