I'm Destroyed

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Blog entry by sawblade1 posted 11-03-2010 08:53 AM 2082 reads 0 times favorited 31 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Good morning LJ’s I don’t want to burden anyone but I just need an ear to listen.

Last night I lost all common respect, courtesy, and faith in my fellow man at work :( Yesterday was bad but it wasn’t the worst compared to today, The shift was usual up until about 8:30 when one of my newer co-workers began acting like he was watching me (Supervisory style) Well me and my partner went on as usual stopping at lunch and eating on our cart where we were, Here’s where it began the newer co- worker told my supervisor we were playing chess and eating in our area 1. We were within our legal lunch break 2. We were not sitting at a desk or in an unauthorized area and 3. We were minding our business on an unpaid lunch When my boss came up and let me have it stating I was to make the 10 minute walk to and from our break room mind you we only get 1/2 hour lunch and 20 minutes will be spent coming and going and the fact of us having recreation on lunch really set the pace for a butt chewing :( So after giving me two extra assignments as punishment :p notice me sticking my tongue out here LOL . I completed my task taking four small bags of trash down on the passenger elevator when we were busted again and the tone of his voice, attitude, and demeanor was 1. Unbecoming to a supervisor 2. not necessary for the situation 3. Was very degrading and his lack of concern for my well being and final comments were damning at the least:( This phrase has been brought up before ( if you don’t like to do your job then go cut wood) I have been there just shy of four years, have done my job, never been late or unexcused from work without being legitimately sick ( twice being sent home due to being too ill to work) There is only four of us left with any seniority and unfortunately I am in the top four as in pay, I feel as if they want me to leave as I have applied for higher paid departments only to be lied to or given an excuse and see someones family member promoted instead :( This job has done nothing but destroy and build anger within me, It has become between me and my family (the hours,money, and my personal feelings) and has almost destroyed my home and everything. I hate to burden you guy’s with my problems but things have gotten so bad out there I just had to get it off my chest so I could sleep,

-- Proverbs Ch:3 vs 5,6,7 Trust in the lord with all thine heart and lean not unto your own understanding but in all your ways aknowledge him and he shall direct your path

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#1 posted 11-03-2010 09:42 AM

I have had back stabbing p*&^ ants try to stab me in the back too, but they always bit off a bit more than they could chew. I was blessed with unique abilities that were in high demand. It is too bad, but as wages get lower and jobs scarcer, there will be more and more of this. I feel bad for you and all the generations behind us front wave of the baby-boomers. We are about out of it, at least those of us who didn’t loose our retirements to Wall Street Criminal and corpo radiers of pension plans.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#2 posted 11-03-2010 10:43 AM

I think that you are not alone… we had a new employee… casual only… did not want full time or permanent employment… become a supervisor… this is a little hard to take… there were other staff who applied.. permanent full time and permanent part time…sorry…you do not have the experience… the casual employee was given training in the position… go figure…
I have 29 years experience in the job I do… ok now only part time…and this little upstart with a few months is now telling me what to do…
Still what comes around goes around… swings and roundabouts…
The one thing that I really like about going into my OTHER Job is that ….
every time I turn up it strengthens my resolve to get out of the system…
Unfortunately I have too much tied up in Superannation…

-- Don't drink and use power tools @

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#3 posted 11-03-2010 11:01 AM

I have seen that a lot Larry. Really have to wonder. Sometimes I think formen or supervisors try to get rid of good people because they recognize their talent and see them as a threat. Roaming around doing a little electrical in many places, i get to know a lot of people and see these situations develop.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#4 posted 11-03-2010 12:00 PM

Here is your answer:
Proverbs Ch:3 vs 5,6,7 Trust in the lord with all thine heart and lean not unto your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path
Here is the next answer:
Rom 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

I do not say that your situation is easy, I ask: what is your Father in heaven doing?
What is He showing and teaching you?
What is your response?
How is your attitude?
Offer your anger as the a sacrifice at the foot of the Cross.
Our Lord can take it and handle it for you, He is big enough for that.
Have you ask God to give you strength and courage and patience and love and wisdom in this situation?
Jas 1:1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes scattered among the nations: Greetings.
Jas 1:2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,
Jas 1:3 because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
Jas 1:4 Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Jas 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.

I know that the job situation is very difficult but could you find a job somewhere else?

OK, enough of sermon early in the morning.
I shall be praying for you, for your job and for your relationships in your family.

If any reader is upset by what I am writing, I apologize in advance. My purpose is not to upset any body.


-- Bert

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#5 posted 11-03-2010 12:27 PM

Not a great time to be job hunting… my advice (and I supervised over 300 people at one time) is to do the best you can… and get out when you have another position lined up.
Oh… and your supervisor has a supervisor… ‘nuff said!

-- "Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." Voltaire

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David Craig

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#6 posted 11-03-2010 12:56 PM

I have had similar experiences throughout my life. I think what I have learned to do is to stop thinking of my work life as my “career” and started to think of it as a “job.” I work as a systems analyst, I am on salary and on call every other week. Sometimes the work and pressures get to me, I would get ornery and had let it get the best of me for awhile. Somewhere along the line I made a discovery. I was sitting down in my workshop, not really working on anything, but just enjoying the ambiance of the little area I made for myself. I realized that the things about my home that I enjoy, the things I can do for my kids, the little pleasures such as enjoying a fire in my backyard come to be because I make a daily sacrifice of my time doing my “job.” I think when the emphasis changes from doing it for the company and making the sacrifice for your passions and your family, some of these events become a little more tolerable. Your company pays for the time, don’t throw in your soul as a free bargain. :)

Hang in there,


-- There is little that is simple when it comes to making a simple box.

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#7 posted 11-03-2010 01:08 PM

Hang in there. Don’t do anything rash and watch your back with that “newer” coworker. Be cool and see what happens.

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#8 posted 11-03-2010 01:09 PM

sorry for my lack of knowledge, but donĀ“t you have a union, someone to help you defend your own rights as a worker?


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#9 posted 11-03-2010 01:23 PM

Hang in, take it easy, life are not fair, trust me I know. Patience are sometimes the only mean.
Look for a new job on the side, and leave as soon as you can.
Smile and turn the other side.
Best thoughts,

-- MAD F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect. Democraticwoodworking.

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Bob Kassmeyer

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#10 posted 11-03-2010 01:25 PM

Nothing to say but, amen.

-- Bob Kassmeyer, Nebraska

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#11 posted 11-03-2010 01:27 PM

Obviously someone has an ax to grind so make sure your neck is not the test . Never ask “why me” but ask “why not me” and “what are you trying to teach me Lord”. Blessings are often disguised as trouble so look deeper, keep a cool head and pray often.

Blessings and prayers,

-- In the end it is more about the memories we make than the pieces we build.

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#12 posted 11-03-2010 01:32 PM

Nepotism: is favoritism granted to relatives or friends, with no regard to merit. I bet your so called supervisor is not qualified to do that job, he should really need to know how to motivate people not belittle them. My friend had a business on the side also, they finally fired him. I don’t think employers like people with outside businesses. best of luck!

-- A poor man has poor way's

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#13 posted 11-03-2010 01:45 PM

Weak leaders surround themselves with people like themselves. Unless your job has a great pension plan, keep doing it and start actively looking for another. Tell your prospective new employer that you are motivated by a teamwork atmosphere and this is why you are looking to make a change.

That’s what I would do. Been there before…

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#14 posted 11-03-2010 02:23 PM

I see you are in Ohio- If you aren’t working in a unionized environment these things happen ALL THE TIME. They also happen in a nonunion environment, however at least the contract provides you with a grieviance clause and some collective protection under the contract. I know many (especially in the construction trades) scorn unionization, however without a contract and a grieviance clause hire at will fire at will is the law. And unfortunately in all workplaces there is always someone who takes pleasure in making others miserable. If you want to stay at that particular job, the only solution I see here is for you to eat your lunch where and when the boss man indicates, and suck it up and do as told. Even those extra “punishment duties.” Just keep on pickin that cotton until the massah say you can stop. Of course the alterative is to move along and find a different job and that is easier said than done. I am sorry for your dilemma and hope the best for you. :)
(Masters degree in labor relations in cognito here. )

-- Homer : "Oh, and how is education supposed to make me feel smarter? Besides, every time I learn something new, it pushes some old stuff out of my brain."

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#15 posted 11-03-2010 02:42 PM

Sawblade, it appears as though you are in an unfortunate situation but is this the appropriate place to discuss this? My reading of Martins recent mandate discourages this type of communication as it is not woodworking related, nor does it qualify as a blog. WITH ALL DUE RESPECT perhaps a clergyman would be a better forum for this type of communication. Martin is giving us a second chance here…....let’s return to our roots. Let the flaming begin, but do it off site. I do hope things get better for you Sawblade.

-- Don, Pittsburgh

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