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Forum topic by BentheViking posted 06-26-2011 04:03 AM 2679 views 1 time favorited 61 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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06-26-2011 04:03 AM

Before I get started I just wanted to say that I use the term wife in this post because I have a wife and I would guess that many others do as well, but that it could also refer to husbands, fiancees, girlfriends, boyfriends whatever.

But here it is.

My wife went out shopping this morning so I took off to my shop to work on my project. A few hours later she calls to ask if I can help bring groceries in. I go up and help, but as soon as they are done, I ran back downstairs. She calls me back upstairs almost immediately, to ask to help with other household chores not understanding why I was so quick to head back to my shop or why I kind of grumbled through the chores.

All of this got me to thinking how other peoples wives react to your work. Do they care about what your doing (particularly if its not a project for them)? Do they understand all of what goes into a project? Do they understand why you put so much money into your tools and things? Do they come to check out what you are doing during the process or do they only venture in when you drag them in to show off your final project your proud of? Do you even want them in your workspace? Does anyone have a wife that works on projects with them (not some painting, but the real woodworking part of it)? Is part of what you love about your shop the lack of wife, kids, the dog, bills, etc. that allows you to have your own place that you can entirely control?

You certainly don’t have to answer all of these I just wanted to throw the topic out to other LJ’s to get a discussion going? I am recently married (just hit 2 months this week) and am wondering whats going on in other peoples lives.

-- It's made of wood. Real sturdy.--Chubbs Peterson

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#1 posted 06-26-2011 04:14 AM

my wife doesn’t help with projects. she’ll come in and see whats going on or come in to talk to me about something but thats about it.

she has absolutely no problem with me being in the shop though. simply put if i wasnt in the shop i’d be some wheres other than home, (ie golf, fishin, shootin ducks etc)

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#2 posted 06-26-2011 04:21 AM

I frequently get dragged out of the shop as though what I’m doing in there doesn’t really matter and whatever chore she wants dealt with is more important. Didn’t matter that it is a table, the baby’s crib, her cutting board; whatever chore pops in her head as needing to be done takes precedent. Although she likes what is produced and is happy to make use of it she also shows no interest in the build process or comes out to take a look. At least she won’t say anything to me while the power tools are running but waits till I shut them off or notice her.

-- --Rev. Russ in NY-- A posse ad esse

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#3 posted 06-26-2011 04:32 AM

My wife is interested, but I think she gets that I am usually looking for a little solitude when I go down to work on something so she never bothers me.

(apologies in advance for the next few content-less posts – I need to get my post count up to 5 so I can send a pm and didn’t want to bump a thread that wasn’t already current.)

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#4 posted 06-26-2011 04:57 AM

I don’t interfere with her quilting hobby, which costs WAY more than my woodworking (have you priced some of that cloth?- it’s like $600 per cubic foot! That stuff’s pricier than curly walnut!), including the tools, and she doesn’t interfere with my woodworking…much. But then, I commute to work, earn the money AND do the grocery shopping. Consider yourself lucky. Someone should just post a pic of an all-day sucker for me, already, OK?

Ben, you’re a Viking…don’t you have some leftover berserker genes in you? =P

-- Random Orbital Nailer

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#5 posted 06-26-2011 04:58 AM

My wife doesn’t come out much. She is allergic to pine. I have a phone in my shop so she ( or the kids) can page me from the house when she wants something. Always seems to be when my hands are full or dirty. It does annoy me sometimes but I have to remember I’m a dad and husband, too.

-- The more I learn, the more I realize I don't know. Ron, Crossville Tn

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Mickey Cassiba

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#6 posted 06-26-2011 06:24 AM

Since SWMBO is the CFO hereabouts, I gotta put up with a little of that attitude. But when the wood’s a’spinnin, or the blades are turnin’ she knows not to interrupt. Now if I’m watchin glue dry and coolin’ down my CA burnt fingers with a cold one, I’m fair game. It all works out though. I try not to interrupt her daily commune withe Oprah lol

-- One of these hammers oughta fix that...

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#7 posted 06-26-2011 07:13 AM

my wife comes in the shop to see what im doing or just to say hi , she tries to show an interest in what im doing . she asks lots of questions and always remembers the answers . most of the time she will only call me in if its time to eat . i think she likes to do woodworking only with the questions and then back in side away from the noise. she likes to make sure i havent missed anything and that i remembered to make it this way or that . shes kind of like a silent partner in a business venture , dont do anything but checks you out to see if its going in the right direction. ( hers )

-- rick

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#8 posted 06-26-2011 07:27 AM

My wife likes the fact that I can make stuff, and always wants to look at my latest project. But she does not always appreciate the time it takes to complete a project. I recently showed her a picture of the tambour topped box that was in some magazine, and offered to make her one. She told me that I should not make her one, but rather make it for someone that would appreciate it. My response… WHAT? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

Needless to say, the wife likes looking at projects because she knows I like it, but she is not that interested in having projects herself. Having her in the shop is never a good idea. Either she manages to constantly be in the way, or asks question after question after question….

-- Sam

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#9 posted 06-26-2011 10:24 AM

No, no, no, no, no, no, yes, except for grandkids ;-)) They make all the nos worth livng through ;-))

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#10 posted 06-26-2011 10:30 AM

BTW, I’m the handyman the fixes stuff at school that the district won’t or won’t get on a timely basis and I make odds and ends for Campfire too ;-) Lately, I have made a lot of “H”s. That is what she calls them. The bookends do not hold books out of the corners very well where 2 shelves intersect. A board about 10” square attached to another about the same size by one in the middle forming an “H” keeps teh books in their place when stuck back into the corner. I really have to wonder why they built the shelves like that? ;-(

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#11 posted 06-26-2011 12:03 PM

Doan foller de zample ov dat ofay u is shake’n hans wit , dat fo sho .

Do wat dat Woman dun tole u tu du , boy, wen she dun tel u tu du dat .

Doan git no root put onya in da Big Easy , an izt be all peaches , oui .

..............................Translation at ; : )

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David Grimes

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#12 posted 06-26-2011 12:17 PM

moment, I speak fluent coona$$, so therefore no translation is necessary.

Ahhh… what I would give for some properly prepared boudin. ;=)

-- If you're going to stir the pot, think BIG spoon or SMALL boat paddle. David Grimes, Georgia

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#13 posted 06-26-2011 12:27 PM

David ,

You know dats right brother !

A giant porkchop stuffed with boudin , yum .

Sure do miss that delta cookin .

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#14 posted 06-26-2011 12:31 PM

After 32 years of marriage trust me it gets worse. She loves when I get the time to build something but doesn’t get what it takes to get there. So, I smile, mumble under my breathe and then say,” yes dear” !!! Don’t get me wrong I do love my wife.

-- Bob K. East Northport, NY

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#15 posted 06-26-2011 01:06 PM

My sweet Lady has no interest whatsoever in what I do in the shop, she barely knows the difference between a screwdriver and a pair of pliers. To her ever lasting credit, she totally supports my right to do whatever I want to do whether it be working in he shop or hunting or fishing or just about anything else. I try to not abuse her kind nature and we do many, many other things together.

-- ♫♪♪♫♫ Saddletramp, saddletramp, I'm as free as the breeze and I ride where I please, saddletramp ♪♪♪♫♪ ...... Bob W....NW Michigan (Traverse City area)

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