Just Updates #4: Update/Merry Christmas Late/Happy New Year

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Blog entry by Nate Meadows posted 12-28-2013 12:30 AM 1679 reads 0 times favorited 22 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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My Dear Friends,

I am sorry I am late in wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. I do hope you had a great time with your families and friends. Alas, my update on the project is really just bad news. My mother was killed just before Christmas, down the road from my house as she was heading home for family dinner with all of us. She was hit head on by another car. The Sheriff said she was killed instantly so at least that is some good news. It has been a difficult time. All 43 of us, my 3 sisters and there families, and my 4 brothers and their families along with my father have been staying at my parents house, trying to make sense of everything. It doesn’t seem real! I know she is in heaven surrounded by the Love of God, but I still miss her so very much! I just saw her that morning and she sent me a text 20 min before it happened. Its like she is still in town shopping and we are just waiting for her to come home! 2013 has been a very difficult year!

Here is my mom holding my oldest son when he was just a baby. I love this picture. It kills me to think she will not be there to see him graduate, get married, and have kids of his own. But I am so very thankful for the time that I had been given with her! I love and miss her and know that I will see her in heaven again, but it still hurts like fire is burning up my insides.

Addition..January 6th

We just held a beautiful Celebration of Life ceremony for my mother on the 4th. It was difficult for many reasons but I was blessed. There were so many people there. I did not realize how many she had touched.

Here is the link to my mothers obituary. We, the eight children along with a few of our spouses, sat with my father and wrote it. It is truth…all except the mastering the piano part…she was very talented and very, very good…but she would have corrected it. She was very humble and she would have said, “I still have so much more to learn!”

Thanks for reading,

More to follow on the project…


-- "With a little bit of faith, and some imagination, you can build anything!" Nate

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#1 posted 12-28-2013 12:40 AM

I feel for you Nate, and all of your family.

Its one of many tragedies we have to encounter during our lives made worse by the circumstances.

Again my thoughts are with you.

-- Regards Rob

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#2 posted 12-28-2013 12:43 AM

With DEEPEST Sympathy, I am so VERY sorry for your loss, especially during this time of year. Keep your head up and you’ll get through it. Press on with your own home improvements and please don’t you get injured thinking of her and failing to pay due attention to the tasks at hand. With Love to you and your families

-- Russell Pitner Hixson, TN 37343

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#3 posted 12-28-2013 12:45 AM

so sorry for such a great loss
for the whole family

here’s to a better next year

i think we can all use some blessings

-- david - only thru kindness can this world be whole . If we don't succeed we run the risk of failure. Dan Quayle

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#4 posted 12-28-2013 01:09 AM

Nate, can’t even begin to say how sorry I am for you. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Thanks for sharing something so deeply personal with us

-- Just trying to build something beautiful

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#5 posted 12-28-2013 01:27 AM

My condolences to you and your entire family. We’ll keep you in our prayers.

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#6 posted 12-28-2013 01:44 AM

Nate, I can’t say anything to make it better but just know that we are all hurting with you. I’ll never understand why this type of thing happens to good people.

-- " I'll try to be nicer, if you'll try to be smarter" gfadvm

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#7 posted 12-28-2013 01:48 AM

oh nate, my heart goes out for you and your whole family, i also lost my mom early this year and at times it really wells up and i miss her her so , she did not suffer and that is a lot, but i do know how hard this is, but you are right, she is with our Lord and Savior and she is in the best place there is, my beliefe is we are spiritual beings , and are here having a physical experience, so she is home, know this my friend and brother, she loves you more then you know, mothers are the ones who do love us right under God. i send you my friendship and love…bob

-- GRIZZMAN ...[''''']

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#8 posted 12-28-2013 02:34 AM

dear nate, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Words fail me when I want to express my sympathy in times such as this. No matter how old we are or what we have been through, the loss of our mother leaves us shattered. The comforting hand of God along with the passage of time seem to be the only things that help us in times like these. God bless! Karl

-- Drilling holes in wood is a boring job

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#9 posted 12-28-2013 02:37 AM

Very moving comment Grizz, as are all the entries so far. And we must rest assured , The Grand Architect of the Universe has special plans for those who love Him.

-- Russell Pitner Hixson, TN 37343

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#10 posted 12-28-2013 02:57 AM

Nate, I am sorry to hear this. I send my dearest condolences. It is difficult to lose our loved ones. I have also lost my parents, my in-laws and 2 of our grandchildren. We will never understand this in this life. I would like to recommend Psalms 139. Our days are numbered as stated there. We are surprised but God is never surprised because He ordained our days and He knew when He was taking our loved ones home to be with Him.

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#11 posted 12-28-2013 03:03 AM

I’m so sorry for your loss Nate, I will be praying for you and your family. I hope 2014 will be a better year for you.

-- Bob Kassmeyer, Nebraska

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#12 posted 12-28-2013 03:41 AM


Words can’t express the loss you have taken. I lost my parents in a auto wreck when I was eighteen years old. And to this day it doesn’t seem real and part of me expects them to pull up in the driveway and say they are sorry they’ve been delayed so long.

I can’t lie to you and tell you that things will soon be better. The loss will heal, but it will be slow and there will be moments when something rings a bell and suddenly you feel it all over again.

Don’t try to hide your hurt away from those who know you. And the most important one at this moment is your Dad. He has lost his life mate and will be lost himself without the love and care of all of you.

You wife can help you but only if you stay open to her and don’t try to be big and brave and pretend that it doesn’t hurt much…

May the Lord give you and your family the strength to bear this loss and make your lives a testimony to the love and faith your mother has even now in Heaven.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.


-- Herb, Florida - Here's why I close most messages with "Be Careful!"

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#13 posted 12-28-2013 04:01 AM

What a shock, although we’ve never met it person, I’ve followed your blog and have been rooting for you. Your trials are difficult and unfathomable for most people. I am so sorry for the loss you are experiencing. May God be with you and your family.

-- Every cloud has a silver lining

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#14 posted 12-28-2013 06:21 AM

Sorry to hear such a bad news Nate.
My condolences to you and your family.
Healing from a family loss take some time times. Stay strong my friend.

-- Abbas, Castro Valley, CA

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#15 posted 12-28-2013 09:17 AM

No words can be of use in these desperate times. Bad things always happen to good people. I have been going to the cemetary every 22nd of December for more than 20 years for my father, so I some what understand what you are going through. Take time to grieve and know that our thoughts and prayers go out to you.

-- Measure twice, cut once, cut again for good measure.

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