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Blog entry by joebazooka posted 11-06-2009 01:59 AM 1582 reads 1 time favorited 14 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Does anyone out there have any suggestions on how I can change my life? I am so fed up with working for other people who think that by cutting corners they are saving money. I have been doing home renovations to make ends meet, and living basically pay check to pay check. But all I really want to do is build furniture and learn new methods I don’t know. But getting into a shop around here is nearly impossible. So I have been building furniture on my little 6’ by 7’ deck and on my dinning room table when it is to dark outside. This really limits the projects I can do. I am going nuts right now. It is so depressing when I think the holidays are right around the corner. Any ideas?

-- Robert-maine

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#1 posted 11-06-2009 04:17 AM

Not sure I understand the question… It sounds like you live in an apartment and are shopless right? There are guys here, and on other forums that do some amazing stuff, just slowly with nothing but hand tools and small spaces.

You might want to look at carving as an outlet for your wood habit as carving doesn’t take much room at all…

You might look in your area to see if there are community shops, or time share shops available for your use…

I know certain living situations makes woodworking tough, but to quote J.F.K. “We do not do these things because they are easy, we do them because they are hard.”

Sometimes the effort taken to produce a quality end product by more traditional / manual means is well worth it….

I assume you work during limited hours due to noise factors. But hand planes make almost no noise at all. and hand saws, chisels / mallets etc… are all fairly quiet. Unless you live in a nursing home, the noises of these things during the prime time hours shouldn’t bother any reasonable person. If you are married / living with girlfriend whatever, try to get your SO on board with your interest….

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#2 posted 11-06-2009 04:34 AM

lathe work is also fairly quiet. Years ago due to stress and other factors I was hospitalized, after that I came up with a new look on life, and have been living by this motto everyday…. If you woke up above ground this morning, EVERYTHING else is small. Hope it helps you and the knowledge that others have been there and it does get better.

-- I GIVE UP!!!! I've cut this @!&*!% board 3 times.... its still too short!

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#3 posted 11-06-2009 04:48 AM

Hi Robert,

I don’t know you but I got concerned when you said you were fed up with life. That can’t be good.

I just read your profile and looked at your projects. You are a creative person. DBHost thought you might not be able to work at certain times because of noise. If that is true use those times to study, draw and design. You have some very nice curves in the quilt rack you made, practice making curves. In the type of furniture I design curves are very important and you can draw 1,000 curves before you get one right.

Being fed up with life has happened to me a couple of times in my 55 years. I see you just celebrated your 40th birthday less than two months ago. The thing I have learned is that life gets tougher around birthdays that end in a zero. My sister told me that years ago and I laughed but in hindsight it turned out to be true.

Like I said before, I don’t know you so what works for me may not work for you but I found that when I am overwhelmed to the point of inaction the best thing for me to do is take action. In other words just do something.

If you want to be self employed but you need to work for someone else to make ends meet just do one thing each day to help you get to your goal. It doesn’t matter how big the thing is that you do as long as it is something you are doing for yourself.

And not everything you decide to do with be the right thing. That’s okay too. Just decide differently next time.

Take it slow but steady and by the time you are my age you will be surprised at all you have accomplished.

Take care,


-- Jerry Boshear, Professional Kitchen Designer, amature woodworker.

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#4 posted 11-06-2009 04:55 AM

I used to live in Portland (Westbrook)
Maybe you just need a change of scenery. Gonna snow soon.
Not a lot of people know that in the 60’s they had to pass a law not to feed the prisoners lobster more than twice a week. Cruel and unusual punishment. Be thankful you are not a lobsterman. Lobster is so cheap right now.


-- No piece is cut too short. It was meant for a smaller project.

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#5 posted 11-06-2009 06:14 AM

I know you made reference to work issues but perhaps try reading the Bible?

-- LAS,

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#6 posted 11-06-2009 06:16 AM

BTW your stuff looks real nice.

-- LAS,

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#7 posted 11-06-2009 06:43 AM

Find a local shop willing to rent you shop time. Make business cards and market what you are looking to produce. Once you start seeing some commissions coming in and you have a shared shop to work in you’ll be on your way to getting your name out there. So long as you stay behind closed doors with the current job you will never be noticed. Being noticed is what gives you work. Marketing basically. After a while you will be able to get a lease on your own shop or whatever. When you say getting into a shop around here is difficult it sounds like you are seeking employment. That could be a good thing. If the shops are slow they may like the idea of making some extra money renting you some space.
Good luck. Keep your head up. If you love it and are persistant you’ll succeed at it. Just expect the lows and look forward to the highs. Stay in good spirits and think of the work, not the difficulties of life. Write down some steps of what you need to do do to meet your goals. A plan. As you go you may need to make changes to the plan, but always keep the same goal in site.

-- ~ Inspiring those who inspire me ~

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#8 posted 11-06-2009 10:58 AM

I remember reading a biography on the late Berney Mac the comedian.. and after everything that was said and done..I remember this the most.. He said. Do you know the reason why some Comedians make it and some don’t?? It’s not because they’re better.. or funnier.. or more talented.. it’s because they outlasted the other guys.. and never gave up..

Persistance, Patience, Hope, and Faith.. all important in succeding in what you love the most..

-- Randall Child

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#9 posted 11-06-2009 11:39 AM

feelings of being boxed in are signs of changes-a-coming (if you choose to accept the challenge). You have reached a point where this isn’t enough. It’s time to take the next step on your ladder of life and do something different, learn something different, learn more, do more, achieve more – OR—change your perspective of what you are doing now, change how you do things so they are more fulfilling for you. Regardless, you are on the verge of a shift if you are willing to take the chance. It’s quite exciting to think about what may be around the corner!!

Lots of good advice listed above!
1. what CAN you do in your space – be creative with your list. Think small; think big;
2. what do you WANT to do? think small; think big :)
3. how do you mix the two lists together. Pick one and start enjoying the new process / project!

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (

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#10 posted 11-06-2009 04:27 PM

Well put MsDebbie, I was told insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If things are driving you nuts, then maybe it is time for change. Every journey starts with a simple step. Lay out a plan of what you would like to do and where you see yourself this time next year, five years from now and 10 years down the road. Life is a journey,not a destination, so we are always heading down a road to somewhere… decide which road.
Before I moved, I had a friend that used to love to come to the shop. He didn’t work for me, but whenever he had time he would help me around the shop and even help with a delivery now and then. I let him use some of my shop space( he even set up his table saw, band saw and a few other tools he had. No money exchanged hands and it worked out great for both of us. I know that’s not the “usual” way of doing things, but just goes to show that things can work out. Keep the faith and enjoy life!.

-- John @

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#11 posted 11-06-2009 04:44 PM

Robert, you can change your life, and here is how to do it. What do want out of life? If you can define that, you are on your way towards realizing your goals. Do the following steps:

1. Write down what you want. These would be your goals and they should include all aspects of your life, not just job or money. I am talking about spirituality, life style, personal achievements, education, family life, etc.

2. Find out what steps are required to reach each goal in detail and write them down. You may have to do some research to find out what you need to know.

3. Prioritize all the steps you have to take. Sometimes completing step 2 will require you to first do step 1 for example.

4. Write up an action plan for completion of each step you have prioritized and begin checking them off. As you complete and check the steps off your list you will know that you are working your way to success and it will give you assurance that you are in charge of your life and not just drifting with the wind.

This advice may sound too simple, but believe me it works. This is how to motivate yourself to a better more positive future. You haven’t anything to lose by giving it a try.

-- Mike, an American living in Norway.

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#12 posted 11-06-2009 08:12 PM

Have to echo some of what was said above in that if you really and I mean REALLY believe you HAVE to build furniture, then you have to just do that, and you have to have the trust and belief of the people around you. You didn’t mention your living conditions or family situation, but you did mention a dining room. If you’ve got a room in your place you could possibly change, make yourself a tiny shop. Learn how to do it with hand tools. I myself got interested in old methods and old techniques and hand tools not out of some love of them (at the time) but because I didn’t (and still don’t) have the money and space for the tools I thought I needed. Turns out I actually love hand tools anyway.

You can change everything about your life, all at once. Decide what your perfect ideal of a man would act, the things he’d do with his life, and with his every waking moment…then do that. At first it’s like being an impostor, but in time, you become that man you dreamt up. But man, just do it, don’t wait for anything, take that step today, not tomorrow, and don’t give up, don’t give up, don’t give up.

-- "That which has in itself the greatest use, possesses the greatest beauty." -

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#13 posted 11-06-2009 10:01 PM

Hi Joe,
I live in Sanford, just down the road. Maine is always in recession but even more so now. Housing is picking up and people are looking towards renovations instead of upgrading to a newer house. Maybe that would make more work for you.
I don’t know if you’re married but if you’re single and not tied down have you ever considered the radical idea of a move to areas big on these types of crafts? Camden, Rockland/Rockport, or Freport areas? These towns are full of boat, furniture, and musical instrument makers. I did my internship in Guitar making in Camden. A Harpsichord maker was just up the street. And all of these guys got into this because they were boat builders but there wasn’t much of a market for wooden boats any longer.
Anyway, good luck. Sometimes getting a job close to the wood (like Lowes) to pay the rent and doing the good stuff on the side can work out.
Best of luck. Wish I had the magic bullet of an answer for you.

-- The smell of wood, coffee in the cup, the wife let's me do my thing, the lake is peaceful.

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#14 posted 11-15-2009 03:54 PM

Sorry I can be of more help, nut I read your profile and you said you like to Build “green”. You also said that you are working in home renovation. Listen I am not at all a furniture builder, but I do know this- if you could find a way to use some of the “junk” that is being pulled from your renovation jobs (old doors, old trim, old mantles, ect…) to build nice furniture, and then promote it as such….. GOLD MINE! Just an idea for you, I can’t help with the no shop thing. Do you rent? If you own a place and can find the funds to build a nice big shop, maybe you could try a small pre-built shed. If you rent and have some extra cash, maybe you could rent a small heated storage space, or a garage from some one who doesn’t use it. My father-in-law owns a few rental properties and he has a garage on said properties he rents to a roofer.
Sorry I can be more help, stick it out though, you will get yours one day if you continue to work hard.

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