Good morning everyone. Another boring day at work stuck in front of a computer screen, unlocking user accounts, and refilling printers.
I thought I’d address something that happened yesterday (on my bday no less) regarding a project posting of a router table I made. (and a few other remarks here and there) Having finally finished this thing and knowing it wouldn’t win any contests, I posted the project and pictures anyway. I guess in the back of my mind I was a bit proud to have made it and thought it might help germinate ideas for others who were trying to get up and running “on the cheap.” Not all of us have the resources to buy the best materials to build with or purchase an expensive manufactured router table. Considering I didn’t have any drawn-out plans, just an idea in my head that kept evolving with every mistake I made, it seemed to turn out ok and I was happy with it.
Happy with it until a certain comment was made from an unnamed person (though you can see who by looking at the project page). In the rough and tough world of online communities and woodworking in particular, it seems to behove one to have a pretty thick skin. Unfortunately (I suppose) for me I don’t have this kind of trait. I guess that means I shouldn’t post anything because of potential negative reaction which I’ve now learned. You see though, I’ve dealt with depression for going on 30 years now and low self-esteem for even longer (since I was 6-7 I guess) so for me to open up at all is a major step. Anway, two comments were made that bothered me, the first one I didn’t really get, but the second one is that which I referred to at the beginning of this paragraph. After reading this and basically feeling like s* because of it, I replaced the project pics with my good old mate, Eyore under a rain cloud because that’s exactly how I felt. After a few kind comments (and the poster changing his to what we’d use as a substitution for curse words), I did again post the pics. (let me add though that I do appreciate ALL the early comments received and when I looked at the pic again it did seem like the top was bowed so I’m not referring to you guys here).
In a roundabout way I suppose my point here is to question why and how someone could and would make demeaning, degrading, and rude comments on someone’s project. Does it make the poster feel superior? Is it to cover up for their lack of ability to come up with something (even if ugly) just from their head? Is it to get a better feeling about yourself by intentionally putting down what someone has done and ventured to show to the world? Is it a gender thing? (wondering if I’d posted this as a female if the responses would have been different..I’m guessing they would have been) I don’t know which if any of these is the case (and maybe all) but it seems to me to be a waste of time and energy.
Perhaps my view is the blessing of having depression and working through it. I feel I have some degree of empathy towards other’s feelings, even if just online. We’re all trying to do what we enjoy and be happy. Why try to ruin someone’s joy? Personally if I didn’t like something I’d at least have the class to NOT comment on it at all. Comparing the number of views to the number of comments on my project, I see many of you do have this much at least.
Anyhoo, if you’ve read this far I appreciate it and sorry for my diatribe. If you saw it and thought I was a fruitcake and left then that’s you’re issue. I just wanted to put it out there for people to consider when making posts. At this point I’m hesitant of doing any more project posts and most likely won’t. I’ll just enjoy seeing what the rest of you make and enjoying the creativity involved in manifesting it.
Thanks for reading and have a good Thursday…Be nice to each other. It will always come back around to kiss you or bite you in the a55.
-- Chris ~~Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the present controls the past."