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Project by JustplaneJeff posted 436 days ago 3077 views 12 times favorited 64 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Debated on posting this for some time now, decided to go ahead. I built this box to contain the ashes of my daughter, who passed away about 10 years ago at the age of 17. Having already built a box for my fathers ashes when I was 29, I knew this was not going to be easy. As hard as it was I knew I had to do it. My Daughter, Ashley, had told her mom that if she died young, she wanted to stay with her family and not be buried, A store bought urn would just not do. I built Ashleys’ box out of curley sassafrass, and waterfall bubinga veneers. The lower drawer has a hidden lock on it, all the drawers are felt lined. As Ashley was an organ doner, the other drawers contain letters and momentos of her life. I also built the dresser her box is setting on, and as you can see it is without drawers. A few weeks before her accident, I was building the dresser and Ashley wanted to bring it into her room so she could set her stuff on it and said I could build the drawers later{ I still have the measurements in her writing in my shop, as well as the wood}. I don’t know if I will ever build the drawers. I also included a picture of my daughter so you can see how beautiful she is. Please take time to enjoy your children, as you never know how long you will have them. Thanks for reading this post.

-- JustplaneJeff





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Von

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#1 posted 436 days ago

Mighty fine work, and a great tribute to your little girl. My daughter almost worships the ground I walk on; she’s my little tattoo and shadow. I too would be hard pressed to build something like this for her if I had to. Thanks for posting this for us to see. It does make the time we have with our kids all that more precious when we see the efforts you have put forth.

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#2 posted 436 days ago

An absolutely beautiful project equal to the beauty it holds. Very nice work Jeff. I am sorry for your loss, and I appreciate the reminder to enjoy my children. Thanks very much.

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#3 posted 436 days ago

No words can convey the feelings of sympathy I feel for you and your wife, having not lost a child it is impossible for me to know the loss you incurred but you seemed to have coped admirably to have been able to make the beautiful urn and to have written the article. Your beautiful daughter must be very proud of her Daddy today. God Bless You.

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#4 posted 436 days ago

Thank you so much for sharing both a beautiful project and a very personal part of your life with us. My heart goes out to you and your family.

As the father of three amazing boys, reading this brings tears to my eyes.

I wish you peace.

-- “That it will never come again / Is what makes life so sweet. ” ― Emily Dickinson

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gfadvm

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#5 posted 436 days ago

Jeff, I lost my only son 18 years ago at age 17 so I feel your pain. You did an amazing job on this tribute to your beautiful daughter. Now it’s time to finish the drawers.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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#6 posted 436 days ago

Beautiful box. Can’t imagine the loss. Thanks for sharing.

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#7 posted 436 days ago

Words can’t express the beauty and bravery of this project. Peace and love to you and your family.

-- It's very common for people to separate things they do from the things they need. - Jogge Sundqvist

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#9 posted 436 days ago

Sorry for your loss.

Beautiful work all around….
Dresser, box and daughter.

I’m with Andy (gfadvm), it’s time.

-- Randy-- I may not be good...but I am slow! If good things come to those who wait.... Why is procratination a bad thing?

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#10 posted 436 days ago

First and foremost, I am very sorry to hear about this loss of your daughter, and I hope you find some comfort with the building of this tribute to her. This is a beautiful piece, and I’m sure she is smiling down on you now with love.
Thank you for sharing.

-- "I am a firm believer in the people. If given the truth, they can be depended upon to meet any national crisis. The point is to bring them the real facts." - Abraham Lincoln

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#11 posted 436 days ago

I can’t even imagine what that must have been like. Thanks for posting this beautiful box.

-- "hold fast to that which is good"

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#12 posted 436 days ago

Sir I can’t imagine your pain – All I can do is admire the beauty you created and wish you some (any) form of healing.

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#13 posted 436 days ago

A beautiful tribute to your daughter. Thank you for sharing.

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#14 posted 436 days ago

Very humbled by your sharing, this is a beautiful piece… and as many have said, this wonderful tribute shows the love in every detail.
Thank-you again… although I spent most of the day with my kids before I had to hop a plane tonight, I picked up the phone and called them again after reading your note.

-- if you can't find the time to do it right the first time... when will you find time to do it again?

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#15 posted 436 days ago

Truly a humbling story and excellent tribute. So sorry for your loss.

-- Measure "at least" twice and cut once

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