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Blog entry by mcoyfrog posted 11-30-2009 08:42 PM 1651 reads 0 times favorited 12 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Those of you who know me can understand the funk I’ve been in for a while now. In the last year my wife was diagnosed with cancer, shortly after i lost my job, and just recently my wife has developed some other health issues that look like they will put her out of her profession to boot. I’ve spent the entire year trying to get steady work and there just isn’t any of it there to be had in my field. So i’ve taken all sorts of part time jobs here and there just to keep afloat. Needless to say I’ve had quite a bit of time to play in the shop but because of the funk i’ve been in I couldn’t get motivated. With both my hobbies “wood and glass” I have plenty of materials laying around and could have easily done some projects, again I just couldn’t get it together.

Finally a couple of weeks ago I took on a restore project for an old crib and it forced me out there. I finished it the day after thanksgiving and delivered it. This lady was a client of my wife’s and knew everything we have been going through. She bought us a turkey for our thanksgiving dinner and brought it over last week before the big day. Well thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday and I think that this gesture of good will is the reason for it. I’m so thankful for our friends and family this made me realize the funk I was in was selfish and I really need to look at the good that has happened during this hardship. I had a hard time believing it but there was a lot more then i’ve let myself pay attention too.

Anyway I guess what i’m trying to say is, I think I’m on my way out of the funk I’ve been in, and I would like to thank all my friends and family for helping us out along the way. Now i’m going to go play in my shop and glass studio and get to making stuff..

Happy holidays to all Doug

-- Wood and Glass they kick (well you know) Have a great day - Dug

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#1 posted 11-30-2009 08:54 PM

I’m sorry to hear about all the misfortune you’ve had, but I’m glad you’re starting to feel a little better. Sometimes all we can do is put one foot in front of the other, know that “this too shall pass”, and be grateful for what we do have.

Best wishes and happy holidays to you and yours, Doug.

-- Charlie M. "Woodworking - patience = firewood"

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#2 posted 11-30-2009 09:14 PM

doug ,
my prayers are with you and your wife ,
i know it’s easy to feel down sometimes ,
but we got to soldier on .
we as woodworkers have a special place ,
we do things , we don’t just talk .
get up , comb your hair , and go to work !
thats how we do it ,
help ourselves and the world around us .

God bless , and the best of holidays !

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#3 posted 11-30-2009 09:49 PM

This is one of those subjects that no matter what one can say, it is always easier said than done. But no matter what, it still has to be done. And there will still be a lot of good times and memories to be had. Forget the bad and relish the good. Keep at it!

-- James -

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#4 posted 11-30-2009 10:12 PM

I’m happy to hear that you are climbing out of the hole, I totally understand the feeling. Your wife will be in my prayers. I know that cancer can be a B!&@#, I’ve known way too many people that have had do “deal” with it and some of them have come out on top. So keep the good spirits up and keep on enjoying every minute of life.

-- Cheers and God Bless

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#5 posted 11-30-2009 10:48 PM


I know the struggle of dealing with cancer in a spouse. Been there personally. Hang in there. I work as a graphic designer and it IS very hard to be creative or motivated when dealing with that kind of junk. Prayers for you this moment. Glad things are starting to look up some for you.



-- Kevin, Blue Springs, MO

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#6 posted 11-30-2009 10:53 PM

Doug I know what you are going through in trying to find a job. I am in that spot now. Keep your head up and keep plodding along and something good will come of this

--, Rick Kruse, Grand Rapids, MI

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#7 posted 11-30-2009 11:12 PM

When life knocks you to your knees, it’s just giving you a good solid ground to push off from, heading into the future :)

Happy (post) thanksgiving thanks-givings!!

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (

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#8 posted 11-30-2009 11:31 PM

It sure sounds like you’ve had a rough time of it latley but it also sounds like you’re headed in the right direction. My hopes and prayers are with you and your wife.


-- "All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then Success is sure." Mark Twain

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#9 posted 11-30-2009 11:43 PM

Doug, if it helps, my wife and I have gone through similar problems the past year.

Last December, she was diagnosed with bladder cancer and was operated on in Jan. Luckily the tumors were of the surface variety and the doc got them all. In Feb., I was diagnosed with heart disease and told I had experienced a heart attack. In March, I ran my left hand into a moving table saw blade – 6 hours in ER, 6 hours in OR and months of recovery. In April during a follow up, a couple more tumors were found in my wife’s bladder, so back to surgery. But, hold on here, during the workup for surgery she had an abnormal blood test and was diagnosed with Stage 1 Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia. In June, she had surgery to remove the tumors. In late June, I was admitted to the hospital to have stents (3) placed in my coronary artery. Knock on wood, it has been pretty quiet since July – just normal things that most people would consider difficult, like chronic back pain that, coupled with a knee with little cartilage that I can’t have fixed right now because I’m taking Plavix, severely limits what I can do and for how long and makes getting out of bed in the morning a challenge.

So, I can certainly relate and know how you feel. I know it is hard to see anything good in life when you’re up to your chin in s**t, but continue we must. I find my woodworking to be a time during which I can at least partially ignore all the other problems. I’m retired and on a fixed retirement income, so I can’t go out and get all the tools I’d like to have (NEED!!!), but I just do the best I can with what I have, buy a small tool or some wood once in a while, and blissfully make sawdust.

Hang in there – we’re all pulling for you and your wife.


-- A veteran is someone who, at one point in his/her life, wrote a blank check made payable to "The United States of America," for an amount of "up to and including his/her life".

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#10 posted 12-01-2009 01:05 AM

Doug Lumberjocks is kind of like a big family, an when one hurts we all hurt. I will keep you in my prayers that the new year will bring peace into your life.

-- Billp

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#11 posted 12-01-2009 03:08 AM

doug keep fighting through it i am sure that things will get better God Bless

-- gagewestern

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#12 posted 12-04-2009 07:26 PM

Thank you all for the very kind words and prayers. We’re defiantly climbing out of it and ready to move on and put it all in the past. Merry christmas to all… And thanks

-- Wood and Glass they kick (well you know) Have a great day - Dug

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