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Forum topic by poopiekat posted 10-29-2010 09:26 PM 2595 views 0 times favorited 58 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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poopiekat

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10-29-2010 09:26 PM

Hey, have you ever been made someone’s ‘buddy’, by a person with whom you’ve never had any contact? In the past, it was on a few occaisions that someone, using an alias, added me to their buddy list. No feedback, no contact, and it left me wondering what the purpose was. It turned out to be someone making improper comments, following me around by using Buddy activity notices. Surely the individual would have made some sort of personal contact, connection, conversation for me to think it was legitimate. So.. this person today made some sort of spammy comment on one of my projects, saying ‘hi, Dear”... How do I get this person-bot to remove her name from my Buddy list? Well, it’s either spam, or yet another mischief-maker. Any idea? Is it possible to prevent unsolicited people from making me their buddy? Shouldn’t we be able to accept/decline a buddy request? Thanks in advance for your thoughts on the subject!

-- Einstein: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." I'm Poopiekat!!


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#1 posted 10-29-2010 09:28 PM

WOW is all I have to say

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#2 posted 10-29-2010 09:49 PM

block that person

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#3 posted 10-29-2010 09:55 PM

I imagine it would be pretty complicated for Martin to make it like Facebook, where you have to accept a buddy request. Actually, I don’t see how that would prevent someone from stalking you on the site anyway. All a person has to do is go to your home page to view your activity, and they can jump in on any thread or project you have commented on.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#4 posted 10-29-2010 11:15 PM

I’ve always assumed that “buddy” simply meant “email me when this person updates something”.

If you’re having trouble with them making untoward comments, just block them.

-- Dan Lyke, Petaluma California, http://www.flutterby.net/User:DanLyke

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#5 posted 10-29-2010 11:42 PM

I use the “Buddy” list more or less like Dan does.

-- Larry "Work like a Captain but Play like a Pirate!"

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#6 posted 10-29-2010 11:43 PM

Thanks for the replies, so far!
This is the message I received on a project: hi dear how are you my name is amani and i am living in coquitlam .i made cnc and i will Happy to contact with you my phone is 778 855 60 47please call me thanks bye So that’s what I mean by an inappropriate message.
If I could just flip a switch and make it so that ‘Buddies’ are by mutual consent, fine! Charlie, you’re undoubtedly correct; the option probably is not set up in the LJ site. I respectfully asked this person to remove me from her buddy list. I don’t need ridiculous comments like that posted on my projects. It discourages real people from coming forward with legitimate feedback.

-- Einstein: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." I'm Poopiekat!!

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#7 posted 10-30-2010 02:15 AM

Hey, Doctor Livingston!
Don’t worry, your comments are always welcome on my threads, and I’m flattered that I’m your buddy! I like your new tagline also…cuz we gotta accommodate those who gotta win the prize for the most comments. I took Rustic’s advice, by blocking this person, he/she does not have me as a buddy now. Didn’t know that was all there was to it! Agreed, this is by far the best woodworking site, glad to be a part of it!

-- Einstein: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." I'm Poopiekat!!

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#8 posted 10-30-2010 02:29 AM

Glad you got it sorted, haven’t had that sort of thing here myself .
And I always thought the same as Dan, that it was just to notify you when a certain person posted something. It can be a bit off putting when you get targeted like that or even taken the wrong way and a person has a go at you. But hey…. it takes all types to make teh worl go round and boy isn’t it getting smaller by the day!
Anyway, Have a good one!

-- Theresa, https://sites.google.com/site/tmj65treasure/

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#9 posted 10-30-2010 03:00 AM

If it were me, not to give Martin any more work, but I’d cut and paste the offending message and email it over to Martin to have them remove this person.

-- James

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#10 posted 10-30-2010 03:59 AM

Poopiekat, getting added to someone’s buddie list without any comment is pretty normal. It is supposed to be used to follow that buddy’s posts.

What you are describing is a spam event. Send Martin a PM about this and he should remove this member from the site. I get private messages like this occasionally but, usually, am not the first one who is contacted.

-- Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful- Joshua Marine

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#11 posted 10-30-2010 04:45 AM

I had the some odd posts such as these and PM’d Martin with the persons username and desription of the posts and the odd links that were with the posts. The posts and that person were gone in a couple days, so I assumed Martin remove him/her.

-- Gary; Marysville, MI...Involve your children in your projects as much as possible, the return is priceless.

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#12 posted 10-30-2010 05:18 AM

Most of the people on my buddy list are folks that I have had little or no direct contact with. I added them because I found their posts and work interesting or educational, usually both. Most of the folks who have added me to their buddy list have also had little or no direct contact with me. I assume they added me for similar reasons and I find it flattering.

I like the way the friends feature works in Facebook because I use it for keeping in contact with people and family that I know outside of the internet and I don’t want random people I’ve never met browsing or posting on my site. Lumberjocks is very different, I use it to show off my work and to learn from and interact with other woodworks so I want random people I’ve never met to browse my site and post comments. Because of that I like the buddies feature just like it is.

-- Don - I wood work if I could. Redmond WA.

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#13 posted 10-30-2010 03:26 PM

Well, ok perhaps it is a bit unreasonable of me, but the people who I wish to be buddies with are ones with whom I’ve had banter with in various discussions in the past. You know, my peers, people I’d hang out with in real life, not perfect strangers and hangers-on who won’t even identify themselves to me. I AM under the presumption that everyone else in LJ is possibly a friend maybe at some point in the future, and those we select as buddies are those who have a mutual alliance in their philosophies toward life.

-- Einstein: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." I'm Poopiekat!!

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#14 posted 10-30-2010 04:01 PM

I’m very new here and I presumed that I should buddy those members who I wanted to keep track of, for many reasons. In the short time I’ve been on I’ve buddied people who tickled my intellect, or my sense of humor, or out of pure admiration of their skills. I believe that given the opportunity I would probably be friends with the majority of those people.

-- Dan - Valparaiso, Indiana, "A smart man changes his mind, a fool never does."

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#15 posted 10-30-2010 06:26 PM

PK that sounds more like SPAM.

-- Ohh mann...pancakes and boobies...I'll bet that's what Heaven is like! ♣ ♣ ♣ ♣

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