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Blog entry by MyOldGarage posted 1907 days ago 1131 reads 0 times favorited 10 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Ok—I’ll rephrase my original posting which maliciously disappeared into the electronic void yesterday in a flurry of “don’t talk religion” messages. The crux of my message was the value of a lifetime partner, and because I quoted scripture in relationship to how I believe my deity taught it should be done . . . people were very offended.

Get over yourselves.

Again, I’m going to reiterate the message but put it into succinct woodworking terms.

My wife and I are working on a multitude of projects, and now with spring here and warm weather, we’re about to embark upon outside fixes and upgrades. One thing that I’ve learned over the years is the power of two people, either working together or working against one another. For a number of years I experienced the “against” part in a failed marriage. My garage became a refuge for me to escape and unfortunately a lot of things around the house didn’t get done. Now fast forward to now.

I’ve been living in my house ten years now, and for the past 5+ or more, it’s needed painting. It’s in horrible condition now. I almost ended up in another job position a few years ago and was going to re-do the exterior, but in the midst of that I decided to not take the position . . .but I had already ripped down my shutters. You can only imagine what my house looked like then. There are a lot of other projects that have been on the back burner for a number of years.

Over a year ago I met a wonderful woman with Christ at the center of her life and we’ve been together ever since. I know I made a lot of mistakes over the years, and because of those learning experiences, it’s made me into the man I am now. I am very thankful for that, and I’m very blessed that my wife enjoys spending time with me in the garage or wherever in the house working on things together. So far we’ve built many projects, painted several rooms, and now we’re moving forward on the exterior things for spring/summer.

When we were working together on the latest wood project, the overhead cabinets in the garage, she came up with many good ideas—as she had on the garbage can holder and other items. That’s why I consider so many more things important other than what tools I have available. I’ve learned over the years, that if you put your mind to something, and you have support in doing what you believe in, you can generally accomplish far more than someone who has it all, yet has nothing. I’m still just learning at the ins and outs of woodworking, but I think I’ve learned enough making mistakes in other areas of my life that I can share . . . and if that offends anyone, then so be it.

“A man who doesn’t stand for something will fall for anything.” – Peter Marshall

-- Bradley Miller, Blue Springs, MO - http://myoldgarage.blogspot.com



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Moron

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#1 posted 1907 days ago

The promise of “till death do we part”............often becomes a goal !

-- "Good artists borrow, great artists steal”…..Picasso

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Dennis

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#2 posted 1907 days ago

I know exactly what mean. I was married for near 30 years to a woman whom I was fond of and learned to “love”. By “love” I mean to say I cared about her well being and wanted no harm to come to her and therefore I could not end the marriage. She died of lung cancer in May of 2005. I am the “marrying kind” and met a lady a year later, we dated for one year and then married two years later as of March 2009. I have never been happier and now I know what true love is. I am a different person in so many ways since I met this wonderful woman. It took 55 years to find my perfect mate. I do things now that I had never done before. When you are at peace with your spouse and both on the same page life is so much easier… you want to take it all in!
Just thought I would tell you my story.
God Bless You,
Dennis

-- D and D...Texas

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Mario

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#3 posted 1907 days ago

That is a wonderful story and I hope that you can share many years together. My story is somewhat similar to yours. I now enjoy a wife who supports my endevors as I support hers.

Isn’t it awsome.

-- Hope Never fails

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GaryD

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#4 posted 1907 days ago

I am not offened. I am/was in the same boat. Divorced but found the love of my life. Great to feel that good isn’t it. great story hope to share many years together also. I t is funny though, the last projects are the ones for yourself or your house.

-- Gary, Little River,SC I've Learned that the Lord didn't do it all in one day and neither can I

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dennis mitchell

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#5 posted 1907 days ago

The hardest thing in my divorce was the kids. It is still my greatest sorrow and my greatest regret. Today I have a wonderful marriage going on 14 years of ups and downs. On my good days I know I’ve been truly blessed. On my bad days I’m upset because the toilet paper roll was put on backwards. Together we tend toward good days…

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clieb91

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#6 posted 1907 days ago

Thanks for sharing. I agree wholeheartedly… though my temper may flair occasionally and there are bad days they are greatly outnumbered by the good. I was lucky enough to find someone that likes to work on the house and various projects and it is something we can sometimes share together. If wwe don’t work on it together I can always find encouragement from her. We will be celebrating 5 years this October and look forward to many more. I wish you many more to come as well.

CtL

-- Chris L. "Don't Dream it, Be it."- PortablePastimes.com (Purveyors of Portable Fun and Fidgets)

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Gary

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#7 posted 1907 days ago

I was miserable for 23 years. Especially while overseas in the service knowing what was going on back home. I was in the unequally yoked category. Ten years after the divorce, I got “equally yoked” and it’s be great since then.

-- Gary, DeKalb Texas only 4 miles from the mill

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SCOTSMAN

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#8 posted 1907 days ago

I find your [post very inspiring marriage is not dead I am very much in love with my wife Bronwen of 38 years this year I adore her and she and I have had a wonderful marriage and love our three sons and our little grandson Rueben jay so good luck for the future.Alistair

-- excuse my typing as I have a form of parkinsons disease

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Don K.

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#9 posted 1907 days ago

Great story, thanks for sharing. While my wife does not enjoy wood working or working on things like that, she whole heartedly supports me in my passion for wood working, after all the $1000+ new tools (She calls toys) that I just could not live without and dragged home to my shop, she just shakes her head and rolls her eye’s. But when I spend a little “To much” I usually buy my way out of the dog house with a new something to make up for it, lol. For my last high priced toy, I built her a new king size poster bed. After 20+ years….. I still love her more than anything !!!

-- Don S.E. OK

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Handymom

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#10 posted 1897 days ago

I have to say I am very impressed and touched by your post and the replies. I have only been on LJs for a short time but in reading the posts believe that it is a group of extremely friendly, supportive and caring individuals. And that there are REAL men left in this world.

-- Karen W., KS.

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