So you think you can go pro ? :) #7: Do what you love ( but please don't kill yourself to get there)

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Blog entry by sawblade1 posted 02-26-2011 07:56 AM 1142 reads 0 times favorited 9 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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Good evening, As I write this blog I am dedicating it to my co worker Beverly who passed away Monday February 15 2011from cancer.
Achieving Goals have been a given for mankind since the beginning of time, as humans we desire things that we work hard sometimes too hard to achieve. Maybe a new tool, truck, house, or a business, the list is endless but one thing we must remember is these are material things and are replaceable or can be attained at a later date.
One thing about knowing Bev was that you had to get to know her to actually like or love her, She was always mean and grumpy snapping at times just because she was tired. What made her tired is she was working two jobs to try and achieve and keep a certain lifestyle and goal, unfortunately she departed this earth before reaching her goal with only 2.5 years left to go. I remember three years ago she was complaining about a hurt in her side by her stomach with a small lump or knot. we told her then to go but she refused stating it cost to much and she couldn’t afford the time off. Well in October of last year she went to the hospital and they found a mass on her stomach, It was cancer, and it was too late Four months later we lost our friend her family lost a mother, grand mother, sister and a aunt. we lost one of the best workers we had, a friend and a union sister.
Which brings me to this quote by Byran Dyson Former CEO of Coca-Cola

Imagine Life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air, They are Work, Family, Friends, and spirit and you are keeping all of these in the air
You will soon understand that Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it it will bounce back But the other four balls- Family,Health, Friends, and Spirit are made of Glass. If you drop one of these the will be irrevocably scuffed,marked,nicked,damaged, or even shattered.
They will never be the same You must understand this and strive for it. Because value has a value only if it is valued.
Small businesses traditionally take long hours, time, money, and sacrifice but they should never consume you as this is classed as work!!! if you are working and don’t have the time for your family, hobbies or your friends Please take the time to reconsider what you are doing Don’t kill yourself over material things the people in your life are counting in you and you should count yourself in there as well to
Work at what you love or want But do it reasonably, you still have time :)

-- Proverbs Ch:3 vs 5,6,7 Trust in the lord with all thine heart and lean not unto your own understanding but in all your ways aknowledge him and he shall direct your path

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#1 posted 02-26-2011 08:46 AM

Too bad. I knew a fellow whose drs didn’t believe him. By the timie they found his cancer it was to late too. Gone in about 4 months. After surviving Topamax posioning, I can tellyoiu it is best to llve as if each day were yoiur lst. p

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#2 posted 02-26-2011 08:48 AM

My condolences on the loss of your co worker and friend. It is a sad, sad thing for her family. I imagine they will always wonder if she could have been saved, if the cancer had been found sooner. Please allow me to tell my own story…I work for a huge retailer. My job when I became ill was so unimportant – I stocked the dairy department. But I was cowed, by the company and by my misplaced sense of duty (to them, instead of to me) and I wouldn’t take the time to go to the Dr’s. I only did so when I was missing enough work to risk being let go (6 “approved” days in 6 months is all that’s allowed). I went to the Dr’s, was hospitalized immediately for a transfusion, and found out I had uterine cancer. A slow growing one, they felt I may have had it for at least a year. I was so very, very fortunate in that it didn’t hit any blood vessels or lymph tissue – the hysterectomy got all of it. I still get checked every 3 months, and it’s been two years with a clean bill of health. Since then I’ve cut down to as few hours as I can and still keep full benefits. I work slightly longer shifts, but only 3 days a week. I cut back on frivolous expenses, and I actually live at just about the same level as before. I am enjoying myself like I did back when I was a burden free teenager! Lifestyles can be changed, but you have to BE alive to do so. I hope everybody that sees your post will give more thought to what is really important to them and their families. I lost my mother to cancer whhen I was 20, because she was stubborn, too. Sometimes it’s hard to remember we can hurt family more when we think we’re doing our best to provide for them… The quote from Bryan Dyson was right on the mark. Sorry for rambling on so much…

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#3 posted 02-26-2011 08:57 AM

That is why both my husband and I take each day for what it is and if a oportunity arises we grab it with both hands. You dont know when or if the next one will come along and if we will be in any state to take it. Love life and live it. Dont regret what could have been!!

-- Theresa,

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#4 posted 02-26-2011 09:14 AM

Good write. Thanks for sharing…

-- Childress Woodworks

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#5 posted 02-26-2011 09:21 AM

My neighbour was in pain for 4 months and could not see a doctor because she lost her job and had no insuranse.
I convinced her to go to the emergency room. she never came out.
she had several bone fracture. It was too late to save her.
2 weeks after she was admitted she died from multiple meyloma (bone cancer).

I will never forget that.

-- Abbas, Castro Valley, CA

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#6 posted 02-26-2011 09:39 AM

First, my sincere condolences on the loss of your friend.

Yes, self employment can involve long hours and much work, but it should not be a sacrifice. If you aren’t enjoying it, get out! NOW, before it’s too late!

If you don’t look forward with joy to the day ahead, you’re in the wrong business! I was self employed in one form or another most of my adult life. I owned my first business at age 14, so I speak from a half century of experience.

Yes, you will most likely make less per hour than you would in a 9 to 5 job with a pension and benefits.

Yes, you will work many more hours than you would in that 9 to 5, and without paid holidays or days off or long weekends.

However, you will also have much more satisfaction from the work you do.

You will end the day with a sense of actually having made something. Something you can actually see! These are things no 9 to 5 is ever going to give you. They are worth more than mere money to a true craftsman. If they are to you too, then you are in the right business! Hang in there, and if you are any good, the money will come. It will take time, and you will never be rich, but you will probably live longer and you will surely live happier.

It takes a special kind of person to be self employed successfully. Good craftsmanship is not enough. It tales skills in every part of running a business, from advertising to bookkeeping to scheduling to inventory control, etc etc etc.

My point? If you’re the right kind of person, then the only way you’ll be happy is working for yourself. If not, you are headed for a sad time. Still, if you think you can make it, the only sure way to find out is to take the bit in your teeth and try.

If you do, I wish you all the luck in the world.

You’re gonna need it! :)

-- The nicer the nice, the higher the price!

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#7 posted 02-26-2011 05:11 PM

Great post
I think we all need to be reminded of the important things more often.

-- Emmett, from Georgia

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#8 posted 02-26-2011 10:44 PM

Condolences from my side too.

Big Tiny, Well spoken, very well spoken!

-- Div @ the bottom end of Africa. "A woodworker's sharpest tool should be his mind."

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#9 posted 02-27-2011 02:18 PM

I’m sorry.
Yes life sure is a line of choices, and we need to be loyal to our hearts.
Best thoughts,

-- MAD F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect. Democraticwoodworking.

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