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Jerry

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07-13-2015 02:05 AM

Something life changing is going on for my wife and I.

Our landlady passed a few months ago, and we were recently informed that the kids who inherited all of her houses don’t want to deal with rental properties, so we have to move.

My wife’s Dad has Parkinson’s, her mother has Alzheimer’s.

They’ve been asking us to move in with them as caretakers until such time as it becomes obvious that they need to move into an adult care facility, so we have decided to do that.

I probably won’t be anywhere around here for awhile, as I am going to be the person moving us.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/


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#1 posted 07-13-2015 02:23 AM

Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do! Have been dealing with my Mother In Laws Health problems for over 10 years, My Dad passed almost 3 years ago and have finally talked Mom into downsizing, she Moves in Sept, guess who is moving her? By the way she lives 800 miles away. I just laugh when I think who is going to look after me? Well life goes on. Good Luck.

-- Lifting one end of the plank.

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#2 posted 07-13-2015 03:18 AM

A close family is always more important than absolutely anything else.

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#3 posted 07-13-2015 05:14 AM

I’m sure most of us have a few of those life altering events in our lives. Sounds like the timing is right. You have to go and they need you to come. Good luck with what ever you do.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#4 posted 07-13-2015 05:18 AM

Sort of been thru the same thing. Had Father in law move in with us. That was a rough 3 years. He and I were like oil and water !! Sure hope you get along well with your in laws, that will make life so much easier. I wish you all the best.

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#5 posted 07-13-2015 06:04 AM



Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do! Have been dealing with my Mother In Laws Health problems for over 10 years, My Dad passed almost 3 years ago and have finally talked Mom into downsizing, she Moves in Sept, guess who is moving her? By the way she lives 800 miles away. I just laugh when I think who is going to look after me? Well life goes on. Good Luck.

- Andre

You know, there’s an old saying, “If you hung everybody’s problems out on a line like you hang out laundry, at the end of the day, everybody would choose their own laundry to bring back in.”

Your road has been tougher than ours will be I think.

You will be in my thoughts and hopes that you will have a good outcome.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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Jerry

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#6 posted 07-13-2015 06:06 AM



A close family is always more important than absolutely anything else.

- Greg..the Cajun Wood Artist

Some folks say you are not born into your family, rather you find your true family once you go out into the world. This has been true for me.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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#7 posted 07-13-2015 06:06 AM



I m sure most of us have a few of those life altering events in our lives. Sounds like the timing is right. You have to go and they need you to come. Good luck with what ever you do.

- TopamaxSurvivor

It is amazing, huh, your comment was spot on. Thank you for your good wishes.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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Jerry

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#8 posted 07-13-2015 06:13 AM


Sort of been thru the same thing. Had Father in law move in with us. That was a rough 3 years. He and I were like oil and water !! Sure hope you get along well with your in laws, that will make life so much easier. I wish you all the best.

- BurlyBob

My wife’s father is a man that I admire. He’s a hard worker, always been self sufficient, but most of all, he’s always been a dreamer and has done some great things with his life. He built one of the most famous hot rods of all time, the X-51, he built a sailboat and sailed it around the world with his wife and two kids, and then he built his Velomobile. He is truly an inspiration to me, and then today when we went over for a visit, ( now he’s 81 and on Parkinson’s disease medications that cause him a lot of dizziness ), he was up on a ladder hosing off the roof. Then we took a look around and made plans to build my new shop in his pole building out back. His idea. Wonderful man. No doubt there will be some rough patches, but that’s life.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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Roger

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#9 posted 07-13-2015 12:24 PM

Sorry to hear of this Jerry. One step at a time buddy. We will all be up there one day. Wish you and your family the best.

-- Roger from KY. Work/Play/Travel Safe. Keep your dust collector fed. Kentuk55@yahoo.com

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#10 posted 07-13-2015 03:18 PM

We are going through a similar situation with my elderly parents.
They are fortunate to be able to afford assisted living.
He sounds like a really great guy. Enjoy each day at a time.
Good luck with the transition.

-- Everything is a prototype thats why its one of a kind!!

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Jerry

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#11 posted 07-13-2015 03:40 PM



Sorry to hear of this Jerry. One step at a time buddy. We will all be up there one day. Wish you and your family the best.

- Roger


Thanks Roger, have to admit it’s a bit scary, but it won’t be the first time I’ve walked headfirst into into the fray.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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Jerry

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#12 posted 07-13-2015 03:42 PM



We are going through a similar situation with my elderly parents.
They are fortunate to be able to afford assisted living.
He sounds like a really great guy. Enjoy each day at a time.
Good luck with the transition.

- rwe2156

Thanks amigo, they could afford it as well, but he’s really attached to his home and his projects, I just want them to be able to stay in their home as long as they can.

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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#13 posted 07-13-2015 06:19 PM

Right decisions are often the most difficult to make. You have chosen well. In the end, family and friends, and the way we respond to their needs, is how we are judged.
I /we will miss you in your absence. Check in once in a while, just to say hi.

-- Made in America, with American made tools....Shopsmith

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Jerry

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#14 posted 07-13-2015 08:09 PM



Right decisions are often the most difficult to make. You have chosen well. In the end, family and friends, and the way we respond to their needs, is how we are judged.
I /we will miss you in your absence. Check in once in a while, just to say hi.

- jumbojack

Thanks Jack, if I have time I will. Just went to UHaul and bought 50 boxes…

-- There are good ships and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea, but the best ships are friendships and may they always be. http://geraldlhunsucker.com/

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Don Broussard

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#15 posted 07-13-2015 08:51 PM

Best wishes to you as you and your family navigate unfamiliar territory, Jerry. My wife and I are fixing up the home I grew up in, and will pack up and move to take care of my Mom, stepfather and a brother and sister, so I understand and empathize with you. I keep reminding myself that that we will be me and my wife someday, and maybe sooner than I know.

-- People say I hammer like lightning. It's not that I'm fast -- it's that I never hit the same place twice!

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