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an open appology to Diane

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Blog entry by BigTiny posted 09-18-2010 06:00 PM 1337 reads 0 times favorited 12 comments Add to Favorites Watch

Our fellow LJ Diane is auctioning rid off some lovely carving books on another web site, one that I admit I don’t understand, and had a link to it here. I made a serious mistake and thought we had agreed on my getting the books. The misunderstanding was entirely mine. I can only blame the fact that my insomnia ha been quite bad lately and I hadn’t slept in almost three days.

Diane, I in no way intended to upset you, and would rather close my shop than be a disturbance to anyone here where I have learned so much from so many generous people.

I wish you the very best of luck with your book auction and heartily apologize for the misunderstanding. I guess my desire for those wonderful books took over my better judgment. I must learn to stop posting when I haven’t slept.

Have a wonderful day, and please accept this apology in the spirit in which it is intended.

To my other brothers and sisters here, I am sorry to have taken your time in posting this in public, but Diane blocked me and I felt an apology had to be made. I was taught to take responsibility for my mistakes and to say I was sorry when it was appropriate. I have done so in the only way that was open to me.

Case closed. Let’s all go make some sawdust.

Paul

-- The nicer the nice, the higher the price!



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Jordan

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#1 posted 09-18-2010 06:13 PM

That was kind of you, big Tiny. You don’t seem like the type of person to deliberately offend someone. I hope you two work things out.

-- http://www.jordanstraker.com

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Rustic

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#2 posted 09-18-2010 06:24 PM

Unfortunate that it happened. But once you are blocked she won’t see this and the block is permanent

-- www.carvingandturningsbyrick.com, Rick Kruse, Grand Rapids, MI

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Dennis Fletcher

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#3 posted 09-18-2010 06:34 PM

Rustic, the blocks are not permanent. You can un block someone.

-- http://www.ahomespecialist.net, Making design and application one. †

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Abbott

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#4 posted 09-18-2010 06:38 PM

..and she can still read the thread…

Well done Tiny.

-- Ohh mann...pancakes and boobies...I'll bet that's what Heaven is like! ♣ ♣ ♣ ♣

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mafe

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#5 posted 09-18-2010 07:44 PM

It’s never too late to say sorry.
And you tiny, next time count to ten, and do not write if you are tired. I personally have a rule, that I never write back the same day if something upset me, then I wait untill it has setteled inside.
I have not read the problem, so I will not judge, any thing.
Best thoughts,
Mads

-- MAD F, the fanatical rhykenologist and vintage architect. Democraticwoodworking.

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Rick Dennington

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#6 posted 09-18-2010 08:42 PM

Greetings Tiny,

Sometimes that the hardest thing to do is say I’m sorry…..It takes a real man (or woman) to admit they are wrong… Most men are too “macho”, or stubborn, and won’t give in…..It takes a better man to admit it.

And you are the better man for it…..I too, don’t know the situation, but I think you’ve did your part…Nice…

-- At my age, an "all--nighter" is not having to get up and pee...!!!

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Rustic

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#7 posted 09-18-2010 09:30 PM

i did not know that

-- www.carvingandturningsbyrick.com, Rick Kruse, Grand Rapids, MI

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BigTiny

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#8 posted 09-18-2010 10:27 PM

Hi all.

To clarify things a bit, I didn’t “flame” the lady or anything like that. It was strictly a misunderstanding over the books. I thought she had agreed to sell them to me (wishful thinking perhaps?) when she hadn’t, and when I attempted to ascertain the shipping costs to up here in Canada, she took offense at my assumption, e-mailed me that she had not agreed, and blocked me.

Neither of us ever used any derogatory language to the other. It was a simple misunderstanding on my part due to my unfamiliarity with how the site she listed the books on worked.

I hope she unblocks me so I can send her a personal apology. but if she chooses not to do so, that is her prerogative. I hold her no ill will either way.

I really would have liked to have those carving books, but no book is worth causing a disturbance in such a wonderful community as we have here.

I thank you all for the well wishes, but they are undeserved. I simply did what my dad raised me to do, apologized to a lady for disturbing her. Nothing more.

I am embarrassed that this happened, and will be more careful in how I word my replies here and much more careful not to read things into an e-mail that aren’t really there, no matter how much I wish they were.

I think I’ll go try to get some sleep. Insomnia sucks.

Paul

-- The nicer the nice, the higher the price!

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GMman

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#9 posted 09-18-2010 11:23 PM

Tiny you’re a fine member here and I don’t see you blocked for ever I think Diane will change he mind, I can’t see that as a reason to block you.

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Gregn

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#10 posted 09-19-2010 01:15 AM

This was one of the problems I saw with the block button when it was first discussed here at LJ’s. It can lead to no chance to a resolution over a misunderstanding or conflict of an issue. That isn’t to say that there isn’t a need for it, but that it doesn’t give the offender a chance to make amends. I commend you for stepping up as a man and making a public apology to make amends for your misunderstanding. Hopefully others will give someone who offends them over a misunderstanding a chance to make amends for their misunderstanding or our misunderstanding before using the block button. I hope as you do, that Diane will see this and reconsider her decision and offer you the chance to make amends privately to resolve this in a friendly LJ manner.

-- I don't make mistakes, I have great learning lessons, Greg

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lanwater

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#11 posted 09-19-2010 07:45 AM

They should be no reason to block you for a simple misunderstanding.

I run across your posts all the time. I think they are very pleasant and friendly.

I think you should not loose sleep over it.

-- Abbas, Castro Valley, CA

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Howie

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#12 posted 10-07-2010 12:32 AM

Tiny: I can appreciate where you are coming from. I apparently got blocked when all I(and I might add,my wife)was guilty of was trying to help someone. In this case I don’t feel I have anything to appologize for. Like Lanwater says, I’m not going to lose any sleep over it.

-- Life is good.

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