Didn't know what it was til I built one.

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Project by OldWrangler posted 10-03-2014 01:34 AM 5144 views 20 times favorited 71 comments Add to Favorites Watch

My Girl Scout Cookie girl has all grown up and now at 27 she is getting married this weekend. Wonderful girl and great family, neighbors for over 30 years.

Well, she and her mom came to the house one day a week ago with a picture of a “Unity Cross”. They appear to sell for several hundreds of dollars and she wanted to know if I could make one. This picture is the first I have ever heard of this. Unlike the Unity Cross that bride and groom light and then it burns away. This something they will always have after the wedding. The big cross is the Husband’s Cross and it is empty without the Wife’s cross inside it. The Wife’s Cross is smaller and alone until placed inside the protection of the Husband’s Cross. Then the 2 make 1. In the ends of the cross-piece and the top are 3 pins which hold it together as the couple builds this at the Alter. The represent the Trinity, Father, Son and Holy Spirit and bind the husband and wife together. The pins hadn’t been made when I took the pictures but they brass lamp finials with a brass pin.

It is a nice idea and a lasting souvenir of the wedding. I told her I would do the best I could. The Husband’s Cross is Walnut. The Wife’s Cross is Red Cedar. In the center is a circle of Spalted Elm with a Dove cut into it.

Last weekend was a show at a local church where I sold a lot of stuff. I has this CVross and the story in the middle of the table. Nearly everyone who stopped read and commented on it. I even got an order for one later in Nov.

Lasdt night Stephanie and her mom came to pick it up. Well. it must have been OK as there were tears everywhere followed with hugs. They even had my wife crying. We’ll be at the wedding on Sat. and see how it works.

Another case of the first one I ever saw was the one I built. As a side note. Whenever Stephanie and her sister and brother were small, they were always bringing home dead squirrels, cats, goldfish, dogs and birds to give a good Christian burial in the woods behind their home. For each one they came to me to make a simple cross. Just some scrap wood, 10-12” tall with the animals name wood burned into it. There were literally dozens of the crosses. This was some 15-20 years ago and most of the crosses rotted off but are now in a stack in their garage.

I guess since I was their “cross man”, I was the logical one to make the Unity Cross. She will never know how much it meant to me for her to ask me to make one more cross. I dropped all the other projects and set to making a rough drawing that night. I started the next morning and it was finished, varnished and delivered with 3 days to spare. I really like having something like this happen, it is a big moment in my normally quiet life. Hope y’all enjoy the story (wish I was a better writer).

-- I am going to go stand outside so if anyone asks about me, tell them I'M OUTSTANDING!

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#1 posted 10-03-2014 01:42 AM

Ya did good OldWrangler.

That’s another one you can cross off your list…

(Sorry, I couldn’t help myself.)


-- Herb, Florida - Here's why I close most messages with "Be Careful!"

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#2 posted 10-03-2014 01:45 AM

This is my first Comment here, and I want to say I think you did a wonderful Job.
It is a beautiful Piece.
The new couple will be happy!

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#3 posted 10-03-2014 01:47 AM

A wonderful story as well as a terrific project!

We do not do the “work” for “money”; although occasionally that helps support the insanity!

-- just rjR

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#4 posted 10-03-2014 02:51 AM

Hey y’all, I found my original drawing for the Unity Cross. Thought this would give you a laff. I have to visualize a lot more of a project in order to build it. This was probably the 3-4 drawing I made before I got something to work with. It’s tough being senile. Still I deviated some as I built the cross adding the dove as an afterthought to cover up the bad jointery at the center of the Bride’s Cross.

This drawing is pretty bad for a man who worked all one summer when school was out, as a draftsman for a big mechanical design company. My project was just copy work, inking the pencil drawing and going for morning donuts and lunches. That summer we worked on a fully-automated Corrugating Box machine where kraft paper went in at one end and 125’ later came out as a corrugated box on the other end. And I understood what we were designing (mostly) but now I can’t even build a simple cross without a full set of blueprints.

Anyway, have a laff at my drawing. I laffed at it when it resurfaced tonight. Thanks for your comments. Had anyone else heard about this kind of cross?

-- I am going to go stand outside so if anyone asks about me, tell them I'M OUTSTANDING!

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#5 posted 10-03-2014 06:37 AM

I was asked to build one for a friends wedding this summer. I got as far as a drawing, a LOT like yours by the way, when she found the company that sells them were threating to sue if they were copied. She did not want me in trouble and dropped the idea. I told her that I was pretty sure they did not have pattent on cross, they have been around for a long time! Nice job on yours though.

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#6 posted 10-03-2014 07:04 AM

great story and awesome workmanship.

-- Bob in WW ~ "some old things are lovely, warm still with life ... of the forgotten men who made them." - D.H. Lawrence

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#7 posted 10-03-2014 10:16 AM

NDakota. I looked into the only company who makes the crosses. They not only have a patent but they have a copyright. They publish a warning about copying their design but far as I can tell they have never sued anyone. I am sure they can’t get a patent on a cross and I don’t think they would go to the expense of a law suit. So I said to myself….Hey Self, what is the worst that could happen? Even if they sued and won, what could they possibly do to me? The courts wouldn’t give them any of my SS check, I have very little money and what would they do if they won one of my wornout machines. So f—- them. This little girl means more to me than any bad-assed warning. I also imagine hundreds or more have been made by private individuals…..........................and Stephani’s little sis is getting married next April and if she want’s one too, I’ll build another one.

-- I am going to go stand outside so if anyone asks about me, tell them I'M OUTSTANDING!

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#8 posted 10-03-2014 10:24 AM

Very impressive work. They should love it.

-- Mother Nature created it, I just assemble it.

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#9 posted 10-03-2014 11:28 AM

Beautiful work, great story! Thanks for sharing.

-- John C. -- "Firearms are second only to the Constitution in importance; they are the peoples' liberty's teeth." George Washington

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#10 posted 10-03-2014 11:41 AM

Yes great story. Well done.

-- Dan, Naperville IL, I.G.N.

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#11 posted 10-03-2014 11:51 AM

Great job, really nice job.

-- Ken, "Everyday above ground is a good day!"

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#12 posted 10-03-2014 11:58 AM

Never heard of this till now, but I like it! And good on you for building it anyway! I’m thinking the company is trying to keep people from SELLING these commercially. And not for the DIY’ers who do these things out of love for our friends.

And yeah, I’m betting Stephanie’s lil sis is ALREADY planning on you making her one too. Plus if her brother is not yet married, HE’S gonna want one for his bride too :-)

-- Perform A Random Act Of Kindness Today ... Pay It Forward

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#13 posted 10-03-2014 01:42 PM

What a great idea that will be treasured forever.
And pretty crafty job you did building it.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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#14 posted 10-03-2014 01:42 PM

Very nice cross and a beautiful story.

-- Don, Saginaw Mi

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#15 posted 10-03-2014 02:04 PM

great job, beautiful cross!!!

-- Smitty!!!

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