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10-23-2011 01:09 AM

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One thing that gets me out of the shop on a Saturday morning is coaching an U9’s Soccer team.
My question to you all is how would you handle this situation?

The tubby kid on your team is being harassed by a player on the other team, there is a bit of pushing and shoving, the referee tells both players to behave. My player is clearly upset – “he called me fat” etc.,

Do you

a) tell him to ignore the other guy no matter what he says

b) tell him to go to the referee if it happens again

c) tell him to take the other player out but make it look like a clumsy tackle

Coach Renners


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#1 posted 10-23-2011 01:43 AM

I’d say A. Only because at an older age, talking trash on the field is just part of the game and it’d be better just to get used to it.

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#2 posted 10-23-2011 01:48 AM

Id go with A. probably no perfect solution.

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#3 posted 10-23-2011 02:22 AM

A

I’d really want to take C….. but that’s not the way to handle it for sure. Are the kids in a competition league or just friendly’s…..? either way, it’s A….. but the refs should step in if it’s not “just for fun”. Good luck.

- JJ

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#4 posted 10-23-2011 02:26 AM

I’m going to go against the grain and say D, which is C without trying to disguise it. Tell him beforehand to accept the inevitable ejection from the game as part of the process. I say this because the only language a bully understands is pain.

-- "Sorry I'm late. Somebody tampered with my brakes." "You should have been early, then."

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#5 posted 10-23-2011 02:30 AM

Good point J, but do you know what “U9” means?

- JJ

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#6 posted 10-23-2011 02:35 AM

Under 9? I only wish I’d been encouraged to learn to fight at that age. Would’ve made meeting the school bully easier.

-- "Sorry I'm late. Somebody tampered with my brakes." "You should have been early, then."

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#7 posted 10-23-2011 02:44 AM

growing up playing organized sports for 15 years and for coaching a handful after that there are no right answers to the question. Each person will react and handle these situations differently, the kid thats getting bullied may or may not react favorably to any of the retorts posed. Personally, i would suggest to the kid being harassed that he work harder than the other and let his actions on the field speak louder than his words or other retaliatory actions. Ive seen kids, young and old, make fools out of others because theyve worked harder. There is nothing more satisfactory than showing some one up on a sporting field in a fair manner. Raw physical talent can be outworked by those willing.

From Coach John Wooden:

“You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one.”

“Talent is God-given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.”

-- "there aren’t many hand tools as awe-inspiring as the #8 jointer. I mean, it just reeks of cast iron heft and hubris" - Smitty

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#8 posted 10-23-2011 03:06 AM

Very good points J and Chris….. I just wonder if the answer might should come from the parents instead of the coach. Not sure about that one. What do you think?

- JJ

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#9 posted 10-23-2011 03:57 AM

Been there and done that. A Too bad most of the parrents on opposing teams were worse than my kids!! ;-((

-- "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#10 posted 10-25-2011 01:12 AM

Hmm, interesting.

It is a league we play in, though results are not recorded and there is no league table. I’m appalled actually that this kind of thing happens, but it does. On the occasion in question – a match versus a team from town, I was tempted to take the Clint Eastwood approach, but told him just to ignore the insults. We beat them 3-0 in the end anyway, so even my harassed player went home happy.

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