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long life ending and my dad

by snowdog
posted 10-21-2010 02:12 PM


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helluvawreck

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#1 posted 10-21-2010 02:22 PM

snowdog, I’m real sorry about your dad and I know how sad your mom must be. Getting old is not easy nor is loosing a parent or husband. Your dad will just be passing away into a better place where there are no more tears.

Yes, God looks down on those who talk to Him and He loves us and cares for us and He will one day wipe away all of our tears as well just like He will soon do for your dad. He will make you and your mom “find strength in what remains behind” and your dad will be in the promised land waiting on you both to get there with him some day. God Bless.

-- If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away. Henry David Thoreau

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Gregn

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#2 posted 10-21-2010 02:51 PM

Dear Snowdog,
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Know that prayers are sent even before you have asked. For a science guy you are exercising your faith well. Know that why you may not hear God at this time His hand is at work in your life your mothers and in what is left of your fathers. While this is a hard pill to swallow, the bitterness of death will pass and know that when the time comes you will all be united again someday. Just be there for your mother and give her the support that is needed. Call Hospice and get them involved, they can help a lot in times like this not only in making your Dad comfortable as possible, but they are there for you and your Mom.
I have just been through this process with my adopted Mom she passed away on the 14th of this month. It was difficult to let her go and as her caregiver it was hard. One thing as I look back is the memories during her final journey that we shared. We laughed, we cried, we sang hymns, I read to her. If you need to talk know that we are hear to support you during this difficult time.

-- I don't make mistakes, I have great learning lessons, Greg

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jockmike2

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#3 posted 10-21-2010 03:15 PM

BE THERE FOR YOUR MOM, AND PERSEVERE IN YOUR PRAYING. HE ANSWERS ALL OUR PRAYERS, IN HIS TIME AND IN HIS WAY. HE IS ALWAYS WITH US, WE JUST HAVE TO OPEN OUR HEARTS TO ACKNOWLEDGE HIS PRESENCE IN OUR LIVES. GREGON GAVE YOU SOME EXCELLENT ADVICE. IT TAKES TIME AFTER THE DEATH OF A PARENT TO HEAL. I LOST MY MOM A FEW YEARS AGO AND I STILL MISS HER GREATLY, BUT I KNOW SHE LIVE ON. I SEE HER AND FEEL HER PRESENCE IN MY FAMILY, AND TAKE COMFORT IN THAT. I KNOW THAT GOD HAS ANSWERED MY PRAYERS TO TAKE AWAY THE PAIN OF THAT LOSS. IN HIS TIME, IN HIS WAY. YOUR FAMILY WILL BE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS, MIKE

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

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CharlieM1958

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#4 posted 10-21-2010 03:27 PM

Your dad, mom, and you will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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HerbC

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#5 posted 10-21-2010 04:12 PM

Snowdog,

As your dad’s journey on life’s road approaches the ultimate destination, I pray that you and your mom will let Lord continue to guide and comfort you. May God wrap his arms around each of you and may you lean on His strength as you pass through this difficult period. Know that our prayers for you and your family are already in His ear… Know that He, who knows when a sparrow falls, surely knows how hard it can be to have to let one you love go through the valley…

May you and your mother be blessed in ways you can’t currently foresee.

Herb

-- Herb, Florida - Here's why I close most messages with "Be Careful!" http://lumberjocks.com/HerbC/blog/17090

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Abbott

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#6 posted 10-21-2010 04:14 PM

Sent. Good luck sir.

-- Ohh mann...pancakes and boobies...I'll bet that's what Heaven is like! ♣ ♣ ♣ ♣

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lew

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#7 posted 10-21-2010 04:15 PM

Mimi and I have you, your Mom and your family in our prayers.

Stay strong and cherish the life and memories of your Dad.

-- Lew- Time traveler. Purveyor of the Universe's finest custom rolling pins.

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RexMcKinnon

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#8 posted 10-21-2010 04:43 PM

We’ll pray for you so you can go and spend as much time with your Dad and Mom as you can before his time runs out. My mom died back in March and I was lucky enough to take an unscheduled 1 week vacation the week before she died to go see her. Yes she was sick but she had been sick for a while but at the last minute my family and my brothers family decided to show up for a surprise visit. I don’t know why becasue I was supposed to go visit her that summer. I had no vacation time left but I went anyway. I just felt I had to go. A week later just a few hours before we were all supposed to leave to go home she suffered a massive stroke. We spent 3 days in the hospital with her before she finally passed. It was the first time our whole family was together in a long time. It was a hard time but considering the circumstances it could not have turned out better. She did not die alone. She was 64, way too young.

My advice is to remember to good times and shed a few tears of joy when you do.

God bless.

-- If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail!

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NBeener

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#9 posted 10-21-2010 05:18 PM

Snowdog:

I’ve been there (1996). I’m sure so many of us have.

I wish you and your family strength and peace.

You’ll all be in my thoughts…..

-- -- Neil

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a1Jim

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#10 posted 10-21-2010 05:19 PM

you and your family are In my prayers
Enjoy every happy thought you and your dad ever had together.

-- http://artisticwoodstudio.com Custom furniture

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NBeener

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#11 posted 10-21-2010 05:25 PM

You got me thinking about 1996, and my dad passing.

It’s not really cool to “give advice” in these situations, but … I’m taking a chance:

Are you near him, geographically ?

Such a long, long time to be gone,
And a short time to be there.

I ONLY regret that I didn’t get a few minutes with my dad, at the very end. The end came suddenly.

If you’re there, and you can … it’s something to think about. Those few extra minutes….

-- -- Neil

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Dick, & Barb Cain

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#12 posted 10-21-2010 05:25 PM

We’ll be thinking, & praying about you.

-- -** You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream ****************** Dick, & Barb Cain, Hibbing, MN. http://www.woodcarvingillustrated.com/gallery/member.php?uid=3627&protype=1

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Woodwrecker

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#13 posted 10-21-2010 06:16 PM

I do pray, and will be happy to oblige.
Good luck to your family.

-- All glory comes from daring to begin. ~ Eugene F. Ware

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snowdog

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#14 posted 10-21-2010 09:28 PM

Today I chopped split logs, then took a walk in my woods, shed a few tears for a relationship I wish I could have had. Dreams of a past never had, dreams of a past with my dad.

Of course I thank you all for the words and insight. Yes I am close in distance, about 4 hours and go often to visit, I think I will go again tomorrow for a few days.

I wish I had the faith that some of you have but that is not what I was given. I was given a mind that questions “… with boldness even the existence of God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason than that of blindfolded fear”. Not that any of you believe due to fear, I just love T Jefferson and his view on the world.

I had a dream once in which I had to kill myself (shot gun to the head) due to Zombie invasion, no escape left and I sure was not going to become a zombie :) The one thing that stands out most was my thoughts, just before I pulled the trigger (I can still remember the taste of the barrel in my mouth), was at least I will find out what is on the other side of life. I awoke as the back of my head came off. Gezz that was 30 years ago, still creeps me out :)

Ok so I got a little side tracked there. Life is short and I am not, I’ll go visit tomorrow. See you all see. thanks again

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

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mafe

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#15 posted 10-21-2010 10:24 PM

You are all in my heart, and thoughts.
Mads

-- Mad F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect. Democraticwoodworking.

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snowdog

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#16 posted 10-31-2010 01:49 PM

We (my brother and sister with all the grand children) sat with my dad all night Friday (Oct 22). Dad took his last breath at 1:54 Saturday morning. I am glad I went down to visit and did not wait to see what would happen. I’ll miss him.

Again than you all for the thoughts and worlds.

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

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popmandude

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#17 posted 10-31-2010 02:01 PM

Snowdog
Sorry to hear the news. Stand tall be strong, make him proud.
The memories will become sweeter, and bring big smiles.
Peace to you, and yours
Randy

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Gregn

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#18 posted 11-01-2010 11:38 AM

Sorry, for your loss and know how hard times like this can be. Know we are here for you.

-- I don't make mistakes, I have great learning lessons, Greg

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ellen35

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#19 posted 11-01-2010 12:28 PM

Snowdog,
Sorry to hear about your dad’s passing. It is always difficult but if we remember the good times, it does make it a little easier to bear. Many of us who have been through it can attest to that.
Ellen

-- "Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good." Voltaire

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#20 posted 11-01-2010 02:32 PM

Sorry to hear this snowdog. I’m glad you got to see him as well.

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Dick, & Barb Cain

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#21 posted 11-01-2010 02:59 PM

Our deepest condolences to you, & your Loved ones.

-- -** You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream ****************** Dick, & Barb Cain, Hibbing, MN. http://www.woodcarvingillustrated.com/gallery/member.php?uid=3627&protype=1

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Bob42

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#22 posted 11-01-2010 03:11 PM

Snowdog,
I’m sorry to hear the news. My family will pray for yours. Be strong and you will get through this. I lost my dad this time last year and it still is tough. Like Ellen35 said, remember the good times and it will make you smile. Know that we are here for you.

-- Bob K. East Northport, NY

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GaryL

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#23 posted 11-01-2010 03:27 PM

So sorry to hear of your fathers passing. Be strong and know that he has gone to a better place. My prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

-- Gary; Marysville, MI...Involve your children in your projects as much as possible, the return is priceless.

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#24 posted 11-01-2010 10:20 PM

Sorry for your loss.

-- If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail!

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NBeener

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#25 posted 11-01-2010 10:22 PM

I’m so sorry for your loss.

-- -- Neil

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#26 posted 11-01-2010 10:34 PM

I am sorry it took me so long to stumble on this thread… My condolences. I firmly believe that if we keep those that have gone on before us in our hearts and minds, then in some small way, they aren’t really gone… May the memory of your dad remain alive and well through your days, and live on through the stories passed on down through the generations.

-- My workshop blog can be found at http://daves-workshop.blogspot.com

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gene

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#27 posted 11-01-2010 11:07 PM

snowdog,
I am very sad to hear this. The prayer has been sent. May God give you and you mother strength and encouragement each day and especially now, in your time of sadness. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless

-- Gene, a Christian in Virginia

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JoshJock

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#28 posted 11-01-2010 11:13 PM

No need to wait for the last minute to cherish and celebrate the life of those who we love. My thoughts are with you and your family.

-- "Does this lathe makes my butt look big?"

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littlecope

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#29 posted 11-01-2010 11:14 PM

Sorry to hear about your Father, my Friend.
May God help and comfort you and yours in your time of need…

-- Mike in Concord, NH---Unpleasant tasks are simply worthy challenges to improve skills.

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#30 posted 11-01-2010 11:26 PM

sorry to hear about Dad :(

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (https://www.facebook.com/DebbiePribeleENJOConsultant)

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fredf

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#31 posted 11-02-2010 05:06 AM

My condolences for your loss

-- Fred, Springfield, Ma

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TopamaxSurvivor

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#32 posted 11-02-2010 05:28 AM

Sincerest condolences to you and the family.

-- "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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MedicKen

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#33 posted 11-02-2010 05:55 AM

I am so sorry to hear of your father. Our prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time. I lost my dad 5 years ago and mom in June of this year. God bless you and your family

-- My job is to give my kids things to discuss with their therapist....medic20447@gmail.com

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Bogdanovich

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#34 posted 11-02-2010 12:38 PM

Your familly and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Be whit them now.

-- My English and my woodworking are matching skills.

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Anthony Finelli

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#35 posted 11-02-2010 04:33 PM

You and your family are in our prayers….

~The Finelli’s~

-- Salem, New York "Find something you love to do and you will never have to work another day of your life"

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Don Newton

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#36 posted 11-02-2010 06:48 PM

Snowdog,

I am not a religious person but do believe there are forces that steer our path. It was good that the forces took you to see your Father before it was too late. Be strong.

-- Don, Pittsburgh

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kine97/Theresa

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#37 posted 11-02-2010 08:17 PM

I’m sorry for your loss…it is hard losing a parent.

-- "My formula for living is quite simple. I get up in the morning, and I go to bed at night. In between, I occupy myself as best I can." -Cary Grant

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Billp

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#38 posted 07-06-2011 12:44 PM

You and your Mother are in my prayers.

-- Billp

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