Never Never Never woodwork in anger.

Sorry to hear your story. Really sorry that I have too hear it again and again. Maybe something would change if we decided it was at least as importian as the change to digital TV. We sure got our priorities screwed up.

-- http://www.woodsongsfurniture.com

Glad the damage wasn’t worse, for you and your friend. Hopefully she’ll come around before it’s too late. I learned that anger + woodworking = danger lesson early on. I have long forgotten what had me pissed at the time, but I’ll never forget the tablesaw throwing wood into my chest. Luckily I had on some layers in a cold basement, and the piece was small and light. Still scared the piss out of me, and left a colorful reminder for a while. We all have to remember to focus on what we’re doing when working with ANY tools.

-- I may not know a lot, but at least I know that I don't know.?.?. I think. http://chathampenworks.com/

Andraxia,

It’s good to know that your injuries were minor, it could have been a lot worse.

As for your friend, she will need you to be there and not judge her decisions. There are organizations that can offer her help but it appears she is not ready for this, yet. Educating yourself to be ready to offer her help/suggestions is about all you can do, at this point. Pray that she sees the hopelessness of her situation and makes the decision to be safe.

Lew

It’s not just an anger thing, you can’t or shouldn’t allow yourself to use the machines, when you have tons of things on your mind, or even just a few things that could distract you and take you away for that fleeting moment. A split second of distraction can cause any amount of damage.

-- Respect your shop tools and they will respect you - Ric

You are a brave lady. It is right to be angry that a friend is being beaten and will be again. Yea, stay away from power tools when you are upset, really tired or had just one glass of wine.

We’ll be praying for you and your friend!!

-- Sharp tools and thin whispy shavings make woodworking a joy.

I think you should calmly go in your shop. And calmly pick out a really nice peice of hardwood. And then calmly turn the nicest baseball bat you can calmly make. Then calmly allow your friend to beat her husbands a$$ off of his back. Preferably while he’s asleep so he too can be calm.

The only thing worse than a wife beater is a child molester. And they should have a hole cut in their scrotum, then pull their leg up through the hole.

Sorry!!
Did I type all that out loud?

-- Measure three times, cut twice.

Very Sad!

I sure hope he doesn’t turn on you.

-- -** You are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream ****************** Dick, & Barb Cain, Hibbing, MN. http://www.woodcarvingillustrated.com/gallery/member.php?uid=3627&protype=1

He turns me on so far as to dominate him as a prime candidate for Dexter.

I never liked him, always felt an unease around him, now I know why.

-- The wood slayer - Yes dear I did plan to make more kindling out of that wood I have been drying for the last year - honest!

Letting anger build inside you is never good. It will kill you just as much as someone beating on you. Find a support group and start going to it. If only to deal with your own feelings about this. Maybe after a while you can convince your friend to go with you. The best teacher is by example. Turn it over to your higher power, you cannot do anything to change someone else, no matter how much they need changing. Your friend,

-- Mike. mwurm13@yahoo.com

Do not do just any types of work when in anger.
Release it by comming to this place for instance :

-- masrol, kuala lumpur, MY.

Andraxia, I am glad to hear that you weren’t hurt more seriously. As you are no doubt aware now we should only be using power tools when we are able to concentrate on what we are doing. I also want to applaud you for the support that you gave. Your friend obviously is in denial about the situation and until she better understands herself and why she chooses to remain in the abusive relationship, she is going to continue to need your love and support.

Thanks for sharing this personal story and please be safe.

-- With God's help all things are possible- even woodworking. Woodworking is not just a hobby, it is an (expletive deleted) expensive hobby.

The flying community uses the acronym “I’M SAFE”: Illness-Medication-Stress-Alchohol-Fatigue-Eating…

The same idea works well around power tools and sharp things, too!

I hope things improve for you and you’re friend. You’ll be in my thoughts.

-- - Please help keep Lumberjocks an enjoyable escape by refusing to participate in political discussions. Simply spit out the bait and ignore the thread...

Andraxia,

I have to agree with your lesson… anytime you are mad or not completely focused, woodworking is a bad choice. (maybe reading would be better… lol)

As far as your friend goes, remember that now the cat is out of the bag and her secret isn’t a “secret” anymore, she needs your undying support. Your support is probably all she has. If you judge her or her husband in anger, you may turn her away and back to the person that is doing the most damage to her. Lew is right, there are lots of services in your community that will be able to help and provide her (or even you) with resources. If you are confused where to begin, talk with your local victim witness coordinator in the courthouse or county building where you live. They can point you in the right direction. I’m sure Australia has different names and processes than in the US, but nonetheless, I’m sure the community would have services there.

-- As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17) †