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Blog entry by richgreer posted 1622 days ago 3335 reads 0 times favorited 15 comments Add to Favorites Watch

My wife’s brother just died. It was unexpected. He was only 68.

His wife, who was 74, died 6 weeks ago.

I’m a retired actuary. Actuaries maintain statistics on what is commonly called “heartbreak death”. This is the phenomenon of increased probability of death after the death of a spouse. Studies show a noticeable increase in death in the first 2 years after the death of a spouse. A formal term for quantifying this additional mortality is the “contagion factor”.

Forget the actuarial analysis. This is a real human tragedy. There are 3 adult children who have lost both parents in a short period of time.

Makes you pause and think about what is important in life.

-- Rich, Cedar Rapids, IA - I'm a woodworker. I don't create beauty, I reveal it.

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#1 posted 1622 days ago

sorry to hear :(

-- - Jei, Rockford IL - When in doubt, spray it with WD-40 and wrap it with duct tape. The details will attend to themselves.

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#2 posted 1622 days ago

I DO know exactly what you mean! Without health, there is no life, without health, there are no dreams,. I am sorry for your wife’s loss as well.


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#3 posted 1622 days ago

very sorry to hear that

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#4 posted 1622 days ago

sorry to hear :(

-- cut it saw it scrap it SKPE: ANDREW.CARTER69

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#5 posted 1622 days ago

Sorry for the loss in your family. My in laws are a screwy bunch, but a LOT of fun. I’m not sure who would take it harder if we lost one of her siblings… I can only hope you’ve been as blessed as I have with a good family in law…

-- My workshop blog can be found at

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#6 posted 1622 days ago

sorry for the family’s loss .

we can only hope ,
they are at peace now .

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#7 posted 1622 days ago

Sorry for you loss. Good info too. Gotta keep an eye on the survivors. Keep them focused and encouraged.

-- The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools. Confucius, 经过艰苦的努力的梦想可以成真

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#8 posted 1622 days ago

I am sorry to hear your loss.

-- CJIII Future cabinetmaker

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#9 posted 1622 days ago

Your family is in my thoughts.

-- Brian Meeks,

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#10 posted 1622 days ago

Your famliy is in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time.

-- Fred.... Poconos, PA ---- Chairwright in the making ----

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#11 posted 1622 days ago


I’m more than sorry.

I used to give tours at a convalescent home. Over and over, I saw how one would pass, and the other would follow shortly.

I realized that … while it certainly WAS sad … it was also some kind of beautiful.

I’m sorry for your nephews/nieces, but … from seeing your posts, here … also glad they have an Uncle Rich in their lives.

Be well.

-- -- Neil

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#12 posted 1622 days ago

I am so sorry for your loss..

-- Mike, Southern IL

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#13 posted 1622 days ago

My thoughts and prayers go out to your family.

God Bless

-- Mc Bridge Cabinets, Iowa

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#14 posted 1621 days ago

So sorry for your loss. Sorrow is worn like a heavy coat. Your family is in our prayers.

-- Okcut- When you come to the fork in the road--take it.

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#15 posted 1589 days ago

My Grandfather passed away almost 9 years ago and almost exactly a year later my Grandmother passed away without him.

I can see how it would take its toll on a person especially in the older generation who have been with the same person for years and also possibly in declining health which does not help the situation.

-- ~Larry Columbus, OH

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