long life ending and my dad

snowdog, I’m real sorry about your dad and I know how sad your mom must be. Getting old is not easy nor is loosing a parent or husband. Your dad will just be passing away into a better place where there are no more tears.

Yes, God looks down on those who talk to Him and He loves us and cares for us and He will one day wipe away all of our tears as well just like He will soon do for your dad. He will make you and your mom “find strength in what remains behind” and your dad will be in the promised land waiting on you both to get there with him some day. God Bless.

-- If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away. Henry David Thoreau

Dear Snowdog,
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Know that prayers are sent even before you have asked. For a science guy you are exercising your faith well. Know that why you may not hear God at this time His hand is at work in your life your mothers and in what is left of your fathers. While this is a hard pill to swallow, the bitterness of death will pass and know that when the time comes you will all be united again someday. Just be there for your mother and give her the support that is needed. Call Hospice and get them involved, they can help a lot in times like this not only in making your Dad comfortable as possible, but they are there for you and your Mom.
I have just been through this process with my adopted Mom she passed away on the 14th of this month. It was difficult to let her go and as her caregiver it was hard. One thing as I look back is the memories during her final journey that we shared. We laughed, we cried, we sang hymns, I read to her. If you need to talk know that we are hear to support you during this difficult time.

-- I don't make mistakes, I have great learning lessons, Greg

BE THERE FOR YOUR MOM, AND PERSEVERE IN YOUR PRAYING. HE ANSWERS ALL OUR PRAYERS, IN HIS TIME AND IN HIS WAY. HE IS ALWAYS WITH US, WE JUST HAVE TO OPEN OUR HEARTS TO ACKNOWLEDGE HIS PRESENCE IN OUR LIVES. GREGON GAVE YOU SOME EXCELLENT ADVICE. IT TAKES TIME AFTER THE DEATH OF A PARENT TO HEAL. I LOST MY MOM A FEW YEARS AGO AND I STILL MISS HER GREATLY, BUT I KNOW SHE LIVE ON. I SEE HER AND FEEL HER PRESENCE IN MY FAMILY, AND TAKE COMFORT IN THAT. I KNOW THAT GOD HAS ANSWERED MY PRAYERS TO TAKE AWAY THE PAIN OF THAT LOSS. IN HIS TIME, IN HIS WAY. YOUR FAMILY WILL BE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS, MIKE

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

Your dad, mom, and you will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

Snowdog,

As your dad’s journey on life’s road approaches the ultimate destination, I pray that you and your mom will let Lord continue to guide and comfort you. May God wrap his arms around each of you and may you lean on His strength as you pass through this difficult period. Know that our prayers for you and your family are already in His ear… Know that He, who knows when a sparrow falls, surely knows how hard it can be to have to let one you love go through the valley…

May you and your mother be blessed in ways you can’t currently foresee.

Herb

-- Herb, Florida - Here's why I close most messages with "Be Careful!" http://lumberjocks.com/HerbC/blog/17090

Sent. Good luck sir.

-- Ohh mann...pancakes and boobies...I'll bet that's what Heaven is like! ♣ ♣ ♣ ♣

Mimi and I have you, your Mom and your family in our prayers.

Stay strong and cherish the life and memories of your Dad.

-- Lew- Time traveler. Purveyor of the world's finest custom rolling pins!

We’ll pray for you so you can go and spend as much time with your Dad and Mom as you can before his time runs out. My mom died back in March and I was lucky enough to take an unscheduled 1 week vacation the week before she died to go see her. Yes she was sick but she had been sick for a while but at the last minute my family and my brothers family decided to show up for a surprise visit. I don’t know why becasue I was supposed to go visit her that summer. I had no vacation time left but I went anyway. I just felt I had to go. A week later just a few hours before we were all supposed to leave to go home she suffered a massive stroke. We spent 3 days in the hospital with her before she finally passed. It was the first time our whole family was together in a long time. It was a hard time but considering the circumstances it could not have turned out better. She did not die alone. She was 64, way too young.

My advice is to remember to good times and shed a few tears of joy when you do.

God bless.

-- If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail!

Snowdog:

I’ve been there (1996). I’m sure so many of us have.

I wish you and your family strength and peace.

You’ll all be in my thoughts…..

-- -- Neil

you and your family are In my prayers
Enjoy every happy thought you and your dad ever had together.

-- W James Brokenbourgh Custom furniture maker http://artisticwoodstudio.com/

You got me thinking about 1996, and my dad passing.

It’s not really cool to “give advice” in these situations, but … I’m taking a chance:

Are you near him, geographically ?

Such a long, long time to be gone,
And a short time to be there.

I ONLY regret that I didn’t get a few minutes with my dad, at the very end. The end came suddenly.

If you’re there, and you can … it’s something to think about. Those few extra minutes….

-- -- Neil

We’ll be thinking, & praying about you.

-- -** You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream ****************** Dick, & Barb Cain, Hibbing, MN. http://www.woodcarvingillustrated.com/gallery/member.php?uid=3627&protype=1

I do pray, and will be happy to oblige.
Good luck to your family.

-- Eric

Today I chopped split logs, then took a walk in my woods, shed a few tears for a relationship I wish I could have had. Dreams of a past never had, dreams of a past with my dad.

Of course I thank you all for the words and insight. Yes I am close in distance, about 4 hours and go often to visit, I think I will go again tomorrow for a few days.

I wish I had the faith that some of you have but that is not what I was given. I was given a mind that questions “… with boldness even the existence of God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason than that of blindfolded fear”. Not that any of you believe due to fear, I just love T Jefferson and his view on the world.

I had a dream once in which I had to kill myself (shot gun to the head) due to Zombie invasion, no escape left and I sure was not going to become a zombie :) The one thing that stands out most was my thoughts, just before I pulled the trigger (I can still remember the taste of the barrel in my mouth), was at least I will find out what is on the other side of life. I awoke as the back of my head came off. Gezz that was 30 years ago, still creeps me out :)

Ok so I got a little side tracked there. Life is short and I am not, I’ll go visit tomorrow. See you all see. thanks again

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

You are all in my heart, and thoughts.
Mads

-- Mad F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect. Democraticwoodworking.