Yesterday was a pretty good day. Being "Mother's Day" meant that it was full of emotion. Perhaps it was just that I am more connected with people through places such as Facebook that I realize that so many people have stories to tell. Perhaps it is just because I am getting older and more aware of how fragile human life and happiness is. Or maybe because this is the first year I am a 'grandmother' that my awareness of the day is heightened. In any case, I spent the day reading and smiling and appreciating my own children and families – whether they are related through blood or friendship.
My dear friend from childhood very suddenly lost her husband and my heart is breaking for her and their entire family. I didn't know him as well as I would have liked to, as twenty or so years ago when they married my friend and I were already living different lives. However, I saw him when I visited her and I knew how happy she has been since he came into her life. Her own five children are grown and nearly grown now, and I know that they along with her sisters and two grand daughters will help her through this horrible time. But I feel very sad and helpless being so far away and not being able to comfort her. Life is so very difficult at times. I am so happy she has them to rally around her.
My own two children called me yesterday, which meant the world to me. Even though they are so far away, I am very grateful for things like Skype and Facebook. They really help people feel closer.
What amazes me most is that my children went from this:
at the blink of an eye. I still look back in amazement.
And then there is my little Willow:
Growing by leaps and bounds every day.
Like most parents, I feel a great amount of joy in seeing my own children thrive. I do, and always will look on them as my greatest accomplishment. I know that I wasn't always a "perfect parent", but then – no parent is really perfect, are they? We all kind of learn as we go and hope for the best, as the personalities of each child varies so vastly it is impossible to know what will work and what will not. We learn every day as we go. I am still learning.
I spent the rest of the day with both of my 'moms'. It was good and comforting for me to know that those that I love have also become friends and enjoy spending time together. Keith's mom and Ellen (my "Canadian Mom" as I call her) are kind and supportive and wonderful 'parents'. After many years of not having 'parents', it feels wonderful to feel that I do again.
Life can be hard. Most people that I know don't live "Hallmark" lives. Most days are filled with ups and downs and ever-changing circumstances that are sometimes beyond our control. Whether we like the way things are or not, we learn that we need to accept some things and deal with them the best that we can. Having others around to help us through those tough times is everything.
The older that I get, the more I appreciate those significant people in my life. Be it family or friends or even sometimes people I have never even met face-to-face, they are all important to me and they have made my life better. I am greatful every single day.
I feel that it is good to stop and take a breath and reflect every once in a while. When I do, I realize how many good people and things are in my life every single day. I certainly am fortunate and very grateful.
Have a wonderful Monday.
-- Designer/Artist/Teacher. Owner of Sheila Landry Designs (http://www.sheilalandrydesigns.com) Scroll saw, wood working and painting patterns and surfaces. "Knowledge is Power"