|Project by nomercadies||posted 05-18-2012 03:11 PM||2198 views||2 times favorited||8 comments|
Once I said to my oldest daughter, “I don’t want to do things for you, but I would love to do things with you.” I think she took offense to that … at first.
As time went by, I think she understood what I meant. Life is made up of time spent. Some of the most wonderful time is spent doing worthwhile things … together.
I have some elementary skills as a user of tools. It makes me most happy to spend my time using them together with my daughter and grandson creating something as a family. When we are done, we stand back and say, “Look what we did!”
That’s so much better than saying, “Look what my dad built for me.” I can’t think of a more natural way to build family (one of the most precious byproducts of being a LumberJock) Maybe “Family Building” should be considered as a category along with box making and wood finishing.
Gardening is another family time and warm bonding activity.
We joined the two activities as we went about building raised garden beds. The construction is of 2 X 6’s joined with bolts and 2 X 2’s on the corners. There is a 2 X 4 hidden under the soil across the width of the beds at about the half way mark to keep the center of the ten foot beds from bowing out from the soil’s weight. The trellis is made from 1 X 4 half lapped at the corners and strung with twine. Looking back I wish we could have fought the temptation to plant sooo many things in the raised bed, and we could have made the trellis larger. This year will be a little better although I have no complaints.
The corners of the beds are standing on concrete piers the size of a coffee can in diameter and about eighteen inches in depth.
I feel pride as I review the pictures of my grandson exploring the amazing way a “C” clamp works and my daughter learning about and then expertly using the Stanly 71 manual router.
The family time continued to pay off as in the fall we canned pickles from the cucumbers grown in the garden and ate salads from the tomatoes, onions, and peppers.
When I use my grandfather’s tools or perform a skill my father taught me, I feel a very real connection. I think they would have liked that.
I guess our family could build relationships by escorting each other to the casino or raising fighting dogs, but so far LumberJocking seems to work for us.
-- Chance Four "Not Just a Second Chance"