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Forum topic by F Dudak posted 02-16-2010 12:47 AM 1188 views 0 times favorited 4 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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F Dudak

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02-16-2010 12:47 AM

A woman friend of mine at work lost her son last Tuesday to a relationship gone bad; he was 15 years young. He was a well liked young man and was an excellent athlete. We talked in passing on how well he was doing in baseball and that he may have a shot at the big leagues. She had taken him to camps out of state on a few occasions and was so proud of how well he was doing. She worked third shift so that she was able to be at all of her 2 boys functions as they were growing up. Seeing the memorial at the front of the church today and all of the shattered faces of his loved ones really hit me hard, and I can’t nor do I want to imagine what she has been feeling these days leading up to today. We should never have to bury our children.

This was a gut check for me. I am very involved with my children and their activities but I realized once again today that every day is a gift and we should treat it as such. Let your family know how much you love them! Do things with your children that you don’t necessarily want to do, because it may mean more to them than you could ever imagine. Even the little day to day things that you may feel are unimportant mean everything to a child. Situations like this remind us of just how fragile they really are. To any of you youngsters that frequent this site, remember that ending it all is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Reach out to your loved ones because they are there to pick you up in your time of need. It’s what families do.

I am counting my blessings and praying that my friend and her family will one day be at peace knowing that their family member has gone on to a better place. Please say a prayer for them in their time of need. Thanks for listening.

-- Fred.... Poconos, PA ---- Chairwright in the making ----

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#1 posted 02-16-2010 12:49 AM

Thank you for the reminder, Fred.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#2 posted 02-16-2010 02:09 AM

Hi Fred,

I will keep your friend and her family in prayer. These things are truly tragedies all the way around because the survivors often also blame themselves. They could be the best parents in the world, but over time they will wonder if they could have done something more and that is a nightmare deal.

For me it is all about trusting in God’s grace (Romans 8:38-39) when there are no answers and people feel pain like this. Being a compassionate human being and caring for your friend is act of mercy. Every day, every moment in the shop, and every time we have with family are gifts to be cherished.



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#3 posted 02-16-2010 02:35 AM

im very sorry for your friend..and you are right , we should not have to bury our children..i hope that they all can be blessed with peace and i hope you to have comfort as well…

-- GRIZZMAN ...[''''']

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#4 posted 02-16-2010 02:44 AM

Your friend and her family will be in our prayers as well. My wife and I worry about making sure our kids know that they’re loved and nothing will come their way that they and we can’t deal with. I can’t imagine how diificult it must be for her and selfishly hope I never have to find out. You are blessed to be aware yourself of the importance of being involved. I see too many families that are barely aware of each other anymore.

-- Robert - Haven Wood Crafts

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