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Life in General #1: What do I do in my life?

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Blog entry by JC Boysha posted 656 days ago 827 reads 0 times favorited 10 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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Well, I’ve been trying to write a post every day about little projects and things I have fun doing in my shop. Some days, however, I don’t have time to get into the shop, or life gets in the way and I get frustrated with a project. I’m not ashamed to say I’m an emotional guy; but sometimes life gets a little too hard, and I break down.

So, sometimes I make a project and end up destroying it before it’s done because something mentally got in my way. But other times, life is just too busy.

I haven’t mentioned this yet but I have my first son on the way so there’s a lot of stress in getting the house ready and making sure my wife and I are really ready to have a son. Tomorrow I’ll post a work in progress of the shelf I’m making him if I get time to get started. The planning is all done, but I’m not quite sure if I’ll be able to get started. My wife collects dinosaur toys so I’m building a shelf with some dinosaurs cut into it to display all of these little toys in his room so he can play with them when he’s old enough.

Other times work gets on my mind and starts driving me nuts. I’m a Computer Help Desk guy for a career. I do a lot at work to make all of the employees happy, but sometimes I feel like I’m not doing enough, or I’m not well liked, or other paranoid thoughts and those weigh me down. I know that I’m actually very well qualified, I just worry too much about every little thing.

I have started teaching a couple friends the basics of woodworking. They seem to be enjoying themselves, and it’s a fun experience. I’ve considered making some video lessons on woodworking from the beginning, and I mean the very beginning. Starting with basic properties of wood and how to use a hand saw and things.

Sometimes the world just weighs on you. And every little thing can get in the way of your hobbies, but that’s the joy in it. You persevere, you learn, move on, and make every moment count.

Any way, I hope the LJ community is doing quite well and I’ll be back with more woodworking fun tomorrow… hopefully. If not, I’ll post an update on how things are otherwise.

-- JC Boysha, Amateur woodworker, all around amazing guy.



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patron

13000 posts in 1965 days


#1 posted 656 days ago

don’t be so hard on yourself jc

look on the bright side

you got a good wife
that’s willing to have your baby

a son on the way

a home

a good job

your youth

even some woodworking tools and skills

doesn’t pay much to sing the blues
if you aren’t a blues singer
(even then it is hit and miss)

congratulations on all these things

welcome to LJ’s

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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Monte Pittman

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#2 posted 655 days ago

Never let stress become too much of a burden. It will kill you as easily as smoking, drugs and the like. I use my woodworking to escape my other job. Enjoy life. If you think about it too much you can’t enjoy it. Wish the best for you and your family. The fact that you’re concerned tels me you’ll be fine.

Welcome to LJ’s!

-- Mother Nature created it, I just assemble it. - It's not ability that we often lack, but the patience to use our ability

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Jason

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#3 posted 655 days ago

As someone who has, and still does, feel overwhelmed at times with the pace of life let me just say: RELAX.
I have had projects that took me more than three years to finish and others that have been on hold for at least two. Love your family, enjoy your friends and schedule some free time for yourself. When I can find the time to get into the shop I just consider it a bonus and try not to make work out of it. I try to keep it on the same plane as fishing or golf.

And congrats on the little one. I have two boys myself and they are wonders. Enjoy it!

-- Jason - Colorado Springs

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Don W

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#4 posted 655 days ago

As someone who can say been there done that, let me let you in on some secrets.

First, 82% of the guys in the world are not read for their kids to be born. (82% is a made up number, but you get the idea)
You’ll NEVER do enough for your employer. They’ll away want more.
Eventually it gets easier. Don’t misinterpreted easier for better. You just learn to deal with it. The quicker you deal, the quicker you’ll feel better.
Help desk sucks, but we all started there.
Stop worrying if people like you. Your not going to work to make friend. You’ll find the ones you do make will be much better friends.
If you’re really well qualified, you know what small things to worry about. A lot of those things matter.
Teaching is cool. Good call.

Sometime its a good idea to just stop and ’’flip your attitude’’. I whistle. At some point I convinced myself that whistling makes me feel better. Does it work? It doesn’t matter as long as I believe it.

-- Master hand plane hoarder. - http://timetestedtools.com

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gfadvm

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#5 posted 655 days ago

You just a million dollars worth of advice from some of the best guys on this site. That should tell you something about your worth. Relax and enjoy the journey.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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helluvawreck

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#6 posted 654 days ago

JC, about 2-1/2 months ago our plant burned to the ground and it was a complete loss. Hadn’t anything been the same since and I’m having a really hard time figuring out what I’m going to do. At 62 I just don’t think that I’ve got what it takes anymore to rebuild a plant that represents 40 years of work for me and my brother. Before that life was never all that easier because it seemed like we just worked an awful bunch of long hours for most of our lives. However, in a strange sort of way I’ve enjoyed most of my life and have always taken life as it comes. I have a wonderful wife and she’s given me three fine children. They’ve made it all worthwhile.

You seem to have a fine wife and you’re fixing to receive a child which is a wonderful gift from God. Once that child comes you’ll both know what to do and things will get better. I’m sure they will.

helluvawreck aka Charles
http://woodworkingexpo.wordpress.com

-- If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away. Henry David Thoreau

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Richforever

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#7 posted 654 days ago

Balance is important for things to go well. Plus if you qualify your feelings with positives, the bad stuff cannot get to you. What you feed your energy into via your attention, you attract – good or bad.
Hope this helps.

-- Rich, Seattle, WA

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JC Boysha

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#8 posted 651 days ago

My word, I apologize that I never actually posted my comments thanking you all.

In short, I want to thank all of you for the amount of advice and well-wishes I got from all of you. I found this place to be warmly welcoming and all of the advice just solidified that. I can not stress enough how much just knowing that people were there commenting and offering help made me feel like things were going to be ok in the end! Just knowing there’s a community somewhere where I seem to fit in by being an oddball makes me elated with joy!

Again, thank you all for the heartfelt wishes!

-- JC Boysha, Amateur woodworker, all around amazing guy.

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Don W

14818 posts in 1191 days


#9 posted 651 days ago

lets shot for “ok” before the end, and yep, oddball is normal

-- Master hand plane hoarder. - http://timetestedtools.com

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Jason

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#10 posted 645 days ago

You say oddball like it’s a bad thing. Be proud! lol.

-- Jason - Colorado Springs

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