During each trip to get groceries, my wife likes to buy 2-3 bags of Mountain Trail Mix at Walmart in the 1lb-12oz bags. She likes the taste of Almonds, Raisins, Cashews, Peanuts, and M&M’s all mixed together in one big mouthful. I, on the other hand, only like the M&M’s.
So, here is the argument:
I like to dump out about a cupful of trail mix, and then sort out the M&M’s and put the rest back in the bag. The way I figure it, I am eating the parts I like, but leaving the other parts for my wife to enjoy, because she enjoys the other flavors.
She (lumberjock’s member: “wife”) says that I am taking out the “best part” and only leaving the parts I don’t like for her. Technically, she is right. However, I think it is “deeper” than it seems on the surface, but I continue to lose the debate with her. She won’t even let me start my side of the argument anymore, saying something, “quit giving me those lame excuses, you are only thinking of yourself.” And, technically, she is right again.
So, I’m bringing the debate to the lumberjocks (predominately “male”) group for some “input.”
Depending on how you look at, I am eating the same amount of M&M’s as she would eat in a cupful of trail mix, only I’m willing to put back the other ingredients for her to enjoy. I almost always wash my hands before this sorting process, so cleanliness is not really the concern.
Over the few days that a certain bag is “open” yet not empty, the percentage of M&M’s does go down in your average cupful of Trail Mix. However, if I was throwing out the parts I don’t like to eat, the whole bag would reduce quicker, and the same amount of M&M’s would be in the bag, only in a higher ratio to the other ingredients.
In my view, I am doing her a favor by leaving her more Almonds, Cashews, Raisins, and Peanuts to enjoy. I could just dump them in the trash, and sometimes I do give them to the dog, but in large part I save them for her.
I see it as a selfless service to her. She sees as a selfish service to myself. She complains that since I only like the M&M’s then why don’t I just get a bag of M&M’s. I agree with that concept, except that she does most of the shopping, and never remembers to get “my” M&M’s when she gets “her” Trail Mix. It is a serious debate whenever I get caught at this selfless game.
The kids love trail mix also, and so at times they will sort out of their cups a few M&M’s to give to me, not all of them, and never more than the “brown” colored ones, but they are M&M’s nonetheless. My wife does not like the practice, and each time tells the kids to stop sorting out M&M’s for me to eat. They usually ignore her, and find joy in giving me two, or three brown M&M’s.
Any input to help settle this one? There are bigger issues to discuss of course, but not here. Don’t you just love my boredom as I wait to go back to work (Wednesday afternoon!)?
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