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Forum topic by interpim posted 01-03-2016 06:09 AM 1383 views 0 times favorited 46 replies Add to Favorites Watch
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01-03-2016 06:09 AM

Hello folks…

I’m having a bit of a problem with my teen boy slamming his bedroom door when he gets upset.

My current situation is temporarily fixed by removing his door, and tomorrow he is going to learn how to patch drywall where the doorknob hit it.

As for long term solutions, does anyone know if there is a product that will prevent the door from being slammed? It’s just a simple hollow core 6 panel door.

Any solutions are appreciated.

-- San Diego, CA

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#1 posted 01-03-2016 06:48 AM

A door closer would do it. Lot’s of choices from things like screen doors have to $300 commercial units.

-- Clin

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#2 posted 01-03-2016 07:00 AM

I finally tossed his door in the dumpster. His room was a pigsty and he kept the door blocked so we couldn’t open it. A slight problem with what he logged into on the net. His mom was truly upset when she saw that stuff. Boys gonna be boys, but her little boy was not that kind. Yeah right! 14 years later and there is still no door to that OFFICE.

-- Still trying to master kindling making

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#3 posted 01-03-2016 07:01 AM

Yeah, a closer would work, but it would probably break the door when it’s slammed next time. Same deal with one of those rubber tipped stopper things to keep it from hitting the wall. But having gone through the “you are ruining my life” phase with my kids many years ago, all I can tell you is that it will pass… eventually… although it may seem like an eternity :) How old is your son?

(Who went through the same phase when I was a kid, as did my dad, as did his dad, ......)

-- Brad in FL - To be old and wise, you must first be young and stupid

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#4 posted 01-03-2016 07:07 AM

He’s 14, and I remember having similar problems when I was his age… I’m trying to turn it into a learning experience and show him what it takes to repair stuff like this when he pitches a fit… I bet after his second round of sanding drywall compound he will think twice before slamming the door.

-- San Diego, CA

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#5 posted 01-03-2016 12:23 PM

”...a product that will prevent a door from being slammed?”

Check with the guys at the link posted above

-- - Crud. Go tell your mother that I need a Band-aid.

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#6 posted 01-03-2016 12:37 PM

I am not certain that the method my dad used is allowed any more. But, it was very effective. It had nothing to do with drywall and more related to hardwood. Discipline was much different when I grew up.

I think I would have stripped his room to nothing but a blanket.

Oh well, I am an old guy. It is amazing to watch how these type of things have changed with time. It seems the kids run the house.

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#7 posted 01-03-2016 01:12 PM

I could be rude and seem primeval but I won’t.


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#8 posted 01-03-2016 01:44 PM

In teaching behavior modification I put a lot of emphasis on the 5 “W’s”

What happened
Where it happened
When it happened
Why it happened
What can we do so it doesn’t happen again
So, the last W leads into making a deal with him. For example:
Set some consequences for when it happens like losing a privilege or fixing the damage
Provide a reward for using the alternative to slamming doors to express anger/frustration like earning a point. a good alternative in this case is to say a code word which leads to everyone backing off for 10 minutes prior to reasonably discussing the matter. Punching a pillow or yelling in his room to let off steam during this time is a good idea.
When he chooses to use the alternative, he gets a point that can never be taken away and once he earns let’s say 5 points, he gets something that you have agreed on. It takes a minimum of 7 weeks to replace one behavior with another so, give it some time. The goal is for him to control his emotions not you.
The reason you need to answer the other 4 questions is to see whether there is a pattern to this behavior. Write down every time he gets angry and see if over time you see clusters.
Good luck


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#9 posted 01-03-2016 02:09 PM

It’s time to teach the little brat some respect. A belt taught me a lot

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#10 posted 01-03-2016 02:24 PM

Time and persistence in dealing with you teenager. Tried a few of those programs for behavior modification, then my wife started watching and applying Dog Whisperer techniques. That seemed to work a little (its actually behavior modification for the parents) .

Keep in mind a few things:
1) He’ll eventually grow out of this if you are persistent—somewhere around age 22 :-)
2) 4 more years and you can kick him out without legal consequences
3) Keep your and your wife’s sense of humor above all: We posted a sign up on the refrigerator: Teenagers Act Now
4) They still put you away in this country for doing away with your kids, even if you’re in Texas and tell the judge he needed killing

-- bkseitz, Washington "if everything is going well, you've obviously overlooked something"

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#11 posted 01-03-2016 03:38 PM

The question is…Will he grow out of it? Or will be take the lack of discipline with him as an adult. I believe that teaching responsibility starts at a young age. Children as early as possible should be helping with picking up toys and house hold chores. It should become a routine of helping with kitchen duty, house cleaning, clothes washing and yard work. We told our children that they live in the house and should share the work.

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#12 posted 01-03-2016 03:50 PM

Maybe a couple open handed slaps across the mouth will keep the door from slamming.

Just kidding. A little bit.

-- Shooting down the walls of heartache. Bang bang. I am. The warrior.

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#13 posted 01-03-2016 03:53 PM

One quick solution that works quite well is to go to the door take a small philips head screw driver and a hammer. Gently push the pins up from the bottom of the hinge and take that door out to the garrage for a time. He can change in the bathroom. It all about the respect and if you ain’t gettin’ it, he ain’t gettin’ it. Teens are gods way of punishing you for what you did when you were a teen. ;)
Hope that helped.

-- Brian Noel

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#14 posted 01-03-2016 04:01 PM

Well he has to know his actions have consequences, right now it just means pissing you off but down the road it gets real and those that don’t don’t learn this suffer such as losing a job, losing a relationship, or losing their freedom.

Slamming the door isn’t the problem, impulse control is.

I like the idea of taking the door off, but kids today the thing that hurts them more than anything is taking away the smartphone.

I don’t like the idea of a reward for acting the way he is supposed to act to begin with, that is just “everyone gets a trophy”.

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#15 posted 01-03-2016 04:22 PM

Stop already with the belts, slaps and other such stuff (I’m a pediatric nurse practitioner and deal with lots of 14 year olds!). He is 14 and 14 year olds are naturally stupid about stuff. Wait it out – they all grow up and most are embarrassed by their behavior at that age. Set limits and follow through on rules. He will at least know what’s expected. A room with a blanket only is not a room. It teaches him nothing. Weren’t any of you guys ever young???

As for slamming the door and destroying plaster. One rule is… you break it – you fix it…before you go out of the house the next time.

-- "Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." Voltaire

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