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#1 posted 11-14-2011 04:57 AM

got me on this one too
back out again
server cut my speed
house not sealed under from the cold
zip money
generaly just tired

but it goes on

nobody said it would be easy

‘holidays’ didn’t mean much
in my family
just cold out

hope we both get over it soon
the alternative is worthless

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#2 posted 11-14-2011 05:01 AM

Yes, behind. Yes, stressed. It will come together, always does. Good luck, no need to go back to mental ward ; )

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#3 posted 11-14-2011 05:26 AM

Kick back and relax, it isn’t that important. Too many health problems start with stress. With the volume of projects you have been posting I have to wonder what full productin is ;-))

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#4 posted 11-14-2011 06:35 AM

Thanks for the responses guys.
Topamax, one of the main reasons I posted this was to try and vent to someone. I understand exactly what you’re saying because I do think the stress is already effecting my health.
The number of projects I’ve posted recently has been because I’ve only been doing what I consider minor project. My back has been hurting too bad for me to stand long enough to do anything of any size. Still though, the plaques I’ve done, for example, should be two to three day projects for the amount of time I’ve put in daily. Instead, they’ve been taking around a week each. As for shop time, the reason I have been putting in a lot is because, with these plaques, I can do them sitting down. I may as well sit and do them since I can’t seem to sleep much. In the last week, the only night I slept more than two to three hours was the one night that jose quervo helped me sleep.
As for the elevated pain level I’ve been experiencing, that is another source of frustration. I don’t know if the stress is causing me to hurt more, or another theory is that the pain is causing me to stress, which in turn leads to more stress related pain (yes, believe it or not, stress does elevate pain in chronic pain patients), which makes me hurt more. Oh, it’s a vicious cycle.
Shane is right. I don’t think I need a mental ward. Maybe I just need jose to help me get another good night’s sleep.


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#5 posted 11-14-2011 12:28 PM

Hi, William:
I was sorry to read that you are going through this. I find that sometimes I get overwhelmed by everything that I want to do, but in the long run, I am the one setting the pace and I need to learn my own limitations.

Like it or not – you aren’t 21 anymore. You need to listen to your body and take care of yourself. Having your project finished in time won’t be worth it if your kids have to see you go out of the room to vent. They surely feel the stress that you are feeling too and I am sure that they would rather have a relaxed and fun dad who is happy than a super-productive dad who is miserable. Sometimes we forget that our own moods affect everyone who is in contact with us – especially our loved ones.

Perhaps it is time to lower the bar a bit. Make your comfort and health your first priority. Expect nothing more for the moment and then anything that you feel like doing will be a bonus.

Usually things like this go in cycles. This too shall pass. Take on more as you feel better and able. Slowing down a bit doesn’t have to be permanent. Just enough to let you get your bearings and then you will be better able to combat your pain (WITHOUT Jose!)

Sounds like I am lecturing and I apologize for that, but from the outside looking in I think you need to take a good, long breath.

I hope you feel better soon. :) Hang in there!


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#6 posted 11-14-2011 02:40 PM

Thank you Sheila.
Following this I will post another reponse with some good news (IMHO).
By the way, The Jose bit is something I always threaten to do. I quit drinking years ago. I will have one or two once in a blue moon on special occasions. Under unusual circumstances one night last week, I drank two margaritas. This will tell you how long it’s been since I drank. Those two had me pretty messed up.
Now if I have my say about it (and I do), it will be quite a long time before I take another drink. I got into enough trouble with that crap that I am old enough now to know that nothing good ever comes of it.
So, for any children or young adults reading this, hear some advice from someone who knows all too well from past history. Drinking is not the answer to anything. It can and will ruin your life. I have a police record to prove it.


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#7 posted 11-14-2011 02:58 PM

In the wee hours of this morning, I sat here in the dark at the kitchen table. I was by myself. I sit in my wheelchair when I am hurting bad because the back of it just wraps around my back and supports me better than anything else I have found. I thought about that chair and the doctor’s advice as to what will eventually happen if I continue to push myself.
I thought about the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday and what I have to be thankful for, my family and friends. They are all I have that truly means anything to me.
I thought about the holiday soon after that one, the celebration of Jesus’s birth. Then I thought about all the Lord has done for me. I won’t go into that one at the risk of offending some. All I will say is that for a man who was supposed to be dead long ago, and three times now was supposed to never walk again according to doctors, I have witnessed miracles.
I thought about all that I wish to do for my kids. Then I thought about the fact that one is gone from home. I seldom see him. I have two others leaving home soon. Another will be going off to college next year. That leaves exactly half my kids gone. How quickly they go.
I am being honest as I can be here, so I will tell you that I thought of all the things I can no longer do since my wreck in ‘99.
I thought of many other thing. I want to keep this short enough to read though. So we won’t go into everything.
Suffice to say, I thought long and hard. Towards the end, I had a good cry.
Yes I cry. Any man that tells you e doesn’t cry is either lying, doesn’t have a heart, or just hasn’t been down far enough yet.

I vented here last night because I had few options on where to turn. I somehow didn’t want to burden my family. I thank the people who commented. You could have told me to man up and shut up. Instead you reached out in kindness. Thank you.
I put the final coat of laquer on my latest project yesterday evening. I will snap some photos of that today to post this evening. That will be my final project though until I catch up with a few things and get to feeling better.
Lately I have been pushing through the pain and doing things no matter what, then paying for this by lying in bed at night suffering to the point of misery. I cannot tell you why I do this. Maybe its pride. Maybe its past demons I do deal with on a regular basis. I can’t say at this time. What I do know is that I must find a different pace if I am to continue doing anything at all.
So, let me get through Thanksgiving anyway. I do know I have one project to do the week of Thanksgiving. That one will be more fun than anything else though because its something I promised I’d help my Dad with that we can do together. Other than that, and the one I’ll post later this evening, happy holidays, and I’ll see you all on the other side.


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#8 posted 11-14-2011 03:14 PM

I´m with the other slow down a little (alot) do something totely different for a while
and then you will see you are coming back to your self little by little
but do it now …. you don´t want to be out where I was once …. tooo stressed and it can take
years to come back

take care

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#9 posted 11-14-2011 03:39 PM

William I am not a Scrooge but like cr1, I only give to the children. My wife stresses over it and the older kids want this and that. That is not what it is about. It is about the birth of Christ first and foremost. We will make it through the hard times. I learned a long time ago. Dont fret over the things you can’t control and place the rest in his hands. He will provide.

-- Superdav "No matter where you go - there you are."

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#10 posted 11-14-2011 03:40 PM

Try being female. :) Buy the food, cook the food, clean up the food, buy the gifts, BUILD the gifts, wrap the gifts, buy the food, cook the food, clean up the food…. oh and there’s laundry in there too…. So stress? Nahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
David Patron knows how stress free MY life is. LOLOLOLOL

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#11 posted 11-14-2011 03:51 PM

not all of us can be an octopussy and multitask like you RG …. :-)


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#12 posted 11-14-2011 04:11 PM

IS THAT RIVER GIRL? I thought you’d dropped dead or something! Haven’t seen you in forever!

The best part of the holidays is how everyone takes a step back, slows down and thinks about their family and their religion…. oh… wait… that’s the OPPOSITE of what happens this time of year!

The kids need a thousand presents, the relatives all want a better shop gift than last year, the friends wonder why you don’t care enough to MAKE their gifts too. The credit cards are maxed out with lumber charges and the wife just won’t stay off your back about those things that need to be fixed around the house. No wonder everybody tries to eat themselves to death this time of year!

This is why I don’t have kids, I shun my friends, I never fix anything, I don’t use credit cards and I don’t celebrate the holidays!

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#13 posted 11-14-2011 04:22 PM

William, alcohol used to be my stress reliever too. I’m coming up on 15 years since my last drink, so I’ve had to find other ways to deal with it. Hobbies, like woodworking, are great until you take them so seriously that they start to become part of the stress instead of the cure for it.

The biggest thing for me is not to set unrealistic expectations for myself. Even with excellent health, I don’t have the energy of a 21-year-old anymore. Pace yourself wisely. Don’t set deadlines that will be impossible to meet. Enjoy the good things in life without guilt over not doing something you might think is more important.

If you spend too much time weeding the garden, you’ll never have a chance to stop and smell the roses.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#14 posted 11-14-2011 10:15 PM

William, I sure am sorry about all of the stress that is getting you down. I suppose, for one thing, the world is becoming a more stressful place to live in. It seems like everything and everybody is having to move faster than they use to. A lot of people are having to work harder to make ends meet. There seems like there’s a lot more bad news that crops up than there use to be. At least it does to me anyhow. Then, of course, we grow older everyday and that don’t usually help either. Most of us have problems and sometimes we all let them and the stress get us down. I wish there was something that I could do or say that would help you get through this time. I don’t suppose there’s a lot that I can do or say except that I’ve been through the same thing from time to time and to say that I’m sorry that you’re going through it now. I suppose I could say, maybe think about the good things. Everybody has some good things to think on and everybody has some blessings. It helps me do this from time to time. I hope things ease up a bit for you.

-- helluvawreck aka Charles,

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#15 posted 11-14-2011 10:27 PM

Well, your in good company. ………so stressed these days that even sleep is becoming a dream. Last 2 projects……..never made a dime but I did spend on vacuum bags, saw blades, caulking, tape, stain, sandpaper……..and at the end…..not a dime.

Watched 2 guys install another kitchen, they get 60 bucks an hour each with constant questions like “Can I borrow some tape, Can I borrow your paint thinner, Do you have a no 8 driver, do you have a right angled drill, can I use your chop saw, do have any shims ?……………… I packed my tools and left. Guy was telling the client that he’s going to cut the crown to fit by biscuiting the joints, then taking the preassembled crown mould back to the shop to finish it. (Wish I was a fly on the wall because you cant biscuit thin mdf crown mould, and even if you could, you cant cut it without some sort of saw)

and they call themselves “installers” ?…………and they got paid 2x the money, and took 3x’s as long

No one ever said life would be fair and we were all born to suffer

I need a dose of urban concrete, this rural stuff is wearing thin on my patience

-- "Good artists borrow, great artists steal”…..Picasso

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