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Forum topic by richgreer posted 10-16-2011 08:50 PM 1273 views 0 times favorited 6 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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10-16-2011 08:50 PM

Under another, woodworking related, topic, Grizzman asked about my wife’s father. I thought it better to respond with another topic under the “non-shop talk” label.

First, Grizzman, thank you for your concern.

He is not doing well. Physically, he is pretty good for an 89 year old, but his mind is at least 90% gone. Very sad. Nancy’s sister and husband have been staying with him recently, but we all know that admitting him to an institution is “around the corner”.

Nancy is going to see them in November and they will probably make a decision at that time about “next steps”.

Last year my father passed away at the age of 89. My Dad was very sharp mentally until the day he died. His body had just worn out. Nancy’s Dad is the opposite. If given a choice, I would keep my mind as sharp as I can for as long as I can. FYI – Essentially, we are not given a choice.

-- Rich, Cedar Rapids, IA - I'm a woodworker. I don't create beauty, I reveal it.

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#1 posted 10-16-2011 08:59 PM

Sorry to hear the not so good news, hang in there Rich.

-- Roger-R, Republic of Texas. "Always look on the Bright Side of Life" - An eyeball to eyeball confrontation with a blind person is as complete waste of Time.

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#2 posted 10-16-2011 09:51 PM

thank you rich for letting us know, i pray the lords blessings on you all as you go through this tough time, my mother in law passed away this last march at 96, she was clear minded also, and she was here with us until the last 2 days of here life…and then she passed away in her sleep…...., if we can help in any way rich, let us know…grizz

-- GRIZZMAN ...[''''']

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#3 posted 10-17-2011 01:20 AM

Here’s hoping for a smooth road ahead Rich.
I wish we could start out old and grow young.

-- Eric, central Florida / Utor praemia operibus duris

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#4 posted 10-17-2011 05:07 AM

Thanks for posting Rich.

-- I came, I was conquered, I was born again. ἵνα ὦσιν ἓν

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#5 posted 10-17-2011 06:36 AM

sorry to hear Rich, hope things work out for your wife and your self; it’s not an easy road to travel

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#6 posted 10-17-2011 09:39 AM

Sorry to hear that Rich, a tough row to hoe. My dad passed away at 90. The last few years, his mind was not good. I thought he had alzheimer’s, but my mother told me his BP med reacted with anesthesia when they were doing a knee replacement. Ironically, he died from complications of replacing the second knee.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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