My wife had a knee replacement surgery last week and now I am doing all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. while she recovers. I’m also taking her to therapy and running errands. I didn’t realize how much time all of this would take.
I have 3 woodworking projects with tight deadlines. I’m feeling more pressure than I am comfortable with. Why do I make these commitments?
-- Rich, Cedar Rapids, IA - I'm a woodworker. I don't create beauty, I reveal it.

















13 comments so far
BOB67CAM
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#1 posted 1113 days ago
if u had nothing to do, youd have nothing to strive for ;)
-- if you dont have it, build it, especially when its a stupid idea
Greg The Cajun Box Sculptor
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#2 posted 1113 days ago
I hope your wife recoups fast. Knee surgery is no fun and I know she would probably prefer to be running those errands now. My brother in law had both knees replaced a few years back and after all was said and done he was glad he did.
As far as your project commitments go…no one wants to turn down a project $$$$$. If I were in your shoes I would change my socks first and then explain your situation to the project recipients and see if they are undeerstanding…
Good luck
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a1Jim
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#3 posted 1113 days ago
Hey Rich
sounds like besides the projects on hold you need to start thinking about making a cane for you better half.
If folks don’t understand your need to take care of you wife than that’s to bad wives come first.
I don’t want to know how Greg knows you socks need changing. LOL
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bigfish_95008
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#4 posted 1113 days ago
Things get just little bit more challenging when one half of the team is down. The wife seems to handle me being down better than I handle her being down. Hmmm, I wonder why that is???
-- bigfish "I am always doing what I cannot do yet, in order to learn how to do it." Vincent Van Gogh
Dennisgrosen
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#5 posted 1113 days ago
Hey Rich
I do wish your wife a well and fast recovery beside a speedy retraining in therapy
may I sugjest you make a timescetch over the day and week so you can see what to do
at the right time off the day
and when you make dinners make largeportions so there will bee for two days
cut a little down on laundry and the clearning, only shopping twice a week where you
have made a dummynotes from home so you know excacly what to buy (that will speed up
the shopping a lot)
from time to time buy finish meals speciel if you have a cheap resturant near you
that will help you spare some time too
then you have to make an agrement with your wife that you can go to the shop
2-3 hours in the morning and then again in the afternoon
you will bee surpriced how much you can acomplish if you make a timeschedule
why I can tell you this is becourse I have struggeled with the same thing thrugh
a 1½year periode when my wife was hit by the cancer and I manage to run a
24hours bussiness at the same time and have a very young daughter tooo
it´s only possiple if you cut houseceeping down to the very basic so you can survive the periode
don´t look at a little dust here and there and the laundrybonk you didn´t manage
to wash in time
there wont kill you but stress can
take care Rich and bee safe
Dennis
Jim Bertelson
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#6 posted 1113 days ago
Talking about the commitments…......did you mean the marriage, or the woodworking projects…..............(-:
To properly commiserate with someone, talk to Stefang (Mike), he had the same issues this last year.
Hope all goes well, knee replacements are not always routine.
Jim
-- Jim, Anchorage Alaska
Knothead62
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#7 posted 1113 days ago
Hope all goes well with the Mrs. When I retired last September, SWMBO stated that I would be responsible for the housework.
-- Regret- the feeling you get just after you do something really stupid.
NewPickeringWdWrkr
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#8 posted 1113 days ago
3 simple words … “Because you can!” lol
Seriously, wishing a speedy recovery to the Mrs.
-- Mike - Antero's Urban Wood Designs http://anterosurbanwooddesigns.com
richgreer
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#9 posted 1113 days ago
Thanks to all for words of support and the good wishes you have sent for my wife’s recovery.
This is my wife’s 2nd (and last) knee replacement and this one seems to be going better than the 1st.
-- Rich, Cedar Rapids, IA - I'm a woodworker. I don't create beauty, I reveal it.
wchips
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#10 posted 1113 days ago
Hope your wife has a speedy recovery,The wood working projects will be waiting for you when you get to them. Help your better half so she has a quick recovery
-- wchips
schloemoe
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#11 posted 1113 days ago
You know you could probably get more done if you would stop sleeping,biggest waste of time there is lol.Just kidding we all know taking care of a loved one is the most important thing in life. hope she recovers fast and is able to kick start you when she is better
-- schloemoe, Oregon , http://www. woodrehab.blogspot.com
Dave Owen
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#12 posted 1112 days ago
All my best to your wife for a quick recovery, Rich. Sometimes we find the other person’s shoes much harder to fill than our own.
-- Dave O.
Beginningwoodworker
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#13 posted 1039 days ago
I wish your wife a fast and speedy recovery. And enjoy your new found chores! :)
-- CJIII Future cabinetmaker
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