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#1 ·
My brother

Oh, how my heart weeps, though I know in God's arms he sleeps;
So many things we don't understand; so always remember it's in His hands.
So blessed to have you in my life; no longer will you have discomfort or strife;
Peace and comfort to your wife and son; I love you Danny Boy, you were the one.

My cousin posted this on Facebook. This is about my brother. I lost another one last Friday night to illness. Three years ago my brother Gary died at 48 from a massive heart attack. 10 months later my mom was found on the bathroom floor dead. Her heart just stopped. She was very depressed after Gary died. And now this.

Danny was my oldest brother, only 54. All kinds of complications, but the bottom line is he died of ARDS. Acute Respitory Distressed Syndrom. They called 911. By the time they got there he was in a comma. He was in there for 9 days and never woke up. He was my brother that taught me and helped me with woodworking. And the one that would have been mad at me for posting his boat he built on this site. He built his cabin which is right next door to mine 28 years ago. He died Friday night and I went to the river Saturday morning. I think he beat me there. I know he was there with me, that's why I went. He'll always be there with me. I look over at his cabin and it is just a big as life. Can't explain it, but I see him when I see his cabin. I'm gonna miss him terribly.

My dad is 80 and has buried his wife and now two sons in the past three years. This is so hard on all of us. I love this site and havent posted much lately. I really havent been doing much of anything. I need to get my life back. Way to much going on. I hardly ever post blogs, maybe because I'm more of a private person but I felt like sharing this tonight. I really miss my brother.
 
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Oh Janice.. I can't imagine. Be patient with yourself. Please don't be in a hurry to get past this and get your life back. You need time to pull all those memories together, and wind them up in a tight ball and put them somewhere he would approve of. I'm sorry you are going through so much pain. You were right to tell your on-line family here. I'll be thinking of you, so check back in and let us know how you are.
 
#4 ·
Janice,

I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your brothers and your mother. I know each passing seems to hurt even more than you can bear. My prayers are with you and your family in this dark moment. May the Lord wrap his arms around you and comfort you.

Herb
 
#5 ·
Janice,

My sincerest condolences to you and your family. Losing loved ones is never easy and at such a young age it is even harder.

I'm praying for you.

L/W
 
#7 ·
Janice,

Haven't been here or on GT in ages; but when I got your message about the passing of your brother I had to write. I hurt for you … let yourself grieve; give yourself time. I know you will find a special place within yourself to store all the wonderful memories you have of your brother … know your brother now lives within your heart, memories and words. Even though you would rather have him here with you, God will take good care of him. I hope the knowledge of that does or will in time bring you comfort.

Take care …
 
#10 ·
Janice,

My condolences to you and your father. As a word of comfort I offer you this:

The Lord says, "Do not be affraid. I will up hold you with the right hand

of My love, and when you pass thru the water, I will be with you."

Janice, these are words I truly believe, God Bless.
 
#12 ·
Hi Janice, I am so very sorry for your loss, my deepest sympathies to you and your family.
I know this is a very difficult time for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers
Love and God Bless you and your family.
Cher
 
#13 ·
Janice I am so sorry for your loss but I believe the spirit that gave life to your brother lives in you so you can never be truly seperated. As you mentioned your brother helped & taught you & guided you, you look at the cabin & feel his presence in the same way when you are doing the things he taught you you will remember how it was to have him there. In sharing a part of your life he took a piece of you but he filled the gap with a piece of himself. He will never leave you
God bless you & your Dad you are in our prayers.
Trevor
 
#16 ·
Janice,
so sorry for the many losses you have endured recently. There is nothing one can say at a time like this except we are all thinking of you here at LJ and hoping that you are doing OK. You clearly have some wonderful memories of your brothers and your mother. Cherish and honor them by being the kind of person who would make them all proud. And… spend time at the river.
Ellen
 
#17 ·
Janice;
Very moving thoughts. My Heart goes out to you and your family.
STAY FOCUSED.
Your LJ family is here for you too!! I am here for you, just to listen and help where we can.
"An inheritance is something you leave to your family or loved one (it will fade). A legacy is something you leave your family and loved ones."
Carry on his legacy…enjoy the river!
 
#19 ·
Janice, Your brother sounds like a good man. I am sure he loved you vey much and will be in your heart always. I have 4 brothers myself and we all are not getting any younger. I can't imagine how hard it must be to loose one. Keep his memory alive by using the things he taught you. Besides wood working, one of my hobbies is genealogy (family tree research). I have been doing it for about 20 years. I often frun across a saying,..."No one is ever forgotten until their name is spoken for the last time". Keep this in mind and he will always be with you and never forgotten. You have suffered many losses. Take time to morn. It is a healing process that you must go through. Know that one day you will all see each other again.
 
#22 ·
I'm so sorry, Janice.

These losses can hit SO hard, and … seemingly … nothing can take away the hurt any better than the passage of time … which … seems to move oh, so slowly at times like these.

I've learned (and am remembering again, right now) ... that the physical part of the hurt will leave us, and the memories of our loved and departed-fortunately-won't.

I wish you peace.
 
#24 ·
Janice, I'm real sorry about your loosing your mother and 2 brothers all over a span of only 3 years and with one of them only a few days ago I know it just seems that old hurts and feelings are opened up all over again, one right after another. Twelve years ago I lost my father, my son, and my mother over only a two week period with all three deaths unrelated. I thought that I would never get over it, however, God has a way of healing with time. He won't ever remove the empty places in your heart and there will always be the memory of the loss but He slowly brings back the joy of living and helps us to find strength in what remains behind.
 
#26 ·
I am so sorry for your losses Janice.
In the past fives years I have lost a Brother who was 37 a son who was 17 and my step mother.
I lost my mother when I was 13, and a whole bunch of really close friends. Nothing but time, hope and the love and faith that they are now in peace and someday I will see them again helped me through it. Just as you will see yours again, I trully believe this.
My thoughts are with you and your family, may god bless you and yours.
 
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