My Big Brother #1: In memory of my Big Brother

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Blog entry by JTRid43 posted 01-23-2008 11:22 PM 1606 reads 0 times favorited 17 comments Add to Favorites Watch
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Its been a long time sense I have been on. Not because of anything anyone here has done. You see, I lost my brother not long back. He had a huge heart attack that took him home to be with God. Its been really hard to deal with as everything I have ever learned about wood working and fixing cars and stuff I learned from Kevin. He taught me the basics of all this stuff. Every time I pick up a tool, my thoughts go to him.

Kevin always said that day he died he wanted to be buried in a pine box so thats what we did. Brian, my other brother, got him a plain Pine box. No frills or thrills. Simple and plain just as Kevin asked. We buried him under and old oak tree out in California. We laid him in the vault, put the cap stone on and Dad, Brian, Kevin’s two sons and I picked up shovels and laid my brother to rest at 48 years of age.

Kevin was the oldest of us three boys. He was a good brother, loving father and a great friend. I miss him so much that it hurts but Kevin would never have wanted us mourn his loss. He said that this life was only a stopping point and home is really heaven.

I got to sing for him one last time at his funeral. It was a song my a group called Mercy Me and the title of the song is called “Homesick”. It speaks of those of us who have lost some one very dear and close. And for those who have a relationship with Jesus Christ there are no goodbyes. The hurt and pain we feel is due to the loss of the loved one because we can no longer share times together. Bereavement comes from the root word reave which means to take away by force. It is sometimes sudden like it was for us. We hurt and grieve the loss but for those in Christ there is hope that we will some day see our loved ones again. So I am doing just as Kevin would have wanted me to and as the song tells us. “Hold on to Jesus with all that I have” to see Kevin again. For now I grieve but I also live not just for Kevin’s sake but for God. To give God the glory in all things and living as Kevin would have wanted me to. Sharing the love and grace of Jesus Christ.

So I continue to work with wood and other materials as Kevin taught me and as God inspires me. I have a project that I will be starting on soon that will be in Kevin’s honor. I will share the work with all of you and maybe some stories of a great brother and practical joker.

In memory of My Big Brother,


-- In His Grip,

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#1 posted 01-23-2008 11:43 PM

Jeff, I feel for you. Your experience hits very close to home since my older brother (the oldest of five), a good man and father and my best friend died of a surprise heart attack a little over 5 years ago at the age of 48. He was the healthy one of us and his passing was a shock to one and all. To this day I miss him terribly and I can feel your pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers, and know that even though he’s not here, the experiences and memories of him will keep you close.

-- Working at Woodworking

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#2 posted 01-23-2008 11:45 PM

My deepest condolences Jeff. I know what it feels like to loose someone close to you. It hurts deeply and for a long time. Like you said, keep your faith in God and he will see you through it all. My heart goes out to you along with my prayers. Knowing you have many friends here that will share your grief will help I am sure. God be with you. Yours in Christ, mike wurm

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

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#3 posted 01-23-2008 11:54 PM

My heart aches for your loss. I look forward to seeing what you have to share. If you need any guidance with your project you are among friends that will help.

-- Todd A. Clippinger, Montana,

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#4 posted 01-23-2008 11:56 PM

My heart goes out for you. May the comfort of Jesus’s peace be with you and your family.

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#5 posted 01-23-2008 11:59 PM

Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

-- Measure with a micrometer, mark with a crayon, cut it with a chainsaw.

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#6 posted 01-24-2008 12:04 AM

I feel for your grief at this time of loss. Your knowing, that your brother lives on in heaven, is a big portion of the getting over and dealing with the grieving process. You will always remember times you have had together. If you go back and read your own post. I think that you will get the same impression as I do. Your brother not only lives with God, He lives with you. In the values that he instilled in you, the way he has helped teach you automotive, woodworking, and just things in general. He has been and still is a big influence in your life. Carry on with life, with Kevin, looking over your shoulder helping to guide you. It’s not easy, but the pain will ease, With God’s help.
God bless you and your family.

-- Gene, a Christian in Virginia

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#7 posted 01-24-2008 12:12 AM

my deepest sympathies to you and your family.

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (

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#8 posted 01-24-2008 12:35 AM

Jeff, I understand you pain. I hold onto the truth “absent from the body, present with the Lord.” I pray the pain you and your family is short and is replaced with the joyfull memories of times well spent with him. May the Peace of the Lord be with you and your family.

-- Greg - Charles Town, WV

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#9 posted 01-24-2008 12:47 AM

God is Good!
Sometimes we don’t understand the way he works, but as you know, we don’t see as He sees…we see the outward appearance of man, the Lord sees the heart. Someday we will see and be made whole when we stand before a loving God and experience the joy that Kevin is experiencing right now. Until then, we are to keep chugging along in the shell. God Bless you and God be with you and your family in this time of loss. Christ’s promise to the man on the cross next to Him was, (Lk23:43) “I tell you the truth, today, you will be with me in paradise”. That always makes me confident that it won’t be long. Take care.

-- Allegheny Woodshop

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#10 posted 01-24-2008 01:41 AM

My family is a bit unusual. My uncle and I were closer in age than he and my mother, his sister. As a result, we sort of grew up like brothers. He died 6 years ago at the age of 39. You and your family have my most heartfelt sympathy for your loss. Luckily, you know where he is, and you will be reunited with him in due course.

-- "Give me your poor tools, your tired steel, your huddled masses of rust." Yep, I ripped off the Statue of Liberty. That's how I roll!

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F Dudak

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#11 posted 01-24-2008 02:24 AM

Jeff, your brother Kevin has obviously left his mark. Feel blessed that you were able to have such a wonderful brother and friend. He has passed and gone to a better place and in this you should find some peace. His memory will live on in you and your family members so be sure to share, he sounds as if he was a great guy.

I am sorry for your loss and will pray for you and your family in this difficult time.

-- Fred.... Poconos, PA ---- Chairwright in the making ----

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#12 posted 01-24-2008 03:14 PM

He sounds like a great brother, now get in the wood shop and make him proud.

As for god..I wish I had your faith.. I have learned to much science and it makes it hard but I try to remember/believe what my mom and her mom have taught me.

-- "so much to learn and so little time"..

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#13 posted 01-24-2008 05:28 PM

Jeff: My prayers are with you and your family over your loss. But he lives, not in body in this world, but, in the lives of others. his memory will always be present. And he lives with the Lord, the great comforter.

I pray that your family will be glad in the fond memories that his life provided onto each and everyone of you.

God bless.

-- I've been blessed with a father who liked to tinker in wood, and a wife who lets me tinker in wood. Southern Delaware soon moving to Virginia †

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Douglas Bordner

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#14 posted 01-24-2008 06:06 PM

I am saddened by your untimely loss. It sounds like Kevin had a sound perspective on this world and the next. At times, though, it doesn’t make it easier on those that are left behind. I am glad you reached out here to share your feelings.

-- "Bordnerizing" perfectly good lumber for over a decade.

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#15 posted 01-24-2008 07:08 PM

Jeff I really do feel for you.
It takes a long time, but the pain eases eventually.
Meanwhile get back to the tools and remember your brother as you work.
I’ve no doubt that the project in Kevin’s honour will be something to see.

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