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Posted on Woodworkers with small children - how do you budget time for the shop?

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#1 posted 05-29-2013 01:04 PM

Congrats, I’ll agree with most of what was posted above, but I’ll also add some comments as a wife.

Nobody says it aloud very often, but as wonderful as parenthood is, it’s usually an atomic bomb in a marriage.
Your lovely, most likely independent, intelligent wife has been reduced to a milk-making, sleep deprived, ugly-feelin’ humanoid who discusses poo more than any other creature.

I can only speak for myself, but I pretty much hated my husband for being able to go out to work, go to the gym etc etc in the first few months/years of parenthood. Even the way he breathed annoyed me. Don’t rat me out, but I know many women who went through the same thing.

Yes, you will be able to find shop time here and there when the planets line up properly, or the grandparents swoop in. But be forewarned – if your wife gives the big sigh and says “sure honey, go into the shop. I know it’s important to you” DON’T DO IT, before asking what you can do to help first. Or better yet, just do it. If at all possible, take a day off here and there to give mom a break.

To make a long comment longer, this is an important time to invest in your marriage. No matter how strong it is, you’ve just introduced a new component.

Cute component, by the way.


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