The last two months have been absolutely insane around our home. We have had some additions to our family marked with tragedy and lots of laughs and love.
My wife is an elementary teacher in a small rural district. Two months ago, we received a phone call from her principal and friend that the mother of one of my wife’s students was in the local emergency room. She had no close family and her two children (ages 5 & 11) were with her. My wife turned to me in tears asking what do we do. I told her to go to the hospital and check on the mother and if she was admitted, to bring the kids home for the night.
Well, they kept the mom and the kids came to our home. We picked up some clothes for them and a couple of pumpkins at the WalMart. That night we carved the pumpkins and played Wii to keep them from worrying about their mom too much. All in all we had a really good time.
To keep a sad story short, their mom never came home. After 10 days in a local hospital, she was transferred to Dallas. She was four months pregnant and lost the baby. After a biopsy of her liver it was discovered she had Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma in mulptiple locations. Two weeks and some valiant efforts by the doctors later, she was gone. The week of Thanksgiving we buried their mom and transferred their belongings to our home. It wasn’t much. She was trying to raise them on her own and they just didn’t have much of anything.
Our own children (3 that live with us) have totally blown us away with the maturity they’ve shown and the depths of their own hearts. The funeral was on Tuesday and on Wednesday they completely dismantled each of their rooms to make room for the new additions. They have made these two a part of our family without a second thought. We are now going through the process of filing for guardianship with the thought of adoption when the time is right for them.
This past Thursday the little girl turned 6 without her mother. I know how much she and her brother are missing their mom but we tried to make it special for her. I feel we have succeeded in large part. They have found a place here with us that they feel safe in. And they have gained a large family both immediate (we have 5 children between us, 3 that live here) and extended (grandparents and aunts, uncles, and cousins)
Everything going on here has cut my shop time down to next to zero. As soon as I can finish up a paying job I’ve started and a few Christmas gifts, I have two new beds to build. An upper bunk to match the beds I built for my girls’ room and a loft bed with a desk underneath for the boys’ room. I thought I would blog the construction here to document the journey we are now on, to get it out and share with others.
A last note, we have been overwhelmed with the love and generosity from those around us who’ve learned of the situation. We were worried about what to do but believe that we were put in the place to be there for these kids for a reason and somehow it will work out for us. And thanks to Mavric777. All the kids loved the goodies and we appreciate you and your family for your visit. You will get a call when it’s bed-building time. LOL
-- Robert - Haven Wood Crafts