Dear Sweetie

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Blog entry by HighRockWoodworking posted 04-19-2010 04:54 PM 1621 reads 0 times favorited 14 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Saturday I came in from the shop and went upstairs to see what my wife was doing. She asked if the floor had dried downstairs as she had just mopped. When I went back down I realized that I had tracked sawdust all over her freshly mopped floor. This made me start thinking about what a woodworkers spouse has to go through on a daily basis and decided to write this letter as a spoof. Hope you enjoy.

Dear sweetie,
I just wanted to write you this letter to tell you that I love you unconditionally and I hope you feel the same way. I thought that it might be time to write and tell you that I am sorry for the way things have been going lately. Yes, you have swept and dusted the house twice a day trying to keep the saw dust out but you know I would help if only I didn’t have so much work to do out in the shop/garage. And I promise to wash your car next weekend but I am sure it would stay much cleaner if you would simply park outside in the driveway. But I promise I am going to get the dust under control soon as I only need one more part for the dust collector. I know I said that last time but I know it will work right this time.
As for waking up the baby last night, well I am not blaming you but maybe putting her room right over the shop/garage was not your best idea. I am pretty sure if you could have used our master bedroom as the nursery, she would not have heard the planer running and really it was only a little after 10pm. If you are still intent on leaving her room where it is maybe we could get her used to sleeping with a TV on in her room, I am sure that would help get her used to the noise.
I am really sorry about your sister’s wedding but I had to start the finish on the project before we left. I know you were embarrassed but who would have known you need to wear gloves when wiping on that mahogany dye? Luckily it only covered my hands and I only touched my face once.
The great news is that after only 2 months of work I am almost finished. We have all made sacrifices but trust me when you see this project with its intricate dove tails, inlays, and perfect finish you will understand and know that it was worth it. I know I have kept what the project is a secret until now but I will go ahead and tell you to start looking around the house for some of your favorite trinkets, just make sure they will fit in something let say the size of a shoe box, but I know you will love it.
Always considerately yours,

-- Chris Adkins,

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#1 posted 04-19-2010 05:27 PM

I don’t know if that’s gonna do it bub. You might try grabbing the broom and mop yourself once in a while. You would be surprised what something like doing that would do, or doing the dishes. I know you are busy doing man”s work but believe me, the way to a woman’s heart is to help her once in a while. If you already do that, than she ain’t got a gripe. It’s a new day buddy. After 38 years of marriage I guess I can say I know a thing or two. Please don’t take offense.

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

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#2 posted 04-19-2010 05:32 PM

Very sweet. Now how about a photo of this wonderful project!

Being that I’m the one making most of the sawdust these days, I have to admit that house keeping upstairs has suffered due to more important and rewarding projects downstairs in the basement wood workshop. Life is too short to worry about a spotless house. I need to use those energies to create! Not to mention a home cooked meal is made to nourish us (with homegrown greens), not a frozen, micro waved thing from a box.

-- "They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night." ~ Edgar Allan Poe

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#3 posted 04-19-2010 05:35 PM

Joe it was meant as a joke. My wife and I both do our share around the house but it does seem that we have a hard time keeping the sawdust out of the house and I always tease her about letting me “expand” my shop to her side of the garage too. I must say she is very good about letting me take over her side with I am putting the finishes on a project for a few days.

-- Chris Adkins,

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#4 posted 04-19-2010 05:39 PM

mmh the project that I am really working on right now is a drafting desk. I have posted a few post on updates. I just applied the dye yesterday and will probably apply the stain this evening if I can get home in time. I will most likely post this weekend with pictures of the completed project.

-- Chris Adkins,

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#5 posted 04-19-2010 05:47 PM

Good for you, you’re in for a long happy marriage. Meilie’s right too, life’s too short to worry about the small stuff.

-- (You just have to please the man in the Mirror) Mike from Michigan -

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#6 posted 04-19-2010 06:27 PM

hahaha, good one….lots of truths there.

Spouses have to put up with a lot when it comes to hobbies. Mine has to deal with TWO very important (to me) and expensive hobbies. I think I once wrote her a similar letter for my other hobby…lol.

-- Optimists are usually disappointed. Pessimists are either right or pleasantly surprised. I tend to be a disappointed pessimist.

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#7 posted 04-19-2010 06:55 PM

I thought you were going to say the project was a new toolbox!

-- "The unexpected, when it happens, generally happens when you least expect it."

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#8 posted 04-19-2010 07:09 PM

That would have been funny Bob. I used a box as an example because we can often get obsessed with working on a project that although intricate and beautiful may not always be planned with a specific purpose in mind. I often find that I will spend hours just working on a technique with no end result planned other than the execution of the technique.

-- Chris Adkins,

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#9 posted 04-19-2010 07:24 PM

I’m going to show my wife this post later. it really hits home that my efforts to “help” the two of us often cause her more effort than me. She is very understanding though.

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#10 posted 04-19-2010 07:45 PM

Thats awesome! Im going to have to write my wife a letter like this!
Pure genuis!!!!!!

-- dumpster diver delux

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#11 posted 04-19-2010 08:30 PM

Yeah that wouldn’t fly with my wife lol. We have always been equals and help do everything together. If I tried to use this letter(yes I know its a joke) I think I’d be sleeping in the garage for a while.

I keep sawdust in the shop and out of the house (mainly) by having a seperate pair of shoes that sits right outside of the shop in my laundry room used only in the garage. I also have a seperate zip-up sweatshirt for use in the garage that I can then take off and shake out before I go inside. I consider it my clean room, before coming into here I shake off all the saw dust that has accumulated on my pants/shoes/shirt/hair, switch shoes, and then continue in the house or out to the garage. So far its done a great job of keeping the dust in the garage.

-- - Eric Noblesville, IN

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#12 posted 04-20-2010 12:01 AM

Thanks for all the comments. It was fun to write and I think it is important to keep a sence of humor in the things we do. I just read it to my wife and she has been cracking up!

Please stop by my blog and sign up to follow, I try to post every few days or so. I have also started a podcast and it is a work in progress but hope to get all of the kinks worked out soon.

-- Chris Adkins,

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#13 posted 04-20-2010 04:27 AM

Showed this to my wife, the part about just needing one more part brought tears to her eyes :)

-- The difference between being defeated and admitting defeat is what makes all the difference in the world - Upton Sinclair, "The Jungle"

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#14 posted 04-21-2010 12:47 PM

that’s good.

I did a big chuckle, though, at the “that’s sweet—but where’s the project pix” haha .. priorities of the viewers! :)

-- ~ Debbie, Canada (, Young Living Wellness )

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